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As mid 20s adults with a stable job, basic pleasures like a playstation or OTTs by your side, what do you look forward to in life ????

What do you look forward in life ??

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What do you look forward in life ??- Grapevine

What do you do outside of work? Are there any hobbies you genuinely love and don’t just do to pass the time? Do you have any secondary sources of income?

From what I have seen, most people in corporate lack ambition. They don’t have any passion, nor is there any will to do anything outside of work. While I completely agree there is nothing wrong with it, the sheer low percentage of people who are passionate about their life just astonishes me. Maybe I am expecting a lot and am wrong here. I wanted to know others’ opinions as well. What do you people think can be the reason?

Do you have any ambitions?

I actually don't want to climb any corporate ladders. I don't care about job titles and don't need any accolades. 
 I just want to have income to fund my lifestyle, not be depressed working with assholes, help other people and be around good humans. That's it.

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What is something you are looking forward in life right now?

Consultant

What are your thoughts when people say "Enjoy your 20's" ? do you agree?

Hey Grapeviners,

Hope you are enjoying your "Ravivar".

Was sitting and introspecting a lot of things.
One thing I came across that I am becoming more and more pessimistic in regards with career , food habits , society, and many more.

With so much uncertainty in jobs , recession , scams in exams not so much optimistic about exams.

So many food pundits giving their gyaan ke yeh mat khao , vo mat khao nahin to aisa ho jayega. Yeh khaane se heart attack rates badh rahe...

Society is just totally selfish. Still contemplating what happened in UP 😂😂.

What should I do to become optimistic. I can also not ignore these things as jo bhi hain I find some sort of truth in it..

Mobile dekhna band bhi nahin kar sakta as it will transport me to cave ages.

What do you guyz do to keep yourself "hopeful" and can say "the things which you look forward in future".

Opinion: Digital Age has made us pessimistic?

I just hit 30 and it feels... different. Not bad, just not what I expected. My 20s were a whirlwind of possibilities, but now I'm wondering if I'm supposed to have it all figured out.
How are your 30s different from your 20s? What changes - good or bad - caught you off guard?

How are your 30s different than your 20s?

This post just punched me in the gut. I remember waking up on my 30th birthday and just... staring at the ceiling. Wondering where the hell my 20s went. 
  
 You know what's weird? I miss the chaos sometimes. The shitty apartments, sasti daaru, the all-nighters with friends, thinking we could conquer the world. Now I'm here, with a decent job and a place of my own, and some days I feel more lost than ever. 
  
 The other day I caught myself getting excited about buying a new vacuum. A vacuum! 25-year-old me would've laughed his ass off. 
  
 But it's not all bad. I actually like myself more now. I don't take as much crap from people. I know what I want in a relationship. Still, there are nights I lie awake wondering if I'm doing this whole "adult" thing right. 
  
 I guess what caught me off guard the most is realizing my parents were just winging it too. We're all just trying to figure it out as we go :) 
  
 To anyone else feeling this: you're not alone. We're all a little scared, a little excited, and just hoping we're on the right track. Let's be kind to ourselves. Maybe that's what our 30s are really about - let’s fucking go!

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Women of grapevine, if you had to share one advice with your younger self what would it be?

Human Resources

Folks in the age group of 32 and above. What significant change you saw in your life post 30 both in terms of health and work? 

What do you wish you had done better or a piece of advice for the ones in 20’s. I understand good workouts, healthy eating and financial discipline are top of the list. Would love to get some perspectives beyond that.

How should one be prepared for life post 30?

Founder

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How much inhand income for a couple is good enough to lead a decent upper middle class life in Banglore…..
Looking at the overpriced real estate and exorbitant rents and school fees for kids, young people these days are really worried about getting married.

Married people please share some insights…..

My def of Upper middle class life for a new couple…

1. 2bhk in a gated society or decent standalone building.
2. Gym and healthy life style 
3. Movies / concerts / events twice a month 
4. One 2-day and one week long tour in a year 
5. A decent car (something like nexon / breeza) 
6. Able to invest a lil bit for retirement.

How much would be required for leading such a lifestyle ?

How much money is enough money 💵 ??

Analytics Manager

Seeking advice from married individuals who have/ want children

I’m 26 right now. Should I start looking for partners now or wait till around 30 once I’m financially stronger. Currently 22lpa - Mumbai

Marriage age for men

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Hi friends,

I want to ask a question.

What is your life sutra do you work really really hard save the money and invest for future.

                            Or

Do you earn the money and making moments like going out, enjoying with friends and family etc.

                            Or 

Do you prefer mid way b/w two of them above.

Which kind of person you are? Please address  why also 😢

Any tips for making assest management in our 20s

Data Scientist

In a very chaotic place right now, moving to a new city, away from home for the first time, starting a LDR, nervously excited about the whole thing. 

Want to pick up new things. 
1. News: Shit at knowing what's happening around me. I know it's important but there's so much content everywhere. What few platforms will cover most of it? (PS: GV notifs sometimes do help with GK and starts good conversations :P) 

2. Books: Used to love them, trying to find my way back. Psychology, non fiction recommendations welcome  

3. Fitness: Gym jaana hai! Can show up consistently, just want a good environment, diet also needs work :/ 

4. Upskill: Marketer here. Don't feel like doing this most days, but aise nahi chalega, kaafi zyada hi chill kar lia 🥲

What more can I do?

1% better everyday

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I mean what are some of hobbies that you are doing

be it health-wise, sports, trips, other activity ?

something that add an extra layer of intrest in your life, that break monotonous working vibe 

reduce pressure of always being productive 

Hoping for good variety of answers 😅
something that I can adopt

What do you do other than work ?

I grew up in a family which used to be just above poverty line. My mom had worked a lot to provide making 7K a month. I now have a job that pays 15lpa. Other than good food on table I'm not sure what i should do with the money. I save everything left after removing house expenses Which is 75% of my income. I know saving is good but i don't want endup saving a huge pile and dying without using any of it.i want to exprfi6good things. How did you guys spend when you tried to raise from almost poor to a decent standard of living

Not sure how to spend the money that i make

Similar background, always dreamt of a decent gaming pc or console. 
 First thing i did after setting up sip was buying ps4. 
  
 Travel, travelling is expensive but the experiences you have a worth it. 
  
 Spend on parents, buy em phones, clothes or sponsor there religious trips. 
  
 Charity, dont forget your roots. 
  
 Definitely dont become a horder, but dont go ballistic as well. 
  
 Also well done for beating the system.  
 Cheers

Please mention your generation- GenZ Millennial GenX

I have a hunch there will be patterns emerging here, but let's see how it goes

And no - "my life is perfect" "I wouldn't change a thing" interview fake stuff

What is one thing that you would change, by going back in life?

Context: I am a software engineer with 4 years of experience.

Everytime I work with a bunch of engineers (Especially Indian Startups). Most of them are workaholics.

They are just working for some company full-time. They are interested in learning more about technology, making jokes about technology, following technology news, etc. 

That is it. 

No social life. (Especially after Covid). No skills in any other part of life.

Their comfort zone is so small that they have developed a lifestyle of working, sleeping & watching something on laptops and that's it.

They make an excellent salary but don't do anything else. 

Every time I meet a 35-40-year-old software engineer, it is just a physically unfit guy with an arranged marriage who is boring as a brick.

Are most Software Engineers boring outside work?

I am in my late 20s and I feel attacked. Thank you for striking the right chord 
  
 I've come to realize that, like many software engineers, I've found myself navigating the monotony of an 8-hour job, often feeling isolated from my office peers. It can be challenging when people hesitate to open up, but the reasons for this became clear. 
  
 There are two key aspects at play: a minimal social life and prioritizing work. These factors are interconnected. In late 20s, the circle of friends tends to shrink, and individuals are busy setting up their own lives, leading to growing distances. With limited time for each other, it's easy to become engrossed in work life. I didn't anticipate that making friends would become a challenge, and I acknowledge this as a personal objective (read OKR) for myself. Despite being an extrovert, reinitiating the trust and friendship path can be difficult. 
  
 To address this, I've proactively connected with people, stepped out of my comfort zone, and initiated new activities. It's a challenging process, and sometimes it feels like I'm overdoing it, but the effort is rewarding. Engaging in activities beyond my job role, such as joining a gym or participating in public discussions, has been beneficial. I've also reduced my time on social media, realizing that platforms like Instagram reels consume a significant portion of my time. 
  
 I'd like to urge understanding for people in their late thirties. Having once criticized the habits of those in their late twenties when I was in my early twenties, I now comprehend the challenges of their situation. Unexpectedly, I find joy in shopping for groceries and organizing them neatly. It's all about priorities, and embracing change has made a significant positive impact in my life.

Fellow Grapeviners, can you please knock some sense into me?
For context, I've got a good-ish job that I think pays me easy money. i started working 5 months ago. lately, I'm feeling worthless and really thinking about quitting my job and do something impactful or crazy or financially irresponsible.

Help

Turned 21 today, feeling really, really old

Account Manager

How would you live your life if you don't have any family/social responsibilities?

by Immigrating to a new country and starting a new life. Sick of this scarcity, struggle for every single fucking thing from getting a entry in local train, then slogging at work like donkey and then realising some MBA asshole will dictate your careers, then you think of becoming that asshole by getting masters but again fucking competition there, then wondering why the fuck am I paying taxes on your commute back to home in packed local train like a cockroaches, then struggle to get quality food, quality water and quality air, then again struggle to go to sleep and the Final struggle to wake up 
  
 But being the only child of my family and being their retirement fund is binding me here.  
  
 Sure other developed countries also have a competition but not to the extent of India.

Supply Chain Manager

Senior Software Engineer

I can't seem to relate to much of the non-FAANG junta out there. I mean I have a cushy job with probably 0.1% pay of all SWEs(pretty much like all of us do). But these cookie-cutter roles have been taking a mental toll on me. Like I am getting paid but I feel a little purpose-less. What am I gunning for in this life? 

All my life I wanted to go to a good college to get into a good company. In college I wanted to get a good codeforces rank so that I could get into FAANG. Now that I am in FAANG I have nothing to look forward to. 

Any of you all feeling this way? Because I don't see myself offer-shopping and feeling much happy about that either.

Feeling depressed at Amazon(2YOE/41L CTC). Anyone else feeling the same way?

Recently watched Soul on hotstar and this actually makes sense now. The character was trying hard to perform in front of a crowd and  when it happened he wasn't feeling any change at all. At that time, he was told about the fish and the ocean story :-  
  
 I heard this story about a fish. 
  
 He swims up to an older fish and says, “I’m trying to find this thing they call ‘the ocean.'” 
  
 “The ocean? the older fish says, “That’s what you’re in right now.” 
  
 “This?” says the young fish. “This is water. What I want is the ocean!”

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30s is such a scary age, people around hype it as youth death. But I believe it has its own benefits and positives

What's that your life has given you?

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