Please get married like normal person do rather than chasing “its_against_societal_norms_so_must_be_exciting” artificial life. Apart from initial short term freedom, you will be left with lonely and hollow life. 
  
 This is ofcourse if  you dont want to get married and want to join marriage free club  or something.  
 But if i have misunderstood than I am sorry.

Software Engineer

Software Developer

33M and not married, yet. I think I’ll take 2-3 years before settling in. Right now I’m working from office Mon - Fri, and on the weekends I’m going for Spanish classes. I’m planning on taking WFH and travelling Spanish speaking countries next year.  
  
 Usually I meet up friends. I’ll start looking for a casual relationship after few weeks because right now I’m caught up with lot of things. emotionally I’m doing just fine. Thanks to workouts, Yogas and peace of mind. 
  
 Marriage is not on the cards for me, at least anytime soon.

I wanted to explore if there are any groups or communities for people who aren’t married and are in their late 20s or 30s to talk and share how has been without marriage!

Are there any groups for 30yr people who aren’t married?

Product Manager

Are there any groups for 30yr people who aren’t married?- Grapevine

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Dual Income and No Kids sounds very attractive but advice from people in their late 20s and 30s is probably too biased to be considered sound advice.

Wanted to understand how couples who took that decision in their 30s feel today.

Do you regret it?
Do you feel purposeless?
Do you feel lonely?
Do you feel the FOMO?

And so on.

Any DINK couples in their 40s? How do you really feel?

I am a 37 year old female and my husband is 40. We were unable to have kids through normal ways and chose to not go for continued IVf after the first one didn’t work. We found IVF to be too draining emotionally, physically and also financially to a certain extent (although that was not a major extent) . We were also ready to take that decision to be a DINK because we felt that we loved each other and found our life fulfilling with each other, family and work. Having a child would have been great but I personally agonised over this decision for many years in my early 30s because we have been told that if you don’t have kids ‘you will regret it later when it’s too late 😅😅’ happy to report years later that we don’t regret not having kids at all - and we don’t think we will feel differently many years later too.

Program Manager

Growth Manager

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Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

This is a very interesting topic. I wonder what the impact will be on so many things. 
- People get married later, have kids much much later 
- Effectively you're getting fewer of your "fitter" years with your kid (although lifetime is elongated too) 
- We've added at least 5 years of working as a single guy/gal to our lifetimes. 

Question to the broader community: I don't see most people between 25 to 30 being super happy. Most people actually seem misguided (me/my friends - in some ways). Is this pattern actually harmful for us?

Analyst

I did not grow up in a lot of money. I ordered looking at the prices on the menu. This feeling has stayed with me and has fueled me to thrive, push harder, work long hours and get to my goals.

I'm 5 years into my career, and last year I had a feeling of "making it". I had enough to not look at the menu, or even the place I'd be going to. This feeling is really really satisfying and I took some time to sit with it, enjoy and bask in this glory (humbly).

But I also feel my drive to hustle and do better has gone down. For instance, I'm okay pushing work to tomorrow, I'm not as keen to pickup work.

I feel some of graveviners could relate to 'making enough' story. Have you also feel a lack of hustle to keep you going? What do you think is the reason?

For experienced folks, I'm really keen to know how to get past this slump.

Do you feel lesser need to hustle after making a decent amount of money?

I felt this once I sold my startup. Through my other investments I have enough to not work and make whatever I spend passively. Got my own house, private office and a decent car. Family pressuring to get married. I felt a void though as I was like for what should I work?  
  
 And then I saw one random youtube video of a guy, I think he was some famous personality but I don't know him. He said he works to be "useful" , not to earn money.  
  
 That changed my perspective a lot. I thought why does Mukesh Ambani work? He has to be useful to take millions of people ahead in life. He can retire tomorrow and not have to worry about money for his 7 generations.  
  
 I started thinking about ways I can contribute and that led me to forming 3 new companies. I now have a "purpose". Feels nice to get up and have some aim. And its good that its not money.

Marketing Manager

The post seems to be from a Doctor and the first half sounds more like you're wasting your life if you're not having sex or kids. Like there's no purpose in life if you aren't getting this.

(And that's how India made 130+ crore earthlings!)

33M here and these points sounded fascinating when I was 25-26, but not anymore. Except for the EMI part everything else looks like a blessing instead of being in a bad marriage. If you're in your late 30s and unmarried, how has it been for you?

What does future and "purpose" mean to you at this point of life?

Any 35+ M here and who is going through this?

I’m 30 YO.
My CCTC is 15 LPA
I have my own home in a TI city. Hence I don’t have to pay any rent.
I current SIP amount is 30,000 per month 
I started investing in 2021 and have been increasing my investment amount by 10% every year.
I will be getting married sometime this year end.
My fiancé and I might have a child in the next 4-5 years.
In addition to SIP, I invest in PPF.
Have invested for 3 years and will continue to do so for the next 15+ years.
My current net worth- including stocks, FDs. MF is around 30 Lakhs.
I don’t aspire to buy a new car or a new bike.
I will be buying an electric scooter to my fiancé after marriage.
Am I on the right track?
My monthly expenses is around 20-30k.
10k goes away for going out.
5-8k for hairfall and skin treatment
Rest of the amount includes health insurance, life insurance, car insurance, bike insurance, bike maintenance etc.

I have an emergency fund of around 6 lakhs as FD.

Am I on the right track.
I want to work till the age of 60.
I know it sounds stupid in this day and age but this is what I want to do.
I feel lost in this matter.

I’ll be making a switch soon- dunno when but soon.
Will increase my SIP investment after I make a switch

Am I on the right track?

Product Designer

This question is for folks who have married early or have friends who have gotten married in their early 20s. What are your thoughts on this front?

Thoughts on marrying early, at say 25

I’m 25, and lately all of my long term plans (travel, masters, moving cities) seem to revolve around the plan that I’d want to be married when I turn 30. I know that might be later than most people but I have this constant feeling that once I have a family with a child, my life would be different and that makes me want to do everything before I turn 30.

I don’t know if I’m being fair to myself.

Fellow women, do you feel like you have to accomplish xyz before marriage comes into the picture? How did you get over the self created pressure?

I am 29. My family wants me to get married. I want a partner but not big on getting married or having kids. Fed up of matrimonial sites as i cannot trust strangers easily and prefer love marriage over arrange marriage. Idk what do I do!!!!!

29 and single

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. 
Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. 
I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. 
Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. 
Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. 

Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

Loneliness - Nothing brings joy anymore

Get checked for Vitamin D & B12 levels also ADHD

Product Owner

Help your brothers

I'm in late 20's now. 
  
 To my bro's in their early 20's: 
  
 "Please priorities your fitness. Aim to establish a routine and get into a shape you yourself are comfortable with and proud of."

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Security Analyst

I have a lot of single friends - some girls and guys. Been thinking about throwing a party to get people to meet. Any ideas to make it interesting? Also, how to ensure the folks that get invited are somewhat relevant / relatable to the others - e.g. would inviting 22 year olds and 38 year olds in the same party be a bad idea? if you are one of the invitees what would you expect and would you be willing to split the bill of the party?

Single folks: what are some good ideas to enable single people to meet?

Welcome to Moving Abroad's Private Community

I don't think I have a future in India. In about 2 years, proposals for marriage will start coming for me and family members will start harassing me for it. Also, would like to find a partner (which is quite impossible here). I am a product designer and want to move out of this country as soon as the job market is stable.

How can I move to US/Western Europe apart from doing masters as a product designer? Do companies hire product designers from other countries? Or is it more easy as engineer?

Please don't troll here, I am already depressed all the time and can't handle it more

YoE-4
TC- 16LPA

Gay and want to move abroad as a product designer. How can I do it?

Hello! 

I am 26y old currently living in Bengaluru, working in startups, fair compensation. I am looking to find a partner for the intention of marrying in around or less than 2 years of time. 
Have used Bumble and Hinge a lot, went to like 30+ dates in past 2 years, dated few girls but nothing serious came out of it - I think it’s the platform’s problem (anyways, there can be a separate debate for this)

There are old platforms like Shaadi.com, jeevansathi and new platform like betterhalf. I am not very sure on how to go about it? 

Can anyone guide me on this???

Where to find a partner for marriage?

Most of us on Grapevine, working in corporate sector might make decent chunk of money if we keep grinding for a decade or two but very few of us would have the social capital (or as they say “networking” in our corporate jargon).
Increasingly realising that the society respects the business owners or govt officers more than any senior leader in an IT firm. There is no social recognition for corporate folks. It might not be relevant for young folks as they still have some residual social recognition of the family for now, but what would happen after a decade or two. Most of the corporate “friends” are no longer in touch except for very rare ones. How does one build a social circle after 10-20 yrs in corporate? Would like to hear from folks above 40 yrs if they’ve had similar thoughts and how are they managing?
Also, What are some ways one can start building social circle overtime while doing a corporate job?

PS: I am referring social capital as having a certain level of stature in society alongwith deep connections with some people living around you who can help you in need or can expect something from you. This is different from LinkedIn networking where primary expectation is referrals.

Service Class has no social capital

My father is an officer in a PSU. Not sure what "respect" you are talking about because from what I've seen, PSU workers have a social capital only in their colony/settlement. Apart from that it doesn't really matter for outsiders.  
 Business owners are respected only if he/she is really really successful. Otherwise how often we see someone respecting a normal shop owner?? 
  
 To build your own social capital, participate in tech talks/workshops. Spend time mentoring folks. Participate in society functions/apartments as others have mentioned.

At what age you guys are thinking for marriage, I'm 27, relative says I passed the age😂

If you wanna go for arrange marriage, get married now, or atleast start looking. It's disgusting but the arranged marriage scene works like a market, and the value tends to drop the closer you're to 30. Options decrease as age goes up. 
  
 If you wanna go for love marriage, find someone you love and chill.

Data engineer

Seeking advice from married individuals who have/ want children

I’m 26 right now. Should I start looking for partners now or wait till around 30 once I’m financially stronger. Currently 22lpa - Mumbai

Marriage age for men

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

After a few failed relationships, I had an arranged marriage (at that time, it was just to fulfill what my parents wanted). She was a very conventional girl,, never had any relationship before. I was scared going into the marriage too. 
  
 5 years later, she is the best thing that has happened to me. She helped me explore things I never would have. She gave my life a different perspective. 
  
 I'm not saying just because it happened to me, it could happen to you too. I'm saying unless you take the leap you'll never know what you're missing out on.

Are there any groups for 30yr people who aren’t married?

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