Jericho
Jericho

Are you happy with your marriage?

I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🀧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking.

Help me guys 🫑.

6mo ago1.6K views
RealWind
RealWind

I am a 25 year old female making 80+LPA. My boy friend, 29 who I am marrying this year earns 25 LPA. One should not think about how much their partner is earning, rather maturity, growth mindset, compatibility, mutual respect, alignment in principles and future plans, the partners ability to adapt and work together during tough times and disagreements is more important. At the end of the day having money but no peaceful and happy life is not where you would want to end up.

StrAngEr
StrAngEr

Nah u r just flexing at this point xD

ExoticCold
ExoticCold

πŸ‘‘ you dropped this queen

ThanosIsRight
ThanosIsRight

at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background

I'm glad you didn't say "Only candidates from IIT/IIM can apply for this position".

jake_peralta_B99
jake_peralta_B99

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CheckOut
CheckOut

Many times, it would be a big no for IIT/NIT girls atleast.

Skewed ratio in these colleges have messed up their mind. Men find happiness elsewhere but generally not thereπŸ˜…

Millennial_genz
Millennial_genz

I might receive a lot of criticism for this, but honestly, from a woman's perspective, you are setting the wrong rule. If you are looking for a girl who makes at least 70% of your salary, then in my knowledge, all those girls are already looking for a guy who is earning at least 2x her salary. And for her, there are still going to be many options. You might need to reconsider this filter of yours. 🫠

ThanosIsRight
ThanosIsRight

And from a guy's perspective - hey, you're pointing out the right problem with your statement. However you're not stating the solution.

I can assume a few

  1. Get hotter so the guy will fall in the niche bunch for the girl (easier said than done).
  2. Lower your expectations. Don't bring money into the equation. Bring intellect, but not money.
  3. Stay single

For guys, option 3 is the easiest choice.

Luccha_Lafanga
Luccha_Lafanga

Don't be so attached to your money and success. It can fall off any given day. Don't be so technical about finding a partner, life doesn't work that way. Just find someone whose company you can enjoy. Find someone who is adjusting and kind-hearted. 15 years from now, you will be need someone you can come home to, and nobody wants to come home to a fucking jerk.

Go easy, find someone who is good hearted, baaki sab chutiyapps hai. All this 70% and 20% won't amount to much in a few years in your life.

Toastie
Toastie

Heavy agree.

FindingHorses
FindingHorses

True that

Welt
Welt

I would suggest removing the salary bar and academic background,
You are already 0.1 % in male salary holders.Even Asking for a girl who makes 70% of your salary is next impossible.
Assuming you are going to marry someone who is less than your age,then she should be a fresher or someone with less than 4 years of experience.
Open up Glassdoor and do your analysis.

I am sorry to say this if you set too many conditions on finding someone you will end up single for the rest of your life.

Look for maturity in a person who wants to get married to you.
Also I would suggest you lie about you salary as well( lower your salary) or else you will attract too many gold diggers.

Here is my story:
I revealed my salary to my parents.My parents started flexing my salary with relatives and friends (of course they 1.5x my salary)
I started getting marriage invitations out of nowhere.
I talked to my parents, Now i don't reveal how much I make to them.(Only my brother and a few of my close friends know how I actually make)
Of course I take care of parents,pay internet,hospital bills etc.

Yes marriage is essential part of life,You decide when you should get married as long as you marry someone who is mature and hardworking.
It doesn't really matter how much they make be it 2LPA or 1Cr they will succeed in life and be a better companion for you.

Good luck 🀞

StrawberrySmoothie
StrawberrySmoothie

Great advice about salary

ExoticCold
ExoticCold

great advice

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