Someone acknowledged. ❤️🫂 
 Not everything is basic by the way. It took my more than 8y to know myself better.

Senior Engineer

Cannot explain but knowing your limits and thresholds is oh 🤌🏻

Why are self-aware people sexy, it is the most basic thing

Why are self-aware people sexy, it is the most basic thing- Grapevine

Is it true? Has anyone gone through this sort of emotion.

Self love fuels romantic love ❤️

Technical lead

Everyone uses a version of you
That fits their interest
Still acceptable

178 cm Brown skin 
Always left out
Gym Personality development sab try Kia
Khud k career development k liye roj ragda
Khud k health k care Kari
Par breaking aa gya hai

I eat alone in the office
POSH k dar se females se dur rehta hoon

Drawing Flute, in sabhi k clubs join kiye
I was well versed in them when I was a kid
To find someone
Par no girls in sight, even if they were
I was not even an option.

But still
I cannot come close to the ones who were gifted
I am invisible to girls
Kuch khaas jine k tamana nhi hai mere

Par Ek din k liye
Ek Sundar dikhne wala insaan Banna chahta hoon
Jise dosta gender romantically attractive Lage

Kya koi hai idhar jinke halat mere jaise ho

When You look ugly

Can be a list too. But Only unmarried men

Unmarried men, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?

Consultant

A couple of other posts are on what unmarried men / women look for in their potential spouses. 

Married folks, based on your experience, what advice would you give people as they are going through the journey of figuring out the right partner.

Married men / women, what’s your advice on this - what factors should one consider while evaluting a to-be spouse?

Growth manager

Men on GV: Ask questions on love, relationships and marriage!

Women on GV: Answer these questions genuinely and bluntly!

I'll go first: 
Heard about a married couple (married <1 year) and already separated (to be divorced). The wife hid her past and relationship from her family and in-laws. Husband asked about her relationships and she said she isn't in one. No pressure from the guy's family about marriage. Girl said yes and for months pretended to be excited about marriage. Post marriage, husband realised that she's cheating, excessive partying drinking, and smoking. Husband is in a disarray and suicidal.

Now I know there are both men and women like her (not making it a gender thing). But as a man looking for a partner/relationship/girlfriend, how do we be careful and what red and green flags should we look for, in a woman, while looking for a genuine relationship?

Love and Marriage

Generalist

I think we fall for people who are opposite to our insecurities. 
And this is beyond how they look, what they do for work, or which school they belong too (that's for arrange marriages 😂 )

I am someone who cannot keep up good habits (for long) and tend to question myself at every step.
People who are disciplined and self aware are very hot to me!

Do you relate?

My Love Theory

What is your top 1 strength? Just one. The one thing that truly made you stand out

I am working hard on my myself
Gym study work sleep
Make sure everything is completed on time
So that the schedule doesn't mess up

But Why?
I get a feeling of someone I need
To tell everything how my day went
Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon
Theek hai
Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k

In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team

Ghar aata hoon to 
Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon
Na h koi call
Message

Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai
PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath
Akele marna likha hai 
Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai
Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem
Mar rahe hai
These thoughts are winning

.....
Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai
Na h Bhai behen
1 dost hai wo busy rehta

Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta
I close my eyes and cry sometimes
Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai
Kya pap kiya hoga maine

It's lonely, Ain't it?

I have a long ass layover at this really boring airport and its driving me crazy. 

I'll go first: 
I have never been to a police station 


C'mmon folks, we are anonyumous anyway !

Anyone up for Never Have I Ever?

Data engineer

I need to know if people here received comments like- you look weak, thin and dry. No glow on face. You were better before this.

This is after I adopted a healthy lifestyle since April 2023.

My calorie intake is just notch higher than my maintenance calorie count.
Sugar intake is extremely low. High water intake and no stress.

What could be the reason?

Overall look post healthy lifestyle adoption

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

Founder

Does it also happen to you all that you feel a lump in your throat about talking to your manager when you are about to resign? I mean even if they have not done anything significant to make your life better? I don't understand this feeling of guilt, even if we are sure that it's for our best.

Feeling before resignation

Senior Consultant

I have learned all men have dirty minds, if he acts innocent, it is "acting" obviously

Hi folks,
I recently got laid off from a startup where 50% of the engineering team was let go. I was working as an SDE and during a restructuring, my role was changed to SDE-2 without any increase in pay or responsibilities. I have a total of 2.5 years of experience. In my first company (where I worked for a year), there weren't many projects, so I didn't have the opportunity to learn or code much. However, in my second company, I primarily worked on the backend using Go, Django, Kafka, MongoDB, & PostgreSQL.
I realize that although I gained exposure in my second job, I didn't delve deeply into the technologies. I mainly focused on completing business tasks quickly, learning new things just to finish the task at hand, without solidifying my understanding afterward.
My experience seems suitable for an SDE-2 role, but I'm unsure if I can perform the role with complete honesty and may struggle. Some friends in similar situations reassure me that this struggle is common in SDE-2 roles. However, I feel I might be better off starting again as an SDE-1, focusing on my weak areas, and aiming for a promotion later. There are very few SDE-1 job openings currently.
I am actively interviewing for SDE-2, and not able to clear system design interviews. Tbh, I feel very humiliated as when I am not able to answer their questions it feels like I am wasting their time or they would be thinking: Oh this guy has been working for so long and doesn't even know anything.

Now I get it why people think Indian Software engineers are not that good in comparison to other countries' devs: the reason is people like me. 
This realization burdens me with guilt, occupying my thoughts constantly. However, I am confident that I can crack SDE-1 easily. I have good DSA & good enough LLD, &HLD skills for SDE1. I am looking for companies who can match my prev Salary: 22 L, 2 Bonus.
Can u help how to navigate this career situation effectively without increasing my guilt or feeling constantly humiliated?

Laid Off | Stuck Now | Too Anxious | Please guide

Software Developer

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

Off late I come across more posts reg. POSH policy.

hence the post. I thought i would share few of my insights so that if anyone is going through such harassments can be aware of the policy and report it and know that they are not alone.


Applicable to?
As per govt law, POSH (Prevention Of Sexual Harrasment) act focuses mainly on Female employees only. Having said that companies are making sure POSH is applicable for male employees as well to avoid gender bias. Please do note it varies company to company.

What comes under/ can be reported to POSH?
 1. Anything which is uncomfortable(sometimes conversation could not directly related to us but that is making us uncomfortable), unhealthy comments, violating your personal space, inappropriate gestures, mean comments passed  falls under harrasment.
2. Main thing is these incidents should have happened between you and your office employees ( please note that it doesn't need to be within your team alone).
Ex-employee also could report but there are time period restrictions.
3. Incident could have happened in office or outside office or any office related events or any personal space. Personal space has more criteria FYI.

POSH team will consider the complaint only if incident happened within 6 months as per the law. 

Who can report POSH Complaint?
Person who faced the harassment or co-worker can complaint on behalf of person who is facing harassment

How can we report POSH?
to your manager or HR or directly to POSH committee.

POSH committee members normally shouldn't be gender biased which is why they make sure Internal committee has mix of male and female employees. Also they should collect evidences, do validations to make sure complaint is genuine or not.  If companies are not having POSH committee like this then it's a serious red flag.

if any doubts reg. POSH policy check with you HR to make sure your understanding aligns or not.

BETTER TO CLARIFY THAN TO SUFFER HARASSMENT


Hopefully this helps to understand.

POSH policy

I have lost all the trust and dont even trust my shadow  anymore.

But then,
Human relationships thrive on trust.
Its forms the fulcrum of every bond.


This puts me in a difficult situation where I cant offer trust but seek a deeper and lost lasting connection

I just feel that people leave me.
Most of them did,
When I hit my low.

But as they say,
The comeback has to be stronger than the setback. I am moving towards bigger things in life and am still haunted by this fear of not being able to connect.

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