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This one hits a little too close to home- Grapevine

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How would you live your life if you don't have any family/social responsibilities?

by Immigrating to a new country and starting a new life. Sick of this scarcity, struggle for every single fucking thing from getting a entry in local train, then slogging at work like donkey and then realising some MBA asshole will dictate your careers, then you think of becoming that asshole by getting masters but again fucking competition there, then wondering why the fuck am I paying taxes on your commute back to home in packed local train like a cockroaches, then struggle to get quality food, quality water and quality air, then again struggle to go to sleep and the Final struggle to wake up 
  
 But being the only child of my family and being their retirement fund is binding me here.  
  
 Sure other developed countries also have a competition but not to the extent of India.

Supply Chain Manager

Senior Software Engineer

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Everyone seems so lonely , i just see loneliness on each and every individual. I don't know why , i think because I'm lonely  thats the reason i see loneliness all around . I feel no body is happy or sad. But tired of everything. we cannot be consistent for anything whether it's studies , job , relationship , marriage . We want change in everything every now and then . But with same time we want a home where we can find our comfort. Where we can find our people.  Why humans are like this .why can't e be satisfied. We are humans we want people with same time we don't let people enter in our life .just nothing seems goood.

Nothing is Good or Bad

Analyst

This causes a serious meltdown in an instant. Just sharing here so that if anyone reads this.. reach out to your folks and love them with all. 🙂

Sometimes late at night I'm hit with the thought that my parents won't be there with me forever.

Growth Manager

Reality hitting in 1.. 2.. 3..

When it's someone younger it hurts more

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

Consultant

The only thing i have is money, Working remotely from the start of my career, lost all college connections, stating in a tier 3 city where vibe don’t match.

Tried restarting but confused where to start 
Looking for answers i am ready to move new city but what are the next steps 

Thanks

Lost person

Karma hits hard 😂

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This feels accurate

Software Developer

Very true, and almost gives me anxiety :D

It's been some time since I received some kindness from people. The last time I heard some kind words or got a kind gesture was very long ago. Today, whoever I interact with behaves absurdly without any compassion. The shopkeepers won't talk politely if asked about a product, the house owners will talk rudely and make random rules any day, people won't smile on the metro, in restaurants they will shout on the waiters and the list goes on. I am not even bringing up autowalas and taxiwalas. What does it take to show some compassion? How much does it take to compromise a little bit so that other person feels good about this world? Why does everyone want to just rip other off? 😞

What happened to the world?

I have shifted from banglore to my hometown in rajasthan and its lovely here. Greet everyone with ram ram /radhe radhe and people smile back greet back, its superb. I was missing this element in banglore

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My current salary is 42LPA. I am from IIT, have 7 years of experience and work in product. Honestly, my value in the market is higher than what I’m being paid but I am very demotivated to optimise for that. When I do see less deserving people minting more money, I feel that I am doing injustice to myself and playing the wrong hand.

More and more though, the thought of earning more money chokes me a bit. I have dreams of building something of my own - that gives me control to build something my way and freedom to live my life as per my terms. But the mindset of “zyada paisa pareshaani hai” doesn’t leave me.

My family also is not dependent on me and whatever is needed from my side, I actively contribute to. I also lack any motivation to focus on my investments and see my money grow. I just have money sitting around in my bank account purely for nothing

I also look at my lifestyle choices from time to time and go into existential debate of why we need the things that we do. This has come to a point where I really do not understand my relationship with money and why we earn and spend it. 

For me at this point, it’s just a show for the world. There’s very little that you need, and really no limit to what you want to show. And I just don’t see a point in it anymore.

I am demotivated to work to earn more money

Hey @Hungryninja  
 Extremely relatable and very beautiful write up 
  
 I get the trouble you face. When you’ve almost figured out what you like and what you don’t like (that money isn’t thaaat needle moving, I have basic needs) but at the same time, the opportunity cost of relaxing is too high - everybody from your batch will remind you of how far you can go, and the middle class boy in you will find it difficult to stomach letting go of all the money, even though you can make it  
  
 Went through this at one point. I have ultimately sided with money. I cannot sit back and relax. Money will only unlock a lot of foreign travel and good lifestyle for me. But more than that, I am lucky to be in a position that allows me to earn money easier than other people do. So I’ll make it, help extended family and people who cannot earn as easily, because at least in a country like India, it’s almost a responsibility. We’re not fucking Europe. 
  
 I’ll just not kill myself for it as much as I used to :)

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Product Owner

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Hey all, I’m 29, Marketing and Growth Guy. Making 2.5L/Month (In Hand). And some side income of 50k-1L. 

I’m an expert in taking the startups in their journey of 0-1. 

However, every night it haunts me that in some years, I’ll be irrelevant because of younger generations taking up the positions or if not irrelevant, I’ll be costly for 0-1 startups.

In fact, even now, most of the high growth startups don’t hire me saying I don’t have experience of handling massive budgets. 

Can’t go into corporate after working for 8 years in startups. 

I’m investing and saving a lot. But that won’t be enough. Not looking to start my own business. Been there done that. Didn’t work out. 

So what are your plans? Or if you have any suggestions for me?

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