Visual designer

Software Engineer

I wonder everyone feels like this nowadays, when we get rid of studies and get onto a job, loneliness and self realisation starts kicking in causing sinking feelings like this

Yeah man feel free to DM if you want to chat, happy to connect brother.

Software Developer

Investor Relations

Anyone else feeling lonely in today’s world? Shifted recently to a different city? Don’t have many friends? Let’s connect!!

Anyone else feeling lonely in today’s world?
Shifted recently to a different city?
Don’t have many friends?
Let’s connect!!

Loneliness?

Loneliness?- Grapevine

Hi folks, 

I wanted to know how you tackle this feeling of loneliness and being lost in the city. When you have no one to talk with and always being homesick.

Loneliness

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Have you felt that the conversations with your work buddies and away from office buddies are not that fulfilling? Like you might be passionate about so many stuffs but you just don’t have that passion in anyone around you and you end up being yourself, overtime becoming very lonely while still consuming content at high pace. 

Do you feel lonely? If yes how are you dealing it?

How do you deal with loneliness?

Growth Manager

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I have been an introvert all my childhood, pretty shy, with a very small group of friends, and I thought I was the only one who felt lonely sometimes. Since joining college, I realised there are so manyyyy people out there(especially in the dev community) who feel lonely a lot of times. 
I wanna build an app to connect devs. Relationships are what makes our lives fulfilling right. I have the whole idea ready in my mind, and I talked to a couple peeps about my app idea too and they loved it

I wanna cure loneliness

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Nowadays, it is difficult to maintain friendships (old friends) as many are pursuing dreams and for that one has to shift for other countries/state and the rest busy with there jobs and family business.

New friends are difficult to make where people already have there groups of bunch of friends where they don’t want anyone else to join (old friends groups) & also as the smaller groups are easy to manage and for execution of any plans. 

While growing up due to change in habits (smoking, drinking, etc) of our friends we did lose few.. and now they don’t call me up for any plans!

So, basically i am left alone with nobody by my side apart from cousins of same age (more or less)!

Most of the time, I spend my day working on my business.. or at times, working out or reading books..
But at times, i am left alone with my own thoughts and that feeling at times is exhausting and frustrating and sometimes this loneliness becomes toxic!

Can anyone help..
how can we make friends in midst of all this?

Friend vs Loneliness

Founder

I saw a friend tweet about how Bangalore is full of connected but lonely people jumping in to join every Meetup/WhatsApp group that becomes available. This is my problem with the meetup / conference culture. Meetup culture is all about optionality. You think you'll meet someone new who's cool. Someone who can help you build your network. 

You would rather join a meetup with 100 other strangers than build stronger connections with your friends. In life there are only a few people who really matter. 

People who you can call at 11 PM to rant about your workday. People who you know will be genuinely happy about your promotion. People you share screenshots from work with. It is not probably the 100 strangers in that Whatsapp group that you think of when you are having a health issue and want to share your fears. It also means lowering your ego, which I'm happy to do with my old friends. I'm always happy to ping them when I get the chance, and I'm the one asking them to call me. 

I'm the one who asks them to hang out with me. I used to think, "Why bother?" but then I realised that it doesn't matter who reaches out first. It is not about keeping a count. 

I realised it's for me! If I have a chat with a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years, my mood improves immediately. Everyone is very busy. Everyone is stressed with their jobs and their personal lives. Some of them are married now. Some have children. But that's where you've got to work to keep connecting with the people who matter to you. Friendship is also about being vulnerable. True friendship is built on vulnerability. 

Being able to share your dreams, your failures and your demons with each other. While the meetup culture is all about bumping into people for 5 minutes to judge their worth and whether they are worth your time, my preference is for long 1-1s. Either on the phone or face to face. I am happy to meet just one person over the weekend and have hours of conversation about work, life or wha

Connected by Lonely in Bangalore (viral online post)

Business Development Manager

I am someone who doesn't go out too much. What do you do and how do you guys spend your life in bangalore?

Am i the only one who feels lonely occasionally in Bangalore?

Hey guys I’ve never travelled solo in my entire life. Where and How should I start?

There are few questions I’ve like:
1. How to handle accommodations?
2. Concern about the safety and security.
3. How to decide which places to visit. I mean can’t roam around uselessly, must have a list of places to visit.
4. Whom to believe, in the sense that, a lot of people are ready scam you when they find you are new here, how to handle that.

If you travel solo very often, then suggest some pointers to keep in mind.
So, guide me here plzz.
Thanks 🫡

How do you plan solo travelling ?

Hi guys, I just graduated and started working. My office doesn't really have an in-office work culture, so I usually go to the office once in a while. The rest of the days I work from home.
I live at home, and I agree that staying with your family brings in a lot of comfort. But the place where I live is a small town. I don't have friends here, and my social life has become almost zero.
I feel like I have no one to talk to, my college friends on the other hand have moved to metro cities for their jobs, living with their friends. I see them enjoying every weekend which makes me feel bad as I don't have any friends here.
Even my college friends have stopped talking to me. At times, I feel very lonely and sad. I have also been seeing a therapist for a while now.
Could someone please help me with any advice/suggestions. I'm in dire need of advice/ perspective and have no one to talk to.

Feeling sad and lonely

Product Manager

I'm 24 yrs old girl. For the past few months, I have been struggling with anxiety and loneliness in Bangalore.

I have tried everything in my knowledge and reach. 

I tried reaching out to people in the office which is tough because mostly are from either Andhra or WB or Karnataka, which makes it tough to fit in as they have their own groups and communicate in their native languages as they connect more.

I tried bumble bff as well. But had no success girls are unresponsive and guys use it similar to date mode.

I tried reaching out to my existing friends who live far away too but it became tough to meet them.

I also tried to get relocated to some other city from my office, but my request got rejected.

I am not a very social person, but I do want to make friends and I'm trying too but it's just not happening for me, organically or otherwise.

Any suggestions or reaching out is appreciated

Struggling with loneliness

Acknowledge Your Feelings:
Accept that you are lonely or have a monotonous life and you need to make the change.

Don't hide behind "I'm an introvert", no you are just lazy and you are ok with living the shitty life, you just want spoon feeding, nothing else.
Be Open to New Experiences. It's all about initiatives, you have to take risks and put yourself in uncomfortable situations.

Do following at least once per week:
Have lunch/dinner/ outside your house.
Watch a movie in the theatre instead on your laptop.
Work from a cafe. Talk to a stranger.
Play a sport/game, you don't have to be good at it. Many people just play for fun.

Find events:Just google "events near me" or "events in bangalore" etc.
Give priority to physical in person experiences instead of digital ones.

Explore your surroundings, go for a walk in the morning or evening, take out time, talk to your neighbours.
Reach Out to Colleagues or Alumni, we all have active fiends, get in touch with them.

Take Classes or Workshops, even if you are not interested. 
Don't hesitate to spend money on experience, see money as investments, not expenses.  
Don't self reject: means don't think about what would happen and just at home, anyway you aren't doing anything.

People took initiatives to start groups & clubs, either start one for your area of interest, or join one.
Practice Self-Care and Stay in Touch with Loved Ones: you know what that means.

All this would impact your personal & professional life as well. You will stop blaming your job/manager/colleagues and accept that you were the problem, it's your choice to change your life.

If you don't do any of this and still cry about your life, hope you know that "nobody cares about your shitty life, nobody is going to come save you, you are on your own and survival of the fittest". If you don't put in the effort, you deserve whatever shitty place you are at.

It might not be as easy, but don't let yourself take advantage of you.

Framework: How to not feel lonely in a new city!

Senior software engineer

Looking to meet someone. I dont care about gender or where you are from. Any activity. I just dont wanna be stuck in my room entire weekend!

Weekend Loneliness

I was in a remote job from 2020, until last year where I was laid off in November. Then when I started searching for new companies my priority was to work on site, but again I got a remote job.
My problem is living in the house 24*7 make it dull after sometimes and you forgot the line between personal life and work life. All I did was waking up in the bed and then opening laptop and vice versa in the night. Plus you don't have social interaction. Now I have become an introvert living in my own room and it takes enormous energy to go out and meet people. Is remote job really worth it wasting my 20's sitting in the home ? 
How are you folks coping up with this thing?

Is remote job better than WFO

Frontend Engineer

It feels sometimes so alone in these big cities. How you people deal with it

Alone

hi guys,
I feel so lonely these days , I feel no one is there to talk with me 
I have so many "friends" 
everyone is busy in their life 
I feel I need someone to talk at anytime, can share my thoughts.
any solutions?

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