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What is a life lesson you've learned the hard way, and how did it change you?

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What’s a life lesson you learned the hard way?

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I interned at a company for more than 10 months.
Gave my heart and soul to it
They made me work late nights, gave me so much work
I completed them all
And now they denied a full time offer citing budget reasons
I feel like a loser now. This is so not fair. Now placements at college are also over so theres no hope left
Completely loss of words.
I don't know what to do
Can someone please guide me

Feeling dejected, demotivated, loser

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Hi everyone,

 I have been working in this company as a junior software developer for more than 8 months. This is my second company, and I had a probation period after joining this one. Unfortunately, I had a bad experience with my manager because he was a fan of micromanagement. He didn't like anything I did and said that I was worthless, didn't know anything, and was stupid. He didn't have any trust in me, and I faced this day-to-day in office life. As a result, I lost my confidence, developed anxiety and depression, and even thought about suicide about a month ago. I am currently going to a therapist every week for my depression and anxiety.

I worked really hard and even worked overtime and some weekends during my probation period. However, after 6 months, during my review, my manager said that I didn't work on anything and extended my probation to 3 months. I started my career 2 years ago, and I wonder if this is normal in  IT career.

I am looking for a job change right now, but I always get the question from most of the HR "why do you move too early?" and I don't know how to answer this question.

Please help, guys.

Stressed out of my manager

for me. i spent college studying for grades and 20s making money in a job I don't like, but never got to make the memories I should've with all my friends. I regret doing all of that

what is your worst mistake professionally?

If we are spiralling, let's spiral right

1. Focused solely on grades in colleges
2. Thought Campus placements were ultimate goal
3. Spent 3 years in a company with 5% increment (once), because it was comfortable
4. Scared to ask even minimum budget while negotiating salary
5. Overthinking every step, still not taking actions to correct or fuck up anything
6. Major major regret - not taking risk of starting own. It also has to do with parenting, but lets not blame.
7. Ran away from public sharing - speaking, athletics, all extracurricular activities for that matter. Kids grow up with zero confidence and looking fat & ugly. (I'm not fat shaming, some fat people look 🤌)

I'll add more, there will be more for sure 😂

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People who left home early for education and been away for like 10-15 years from families, what was the biggest lesson you learned in life

Biggest lesson in life

I recently learned how to cook properly at 35, and it's been a game-changer. I'm saving money, eating healthier, and actually enjoying my meals. It got me thinking about other skills I wish I'd picked up sooner. 

What's a skill you wish you had learned earlier in life? Something that's made a significant difference in your day-to-day living or overall happiness?

What life-changing skill do you wish you'd learned earlier?

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

Founder

It can be anything related to not doing something you always wanted to but never did, a mistake you realize you shouldn’t have made, or feelings of not being successful enough. Feel free to share your thoughts.

Do you have any regrets?

Failed to spend enough time with my parents. Life moves really fast. If you're around your parents take care of them, spend time with them and if you're away then make sure you visit them often ☮️

What small choice you made changed your life?

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

What's the most valuable thing you've learned from a younger colleague?
How has it impacted your work or perspective?

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Switched to a new company some months back, they asked me my expected pay, i told them some amount which i thought was significant then recently got to know everyone is getting paid more than that ( even people with 1 YOE ) just because they asked for it while joining. Not sure how i should feel about it now. I can't even ask them directly and appraisal cycle is 8 months to go.

Got to know everyone in team got more than me just because they asked

How has your perspective on life changed over the years?

Hi All, what can help me join an early stage startup and grow up to the top close to the founders within a year? I want to be in the middle of the action 

Has anyone here done it before?

How do people climb up/become more important in startups as employees?

If they have the right culture then showing excellency in your role, helping out others in the team, having opinions on decisions taken (not just for the sake of it) should help you get closer to the decision makers. 
  
 Remember that at an early stage startup, everything revolves around the product, and you will be rewarded for aligning with that. 
  
 Speaking from experience, you will be involved in "the action" in a team of 30 people either way

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