My gender reveal consumes more 🍿 than this

Consultant

The biggest question that GV wants to know ~

Application Engineer

Growth Manager

The longest lying game in history is 10 years of catfishing. Didi utna to nahi kar sakta ye banda 😂😂😂

It was actually a woman, catfishing as a man. She was the girl's cousin who was being catfished. 😳

It always starts with the same thinking - he is playing the lying game

Corporate Strategist

Part of a reddit thread, TLDR it was all good, the man was good

Women and their trust issues 🤌 (esp last line)

Women and their trust issues 🤌 (esp last line)- Grapevine

Ok so i was traveling back from home when my overnight bus arrived early at 5.30am at the destination. It was still a bit dark. I had to book a cab for my place but an autowala was very persistent on taking me to my destination and even after i told him 3-4 times (even rudely) he didn't stop asking about my destination and saying "chalo na madam" while getting too close physically. This man standing besides me had booked another Uber and his cab had arrived. After boarding his luggage he simply asked me "is your cab here?" I said not yet. He asked me if he can wait till my cab arrived and I agreed. It was just 2 mins for him but it was a huge deal for me since I felt safe in his presence while he even asked the autowala to stand away. He made sure my OTP was verified and then left on his way. Thankyou for making me feel safe.

To the man who waited for me till my cab came

Product Owner

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

Why did your last relationship/situationship fail ?

Senior software engineer

I'm a 25 y/o F. Met my schoolmate through Instagram. For 6 months we were dating. I clearly mentioned him that if we are getting involved physically then we should define our relationship as a long term one. I trusted this guy and went ahead in getting physically involved multiple times. The chemistry was so good and irresistible for both of us. He was giving me signals like saying “now I'm taken I guess “ “ i’m not a person who leaves someone just like that “ “ i’ll take care and not leave “ and all on top of this he was planning a trip with me. And in the starting of this relationship his ex girlfriend who got married called me and threatened me and she in fact bitched about me to this guy. He promised me that he will end things with her and she will not bother me. Ah for god’s sake I feel like a dumb ass for trusting this guy... Two days back he sent me a group pic where he and his married ex girlfriend was smiling. I asked him why would you send this pic at least you could have cropped your part and would have shared. He agreed that sending that pic was his mistake. Later I called him and playfully asked him to delete all his ex pictures because he had cried to me in the past that she had manipulated him hence out of care I asked him to stay away from the memories of her. That's were he got triggered and said me to stay out of his “personal things” he tells me how his 6 year relationship with her transformed him and he would like to revisit those memories it seems… honestly I felt like hitting hard rock at this point and I started to cry to my friend telling that I have been cheated. I then took time and called this guy and said hey I'll be there for you if you want to communicate about this. I'm interested in having a future with you. For which this guy breaks the ice telling me he doesn't have even little feelings about me or any love for me. Then I asked if you wanted to have a casual relationship you could have upfrontly said. At least I would have not had any expectations. Two days had gone still feeling hurt. And processing shit. To all women out there never trust words of men. Period. It might trigger some men her, but it is always a man!!!

A School friend who still thinks about his ex gf, used me for his fun.

Brand communications

What were the myths about opposite gender which got broken after you interacted more with them with course of time...

Negative or positive both will work.... Just be respectful....

Myths about opp. gender broken after increased interaction....

Software Developer

Were you ever close to getting married to someone but didn't? What was the reason?

Despite the "modern era" we live in, many of us still find ourselves on the path to arranged marriage—often feeling like it's the only option we have. Speaking from personal experience, I've had my fair share of bizarre encounters. Hearing similar stories from my male and female friends who are also going through this process has provided some comfort, especially knowing that I'm not alone. 
Let's use this comment section to share our experiences—whether they were bad, weird, gut-wrenching, blood-boiling, or even heartbreakingly disappointing

Controversial Arranged Marriage Meet Ups

I recently got married, it was an arranged marriage. We both are polar opposites. I dont go around telling my family or her family about our day to day affairs. But she gives full report of my life and my family's affairs to her family. During both family get togethers, I come to know that she has given complete info of my life. Her extended family also knows my complete life routine/friends/finances, etc. 

I brought it to her notice already but seems she still informs them everything. How do I have this conversation with her and make sure I am able to build trust with her?

How to build trust with your newly wed partner?

Sales Leader

The Nice Guy Trap : Being overly agreeable and trying to win a woman's attention by being too nice can backfire. It often leads to being friend-zoned or overlooked because it reduces perceived attractiveness.

2. Attention Isn't Free: Attention is valuable, and giving it away too easily (e.g., always responding instantly) decreases a man's perceived value. Men should be more mindful of how they give attention.

3. The Authenticity Principle: Women prefer men who are genuine rather than those who just agree to avoid conflict or seek approval. Trying too hard to please can come off as inauthentic, reducing attraction.

 #women #psychology

❤️🎎The post is a thread about why being "too nice" can negatively impact a man's chances with women. The key points include:

Finance Consultant

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Basically some of my work friends and I went to Thailand. We had a gala time there and explored a ton of places. All of us stayed at this really nice hotel which had a beautiful swimming pool. We went swimming there quite a few times. 

So, I have a DailyObjects bag that I got for free on my purchase. I use this primarily for carrying towel, undergarments, swimsuit, sunscreen etc. Another colleague of mine has the same bag with the same colour. 

He accidentally took my bag and I took his. I got to realise this when I opened the bag and saw swimming trunks and a book. I called to tell him about it and it was too late.

His wife picked up the phone and enquired about why I had placed my undergarments in her husband's bag. I clarified that it is just a mistake and that we accidentally swapped our bags but she was not budging. So I hung up after getting scared.

She has called me 5-6 times in the last week but I am too scared. What should I even do? Whenever I try to explain the situation she starts screaming at me again. It was a simple mistake but this woman is overreacting and my colleague also agrees. 

She's completely psycho and thinks that I am trying to steal her husband.

Colleague's wife is screaming at me on call.

Analyst

I met a guy over reddit few weeks ago. We both talked about our workplace issues, about mba entrance exam prep and few other things. He mentioned he liked talking to me and so did I.

But he never told me his name or anything about his identity as he mentioned how people spend a lot of time in the beginning to get to know each other and this might be a distraction since both of us are preparing for mba entrance this year.

Few days ago, he texted me that this texting consumes a lot of time and energy and he feels exhausted and he doesn't have the bandwidth as he needs to fully focus on his preparation for now.

So he stopped talking to me and mentioned how he is still interested in being friends after the entrance exam in November.

I want to understand a guy's perspective here. Do guys leave everything to focus on their career? Am I being unreasonable for feeling bad about this situation? Is it okay to sometimes prioritise career in our 20s and leave everything else? I feel there could be a balance but would like to know a third opinion.

Met a guy over reddit - he suddenly stopped talking to me

External Audit

Disclaimer: This is not a dating post

Started casually speaking to this guy from Grapevine. I got the confidence that he is genuine, so we chatted (no long chats or daily talk) over Instagram for 4-5 months. 
He had to fly to Bangalore for some work, so we planned to meet. He was all excited and decided the place too. We met for lunch; nothing shady or that would make me uncomfortable, he had some work so left after that. 

We had exchanged numbers, and I thanked him over Whatsapp. It was all cutesy and funny for a day. I even shared some ice cream place I went to, the next day with friends. 

And then talks went to zero. Anything I shared got a one-word responses. 
So I stepped back; no point being pushy even in friendship. We haven't talked for over a month now.

But he was (is) such a nice person. I don't know why he would just stop talking for no reason. 
Is it something I did or said? Was he expecting something different that I didn't do?

Do I send him some meme or something?
Am I overthinking? He could be simply too busy to talk to someone he met once

Need Help decoding this Situation - Guy suddenly went silent

Background
During a trip to Thailand, me and a colleague accidentally swapped bags. When I called to explain the mistake, his wife accused me of trying to seduce her husband. She harassed me with phone calls, and later threw eggs at my residence. Then, set her husband's bag on fire and got into trouble with the police. She was then arrested.

For full context: https://share.gvine.app/FdwwvTcDLzaK6i2a9

I would also like to address those who said that the story is fake. It isn't. I genuinely posted this here because as a woman it is hard to find spaces online to vent my frustrations. I was genuinely distressed at the moment and my flatmates did take care of me. I also received tons of support from the community here and I am thankful for that.

Here's what happened next:
I decided not to press charges as I am living away from my family and I don't want this to be the reason they start interfering in my personal freedom. Over the weekend, she apologized and invited me for dinner, I obviously declined because she acted all insane before.

But she is literally so dramatic that she lied to everyone that I came to her house and hit her so hard that she puked all over her clothes. Thankfully, their society has CCTV coverage and I didn't even leave my home all weekend. So, no one believed her this time. 

Our group thankfully supported me throughout this and the colleague is no longer in the group. Now, I just want to get over this traumatic experience which when I look back at is too unreal to even think about.

Here's what happened next, after Police arrested my Colleague's Wife

This is coming from a guy
I know you dont get asked this question as most people assume that you have more options than men so its easier to make the switch.

But having options "may" not always make things easier. Every bond is different. 

And most mature women never go for temporary validations (rebounds, intoxications etc)

Would love to hear about the triggers that follow, and their respective coping mechanisms 

Open up ladies !!!
Stanley Hudson is curious

Women of GrapeVine, how do you handle an emotional rejection ?

Data engineer

I will keep it short.

So I know this guy who goes to the same gym as me, 

The dude always looked kinda lonely so I would often greet him good morning or howdy,

However, I never got a chance to sit and talk to him as he always seemed in a rush,


Yesterday, I saw him talking to one of those  E-Girls on Instagram in the locker room, you know the ones which offer sexual video calls in exchange of a few thousand rupees,

I unintentionally read the chat while he was reaching out for his sipper,

And I saw "I dont want to have sex, I just want to talk to a real woman about my mental issues" something


While this sounded absurd and funny to me in the first moment of reading it, It left a resounding wave of abyss in me.
On how some people could be extremely lonely , and all they need is a hug !!!!

While his actions may not be the most mature of all, I do recognize this feeling. 


Afterall,
Duniya mein bohot gamm hai,
Apna dukh toh fir bhi kam hai.

Adulting: An Eye-Opening Experience

On lighter note, for all those who are crying not all men, this is for you guys 😬

The man, the myth, the legend 😂😂😂

Product Manager

I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work.

During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday.

In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. 

She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. 

We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened.

In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her.

I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. 

Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. 

We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. 

I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. 

Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

When I chose Love over my Career: My Story

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I am dating this girl for an arranged marriage setup, we have met multiple times(6-7 times) and almost all the time, i paid for it. She did not even attempt to pay or even ask for it. 

In another instance, she took me to a mud doll shop yesterday and I had no idea she was taking me there. She chose some mud doll which cost 2k and asked me to pay for it. 

It's really putting me off, is it normal or should I call it off???

Should I call it off??

Founder

I have a long ass layover at this really boring airport and its driving me crazy. 

I'll go first: 
I have never been to a police station 


C'mmon folks, we are anonyumous anyway !

Anyone up for Never Have I Ever?

Adding context as link. 

3-4 months ago I shared my story on Grapevine about the brutally traumatising experience I faced at the hand of my colleague's wife who had accused him of committing adultery with me. This was obviously a bogus claim over a small misunderstanding around a bag which had gotten exchanged with my swimsuit in it.

Here's what happened afterwards.

I was out jogging last week in the morning. I've been trying to get in better shape for this summer as I'm planning on going for a beach vacation in. couple of months. After sustaining Zone 5 consistently I was going through my cooldown regimen for normalising my heart rate. 

Suddenly someone tapped my shoulder from behind and it was none other than that colleague's bitchy wife. She had shaven her head weirdly. This was extremely problematic imo because she is a known deranged person(read the last post to figure out why). I tried walking away but she started blocking my way.

I asked her what happened and she said that she was sorry for what happened and started crying. She said that her husband said that she had humiliated him and that people at work didn't talk to him properly for weeks because of what she did. 

I started walking slowly while acting engaged in her dialogue. As soon as I was about to reach the end of the park I started running towards my car that was parked outside and drove off.

I am very worried. Is she stalking my whereabouts? What should I do? My flatmates are trying to console me but I thought 4 months down the line everything was forgotten. I am extremely paranoid about what is happening.

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