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What are some points to take care of when getting married through an arranged marriage setup?

Married men, what advice would you give for an arranged marriage?

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“You should get married on time”

To the married folks, would it be different if you would have married later in life? From a personal or objective POV, what’s your take

32+ M here and not yet married.

“SHAADI waqt se ho jaana chahiye”

I know I'm not the only one having to go through this. Let's speak our heart out.

[Rant] Arranged marriage process

A friend of mine was dating a girl, convinced his parents to offer marriage. But girl chickened out last minute, married one her father had chosen. This really fucked him up, he was determined to get married anyhow, whom didn't matter. 
1 Yr later, found a girl parents found, got pregnant before first anniversary. Over 3 years, their marriage has seen divorce, domestic violence and 5 star hotel celebrations (oscillated to extremes of good and bad)

I'm seeing another such case.
Office colleagues were dating, he proposed marriage, she declined. He said stuff that shouldn't have been said, she threatened POSH (did not complain officially)
2 months later, he has found someone to marry through arrange marriage route 

Break ups are bad, but half of the problem were you. Instead of working on that, people take it on ego

Rebound marriages are the worst

Consultant

Real relationships aren't real anymore, and it's going to be worse , only money matters?

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INR 10-13 lakh spent per wedding in India. 
Average annual household income is INR 4 lakh. 
Assuming 2 households spending, it's 1.2-1.5x their annual income. 
Assuming only the girl's family paying, it's 3x annual income. 
It's absurd how much people love to spend to feed and entertain the people they never want to see in their lives again. 
Also absurd, no big startup in this space. Why is no tech bro/gal conquering the wedding space?

Big Fat Indian Wedding

Business analyst

Key to a happy marriage

What are the pros and cons? To get married arranged.

Marriage is good or bad?

Fairy Tale Expectations -

Movies and novels set unrealistic expectations for marriage. People expect a perfect life and avoid dealing with real problems together. Thanks to internet - Real life communications made it more complicated

Individualism - Selfishness:

Building a strong marriage takes lot of compromises and time together. Many people love to spend their time with ofc colleagues, but refuse spend with family. Two jobs in single family, built a confidence that money can save you from all problems

Too Many Choices:

Thanks to internet and dating apps which made it easy to meet new people. This literally gives  confidence to leave relationships without fear of being alone for lifelong.

Bad Habits:

Alcohol, weed, and drugs are normalized, but they destroy a person’s inner self. When you lose yourself to these habits, it’s hard to be a good partner because it gives you confidence to do every shit

Late Marriages:

Marrying at older age often means having rigid mindsets. It’s harder to adapt and change, which can hurt the relationship.

Why most of the modern marriages are failing?

Those who are working for themselves are already sorted.

Are you working for yourself or your next generation ? Explain please.

Senior software engineer

29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally.

Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L.

People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

Budget for marriage

Product Manager

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues.

Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families.

Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices.

Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps.

In the US,
This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides

P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Dating has failed Americans, now it will fail Indians too

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Marriage and divorce are equally difficult to maintain and break

The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class
Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class
Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo

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