You need to learn to enjoy the life as it comes. 
 Anything that makes you loose health or peace of mind is not worth it. 
 Invest in friends they are your family outside 
 Love someone and make them yours

Consultant

Engineering Manager

Biggest Lesson - Family is the only constant in this ever changing world.

Product Manager

Cherish your time with family, you never know when you will see them for the last time

Product Owner

Generally speaking, family goes through variety of stuff on daily basis. As you stay away from them and depends on how frequently you speak with them, you will come to know brief or few important incidents/experiences/issues in from their life.  Eventually, both parties will be disconnected as not much participation or involvement in daily stuff as it's not relevant anymore.  

So I suggest, keep talking to them, involve (or just listen) in their small stupid issues/stuff in daily life. (though it's irrelevant) E.g today main came late today so mom's routine was impacted and story around it.

Software Developer

I was out for 15+ years, have leaned a lot and become better day by day 
 1. Respect homemade food when you are having at home. Mess Food ❌ 
 2. Friends are family  
 3. Struggle is inevitable

Investment Manager

Not been away from my home for 10 but 5 years and i already feel it has been too much.  
 Shifting places every 3-4 months is just not what is sustainable and worth doing. The pgs and the pathetic food and dont get me started on how unprofessional this pg industry is. 
  
 Having said that looking back it has been a journey in which i have learnt a lot, matured a wholeee lot. 
  
 Living with friends is muchhhhhhh muchhh better than living alone. As long as you are not the person who likes the complete and total lack of company id suggest having a roommate.  
  
 Now im greatful truely greatful for the life i have for every little thing. It has been a truely humbling expreience. 
 Going out of home i feel is a necessary  character development arch everyone has to go through.

People who left home early for education and been away for like 1015 years from families, what was the biggest lesson you learned in life

People who left home early for education and been away for like 10-15 years from families, what was the biggest lesson you learned in life

Biggest lesson in life

Biggest lesson in life- Grapevine

Elders leaving the home do not realise the void they leave behind
How did you, at such young age, manage life - new experiences, body changes, parents' attention

Ques to Younger Siblings: How did you manage life when elder ones left home for study/work?

Guys, I recently switched to a startup that is operating fully remotely, where I am working as a software engineer. This is something that I consciously chose as I personally liked working from home. I have 2 years of experience in this field. In my earlier job, I was working from the office in mumbai, so I have lived in the suburbs of mumbai for around 1.5 years. I am turned 25 just a few months back.

I come from a small town in Rajasthan. I do have a bsnl fibre connectivity at home, which gives good enough internet connectivity as well. Living in a small town and with parents is great. I save almost all of my salary. 

Now, here comes the confusion - being early in my career, i feel like I should live in the city, like bangalore, explore more things, but since I already lived in mumbai, to be very honest I didn't liked it to that extent as I am not the party guy, and too many people make it more worse, traffic I am not even considering. 

I am kind of very simple. Home to office and office to home, on weekends maybe go to temples and explore some places around. I also have food choices, which makes it more difficult to survive. Like I am pure vegetarian and don't even eat onion/garlic, nobody in the home actually eats it. 

No offence to anyone, but  I feel extremely uncomfortable when i am asked to eat at restaurants where non-veg is surved during company offsites and all. 

Now, just for the context, it's not that I never lived  away from family. Actually, I am staying away from my family from very early school days, like 8th/9th standard. And somehow, I managed it all during all those years. 

That is one of the reasons that makes me feel as if I should spend more time with my parents.

What would be your advice for me so that I don't leave behind in my career and at the same time live a balanced and happy life.

Also, considering my context, which city would you recommend me to relocate to? Or should I not even think about it?

What would be your advice for me?

Software Engineer

Does this bother you that you will not meet your parents enough?

Let's say your parents are around 55 years old and will live till 80. If we consider you will go to your months 4 times in a year and let's say each time you are going for 10 days, which means 40 days in a year and 1000 days in total. Less than 3 years and. 

I am not even considering that when you visit them, you will still have work as mostly you will take wfh and not leave.

Does this fact bother you that you will not be able to spend much time with them?

Living away from home for work

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

3 things are most important to excel in career -
1. Your Health- so workout
2. Your Skills- so don't stop learning
3. Your Parents- so the phone call from mother or those WhatsApp messages by father were important. Reply them, now.

You will only realize the importance of 3rd one if you meet a person who recently lost his parents.

Read that again!

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You are 35. What have you stopped believing in that you totally believed in when you were 25?

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Business Analyst

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.

So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.

I realised that,
Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)

My current daily routine is like this:
Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.

School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.

Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.

I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
1. I’m the only son of my parents.
2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.

That’s it
🙏🏼

This week’s introspection

Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. 
 Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho

General Manager

It can be anything related to not doing something you always wanted to but never did, a mistake you realize you shouldn’t have made, or feelings of not being successful enough. Feel free to share your thoughts.

Do you have any regrets?

Failed to spend enough time with my parents. Life moves really fast. If you're around your parents take care of them, spend time with them and if you're away then make sure you visit them often ☮️

I interned at a company for more than 10 months.
Gave my heart and soul to it
They made me work late nights, gave me so much work
I completed them all
And now they denied a full time offer citing budget reasons
I feel like a loser now. This is so not fair. Now placements at college are also over so theres no hope left
Completely loss of words.
I don't know what to do
Can someone please guide me

Feeling dejected, demotivated, loser

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Operations Analytics

Hey folks,
Coming from tier-2/3 towns, how do you manage to live away from home for full time in-office roles. 

Most of the people have decent set of responsibilities back at home ranging from parents healthcare to various documentations (like property management, bank-work etc). Becomes more important if you’re the only child.

Would like to know if there are any tools/services to manage this. How often do you guys travel back except for holidays?

Living away from home

It's for the people who stay away from their parents for work.

How do you deal with this guilt of leaving your parents behind when they need you the most? Also, if you have done something regarding this, please mention.

Guilt of staying away from ageing parents

Sometimes I usually think, Why do I lose our school and college friends one by one? Is this a sign of maturity, reality, or something else?

I am just 25 years old, and within 3 years I have lost 90 percent of my circle and the few who left, with whom I usually get time to chat, call, or plan to get out.
 
And I feel that some day I will also lose them.

Can you guys make some comments that I have became  matured or that this is the actual reality of damn life?

Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Reality of life. 
  
 Some genuine relations will still be there even if you guys aren't meeting regularly or in touch regularly. 
  
 However you can consider other relations as gone. 
  
 With time only you will know which ones are going to fall in which category.

Software Test - QA

Application Engineer

for me. i spent college studying for grades and 20s making money in a job I don't like, but never got to make the memories I should've with all my friends. I regret doing all of that

what is your worst mistake professionally?

If we are spiralling, let's spiral right

1. Focused solely on grades in colleges
2. Thought Campus placements were ultimate goal
3. Spent 3 years in a company with 5% increment (once), because it was comfortable
4. Scared to ask even minimum budget while negotiating salary
5. Overthinking every step, still not taking actions to correct or fuck up anything
6. Major major regret - not taking risk of starting own. It also has to do with parenting, but lets not blame.
7. Ran away from public sharing - speaking, athletics, all extracurricular activities for that matter. Kids grow up with zero confidence and looking fat & ugly. (I'm not fat shaming, some fat people look 🤌)

I'll add more, there will be more for sure 😂

I'm a 28-year-old married (Wife is also working) individual currently residing in Kolkata, where the living expenses are relatively low. I have 5 years of work experience, and my current compensation package is 28 lakhs fixed and 3 lakhs variable (approximately 1.95 lakhs in-hand salary after deductions). With no liabilities or responsibilities, my monthly expenses are around 40,000 INR, and I manage to invest around 1.5 lakhs per month.

Currently, I enjoy a stable job and live with my parents, who take care of most of my living expenses. However, I'm considering the possibility of switching jobs and moving to another city, which would require me to bear the additional costs of rent, food, and other living expenses on my own.

Question: Given my current financial situation and the potential for increased living costs in a new city, should I explore a job switch and relocation? Or should I continue with my current stable job and living arrangement in Kolkata, where my expenses are minimal? What factors should I consider when making this decision?

Should I switch and move to bangalore

Nah stay there only. Why relocate to Bangalore If you are earning a decent amount and living with your family happily.

29F, I still stay with my parents
Working, earning >1lpm, remote work

Over the years, I have realised I own no assets. 
Everything has been bought by parents EVERYTHING
My mom would always make sure she or dad paid, saying you can keep your money for yourself (which I initially thought was very sweet)
Now I see how I am dependent on them for all

What ever I have bought can be put into a polythene bag and that's all my life (I generally spend on food and stuff that goes away)
I have bought certain items for family or the house, but that isn't mine obviously 

I need to get out of the house, my mental health is at the edge

I want to move out of my parents home

get out, experience the world, and then you will realise there nothing better than home. 
  
 I was in somewhat same situation as yours, I have a very controlling dad. in my 12th I had made my mind to do b.tech from a very far away college from a different state. then stayed away many years in different cities for job. I now realise the importance of being at home with family. when we grow up our parents grow too. we(dad n me) are now best friends. we drinked for the first time together last year and that was a very special moment for me.

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