I've been this way at most all the offices I've been, more so the latest. Be open to joining them if need be, but re-orient yourself to staying alone otherwise. And you could make friends maybe with a different group...like say outside your project.

Software Developer

Truly honest people don't have many friends..........

Analyst

Why? I don't know. I honestly didn't care at the beginning, but having groups always helps, I guess.   All they want to do is sutta which I don't.  Either that or something I don't relate to at all.

Why? I don't know.
I honestly didn't care at the beginning, but having groups always helps, I guess. 

All they want to do is sutta which I don't. 
Either that or something I don't relate to at all.

I feel excluded by my coworkers.

Account manager

I feel excluded by my coworkers.- Grapevine

So I have couple of friends from college and I meet them during weekends.
Whenever I meet them they wanted to talk about how much they have given taxes, what their salaries is or how they worked this week.
I know that work gets too much and sometimes you need to vent somewhere, but everytime we meet this is becoming too much.
Sometimes I feel a bit out of place as they comparatively earn a lot than me.
I meet them to clear things out of my head and prepare for next week,but this constant comparison is getting too much for me.
I have asked them to talk about some other topic but sometimes after we come back to discuss the same things

How to deal with friends who only want to talk about salary whenever we meet.

Data engineer

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

So I have couple of friends from college and I meet them during weekends.
Whenever I meet them they wanted to talk about how much they have given taxes, what their salaries is or how they worked this week.
I know that work gets too much and sometimes you need to vent somewhere, but everytime we meet this is becoming too much.
Sometimes I feel a bit out of place as they comparatively earn a lot than me.
I meet them to clear things out of my head and prepare for next week,but this constant comparison is getting too much for me.
I have asked them to talk about some other topic but sometimes after we come back to discuss the same things.

How do you deal with friends who upon meeting always wants to talk about their packages and work.

They have no life
They have nowhere to go
They have no one to be with
They have no passions outside work either

And they make your life hell as they become the baseline for comparison for all sorts of management from appraisal to work distribution.

Feel free to disagree with me, but I’m genuinely pissed today. How do you deal with them? I have a decent life outside work but lose most of it while trying to catchup to such people so that I don’t get fired.

Sorry for the title.

How the F do I deal with overworkers?

Software Engineer

I know it’s a very common question, and impossible to know or answer.
But curious how you folks here rationalize the meaning of life.

Add your age if that’s okay, for good measure

For me: I’m 27, my life’s purpose (or so I think) is to build something that helps a whole lot of people have a better life. And it is to make the people around me - family, friends, strangers happier (the scale of which depends on how successfully I pull this off).

Whats yours? Would love to engage on this :)

Thread: What do you feel is your life’s purpose?

Corporate Strategist

I have no time for hobbies or anything considering I spend most of my time working. My only social outlet is my colleagues and I don't want to end up gossiping with them all the time. How do you guys (who are in a similar situation) manage?

What do you talk about with people at the office?

Brand marketing manager

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Talking to my team members gives me anxiety. 
My brain freezes and I can't work to my fullest. 
Just a random vent

Talking to my team members gives me anxiety

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Recently joined a new company and somehow I’m not able to vibe with people and work. I know it’s too early to say but still something is not matching up.
Any idea how to tackle this situation or should I start looking for a new job which might take 6 months to 1 year we never know.

New workplace not vibing

Operations Manager

I joined a new org a few months ago, from my observation folks who struggle at their job are the ones who form a group of similar people and indulge in gossip, they are always scheming and always on extra alert mode if anyone is listening to their conversation. All this seems to be childish while observing from a distance. I think if you are unhappy with your job you should prepare and switch. I'm curious if other people have had similar observations

Observation: People who are not good at their job are more likely to indulge in office politics

Frontend Engineer

I am pleb level data engineer with experience in analytics . Been around 4 years now been on below average level growth  of salary and knowledge  . Looking forward to big move  but not sure how to approach it.  Any advice you got? 

I feel like i can grasp thing better than my coworkers but that might be because i am in a pond nor a big sea. 
Any of you feel same?

Fellow super data engineer here.

My story -
So I switched to a startup last year. I was initially super excited in solving problems. Asking questions and just being curious about everything in general.
   Then, some incidents of my manager's behavior and team folks has turned me into a person who is so fucking afraid of now asking questions, doing tasks. My stakeholder communication sometimes I miss on, some things that seem to be pretty obvious had I been my competent self of previous organization, I am missing out on.
   I don't communicate well simply because I don't want to face my current manager and team. There's huge disconnect as well. I am not at all excited to work everyday. 
 
My friend was miserable in my previous org but now after switch he's damn happy and doing good!

I want to know if this is something that happens with you all? Or are you all like you fit in everywhere?
Or is it just My problem and my incompetence? Because I am always reminiscing my past org and my performance there was exceptional!

Has anyone ever faced a situation where you perform excellent in some org but not in another?

Consultant

This was the job I so badly wanted. It's WFH. The actual work hasn't begun. Training phase is going on. It's not even training. They've sent me some material to read and learn. That's it. I don't know any of my colleagues well. I just hear their voices on teams meet. I feel like quitting already.

Is it normal to feel like quitting your new job within a month?

Medical Expert

I know a lot of people love working from home. But small rant here. 
Honestly, straight out of college I thought I would do too. But no, I absolutely do not.

Why? 
1. No personality development. It's honestly like an online college all over again (1/2 of my college "life" was online). I talk to a screen, waste a lot of time otherwise. 

2. I don't have a room to call my own. I know this is going to make me sound like a privileged brat but I need my privacy to feel my full confident self. My family members are always on top of my head and spy on me during work. No they really do.

3. I hate, absolutely LOATHE approaching people on teams. I'm more social, confident and comfortable working in an offline setting be it presenting something or talking to senior folks in general. 

4. I have NO life outside of the computer/home. My hobbies, interests everything are inside the tiny room I share with my parents. I still have 2 different desks (which are literally next to each other) for work and personal stuff respectively. When I had offline semesters, it was really awesome as I had balance.

I graduated in 2023 and of course I have a lot to learn, but I'm seriously thinking about searching for another job that's not WFH. I'm still early career and I think I should not be working remote. Am I stupid?

I cannot work remotely.

Thinking of starting something new. Especially if you're WFH, or don't have lot's of folks to go to chai sutta break in office. 
Say anything that comes to mind, no holds barred.

Disclaimer: I don't endorse sutta.

Chai-Sutta-Thread: How's work? How's life? ☕️🚬

Product Manager

So after building my venture for over six years, in January,22 I decided to move on and in Sept,22 I joined an early stage startup led by ex-CXO of a small vertical of Indian IT giant. 

i joined as early employee to lead product, but over time I have been moved across multiple things without my consent, but I continued doing in and out across as pre-sales, customer success and blah blah. 
Over the last 1 and half year, the company just got few clients with around total revenue of 15 Lakhs annual. 

On the sides, I started building my venture as well and built a small team of 4 people, launcjed the product and is doing good in terms of revenue. With the limited time I am able to give after spending 10+ hours doing nothing at my job, at my startup we have  scaled well and are doong decent enough monthly revenue of around 6.5 Lakhs and are growing as well. 

Now, at the place where I work, few people including founder come and give me some gyaan but I don’t like it. Not because I don’t want to learns but because I feel these gyaans are one-sides and comes with limited view. 

IRL, I have executed better than what they are doing with a better capital efficiency and with very small team. I don’t like what they say. Am I getting arrigant or am I being selective to who do I want to learn from and what? 

I don’t want to turn arrogant and someone who miss staying grounded. In my venture I listen to my team, my people, my users and stay as much humble as possible, but when it come to my job place, I don’t like them. 

PS: I am not leaving the job because for the next 2-3 months, I don’t want to burden my company with my salary expense and also my marriage is scheduled so don’t want to eat my savings.

Am I getting arrogant or thinking right?

Founder

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you. 

I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with. 

My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more. 

The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me. 

My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls. 

Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck. 

I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.

I feel excluded by my coworkers.

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