The only thing that increased during my tenure at EY is the number of doctors I visited. 
 Don't join EY!!!!

That’s sad. Hope you are doing well now.

Investment banking associate

External Audit

After going through this, I made up my mind not to join Big4 companies in my whole career

Yes. The thing is if it’s harming our health we shd just leave instead of tolerating the shit bcoz it’s a reputed firm to work with & then ending one’s life.  
 It’s extremely hard for any parent to see their child taking up their life. I feel sad for her family.

Human resources

Product Manager

Welcome to Company Reviews's Private Community

Heartbreaking incident .. Please take care of your health & wellbeing folks.

Heartbreaking incident .. Please take care of your health & wellbeing folks.- Grapevine

Posted this in Deloitte private group, sharing for everyone to see the reality of Deloitte:

Last year, I worked the hardest I had every worked. I had the most toxic environement with my client and my team. I still stayed extremely quiet and silent, continued to work through some of the darkest days in my life. I thought of offing myself atleast 2 times in the last year.

I was given a 16% hike which was the highest in my entire team. I was not happy. The reason was that my mom was extremely sick last year. I sent my sisters money to take care of her but she had severe upper respiratory distress that had made it's way to her lungs.

I could only meet her last Diwali. I was completely torn when she left us forever last February. I had to man up and act in accordance with what society expects from me. I did not cry at all, I finished her rites and came back to Gurgaon.

My girlfriend has been a solid support to me. She has been my rock through all of this pain. But my only regret is that I didn't see my mom more often. I have gotten my hike for the hard work.

Was my mom really worth 16% hike?

FUCK YOU DELOITTE. I AM LEAVING SOON.

Got my hike but lost my mom forever...

Project manager

I’m 25F and I’ve been living on my own since I was 21. This is the highest fever - 103 that I have contracted in adulthood and I am just not able to take care of myself.
I have a ginger cat and tending to him is also a responsibility.
Something in me isn’t hopeless, but you do miss having mom or your guy around. And you can’t call them.

Bukhaar while living alone

Content Strategist

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I want to share my experience as a fresher at Accenture, my first company from a college placement. The first six months were fine, but then I faced severe mental harassment from my supervisor and manager. She constantly criticized my work and gave negative feedback, causing me immense stress. I often skipped meals and worked weekends to improve, but nothing helped.

Despite reporting the issue and requesting a supervisor change or a different track, my requests were ignored. The harassment worsened, affecting my physical health, and I couldn't eat or sleep properly. My manager controlled trivial aspects like where to sit and whom to talk to, making the situation unbearable. I was even forced to switch from a developer role to a tester, despite being trained as a developer.

The final straw was being placed on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) without a clear reason, with the same harassing individuals assessing me. I only had 1.9 years of experience then. I reported the mental harassment to HR and resigned due to deteriorating health, panic attacks, and weight loss. Despite having no other job offer, I couldn't continue. Even during my notice period, I was forced to complete PIP assignments, which led to suicidal thoughts and further health issues.

Now, I am jobless, feeling helpless and frustrated. With less than 2 of experience, I struggle to find offers in a down IT market and don't know what to do next.

My Experience as Fresher with Workplace Harassment and Forced Resignation at Accenture

Software Developer

Depression is one of the worst health condition to happen to any individual. My heart goes out to the people going through it. We can never imagine what the depressed person might be going through. The least we can do is empathise and help in whichever way we can without any judgement in the first place. 

In a world where you can be anything, be kind. ❤️

This is so heartbreaking! 💔

Software Engineer

https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2023/05/05/google-senior-software-engineer-31-jumps-to-death-from-nyc-headquarters/amp/

Take care of your mental health folks

This is concerning. Take care

Program Manager

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Very sad to see this. And scary given how fit he seems.

Nithin Kamath got a stroke 6 weeks back 😳

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I am working as SDE 1 in a good Indian startup. It's getting toxic day by day. Late night workings like 3AM and working on weekends is normalised like anything. Since I am new to IT ( no sort of politics never) and have almost 2.5 Years of experience, I am facing issues in getting credits. Last appraisal cycle in January, I was nominated for promotion but wasn't given to me, reason: you have not worked with architect and he was making decisions. In that case, architect should have been distributed tasks to us. 

one SDE3 is leading one of the projects ( not a big one ) and manager/architect is not much interested and never join any standup or retro, I have contributed immensely to that. Now since it is completely driven by sde 3 , he takes updates from us and show his work infront of seniors and director + announces like his work and seldom we get thank you in threads. Like if you did one function or wrote complete flow, for both thank you. Because of all these reasons, my work is not getting recognised. There is no one in team to help in this. 

Whenever a manager or Architect show cases some features or release, it's pretty evident that his team has done it but when a sde 3 does it, it is not the same. It conveys the message all or 90% work is done by him. 

I would like to take some suggestions from my seniors and fellow mates here. 

Hierarchy - sde 1-2-3-4-EM
I can't leave or switch right now due to some critical persona reasons.

Need help !! Toxicity at workplace

Hello everyone 

Recently, I have been feeling exhausted and work pressure. Unable to do things which was easy for me. I'm planning to resign and take a break from work for 3 months, work on my health and do some self study. Is this sensible to do ? How difficult it will be to find new job in current market ?

Anyone done such thing, please do share your experience.

Sensible to take 3 months break from work.

DevOps Engineer

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I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? 

I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get.
To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. 
I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished.
I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.

Can anyone explain me what’s the point

Backend engineer

Please learn to recognise stroke and heart attack symptoms if you don't know already. They are similar to acidity and indigestion. I learnt the hard way today despite having read so much about it.

It doesn't always happen like one expects, where patient clutches their heart or starts fainting, it doesn't look very different from common conditions like viral fever. Uneasiness in chest is a huge red flag no one should ignore.

I was trying to treat symptoms because he had fever and a few other problems as well since before. Didn't even occur to me that it could be so much worse because I've never seen someone have a heart attack before. He was still walking around and functioning alright, albeit slower and with pain. 

Thankfully we managed to get to a hospital in time, but we should have gone sooner. The more one delays, the more difficult recovery becomes.

I suspect the new covid strain is doing this, seeing a lot of other heart attack patients in the hospital. Please watch out for people with co-morbidities like diabetes, bp problems, cholesterol etc.

I hope he pulls through this. Completely shaken today.

Dad had a heart attack and I couldn't figure it out

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C1wwtuyIQZf/?igsh=MXVsaDdveTduaWM2

Take care of yourselves

Should I take up a job offer in which every second month involves night shift (11 pm to 7 am)? And other shifts are from 7 am and 3 pm. Too much rotation actually PLUS weekend working too sometimes, weekly off on weekdays.

Night shift

Consultant

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him.

She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her.

Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. 

Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him.

But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day 

She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. 

Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad.

I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc.

or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

Data Scientists on Grapevine: Should I Ask For Sick Leave After Being Cheated On

Have come across these analogies twice in three days 

https://twitter.com/eemmanuels4/status/1738294727122837970?t=1cUGr0nXB1P7B8WyeevlNQ&s=19

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C1AOJXIOaqk/?igsh=NWoyMHZreGN0bHA2

Depression isn't sadness!

TW: Suicide please do not open these links if you are not feeling your best

India a Cancer Capital + increasing cases of Diabetes, High BP and Mental Health disorders

Had a regular yearly check up 2 weeks back and found that I'm diabetic. Both my parents are diabetic and I assumed I'll be as well at some point in my life as an inheritance from them but never thought this early. I did not tell this to anyone, not even my wife. Took me 2 weeks to get hold of myself and let the feeling sink in.
Started making changes to my life style since yesterday and started working out as well. Today is Day-2.

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