The older I get, the lesser my excitement becomes for festivals

Moved to a city from a Village. I felt the same. The reason is that cities are culturally and morally bankrupt. Except mindless consumerism and inflated egos , cities teach you nothing. The longer one lives in cities, people just become animals in fine clothes.

My man it's time for marriage

I am still excited for the food on festivals. So that's one good thing left (till now)

Bhai jitna ho sake dosto se milo, touch mein raho. Bohot panga hai bhai.

Seems as if all the things we heard as children from elders, films etc. about life are coming true. Life is stressful. 2/10. Wouldn't recommend. (P.S. Fresh bhai yha logo ko ping krdete. Koi na shi mai to milne aa jaata)

You are stuck in a rut my friend. One thing I will advise you before you get married is: go travel solo! You have the time and the money, and most importantly probably the health. Solo travelling will inspire confidence in you like no other, and will lead you to rediscover yourself (as in what actually you want in life). The answer always lies within us: we just need to tap within ourselves and that doesn't happen when you are trapped in a rut, you just need to keep moviny and discover new things and in the process, yourself!

Try ritualizing festivals. Ritualizing makes you feel fuller. Every time you hit a target, your dopamine also gets a hit. A ritual is a target associated with a reward, punya/paap for festivals. Try satsangs or something like art of living where you will find a younger crowd.

1.Old movies dekhna start Karo 2. Leave IT job and start murgi firm.

Not just festivals. Everything in general. Things aren’t the same. The experiences that once filled me up with thrill, feel monotonous now. All pleasure has evaporated

I moved to BLR and I miss my home badly In my hometown (state) Goa we celebrate shigmo before holi, where I am very much involved to the event and miss hearing to sound of dhol tasha and the chants of "Shabai... ", "Hargayo..."

Very true. Was my first holi in Bangalore and there was absolutely nothing to do. I think the best we can do is have a circle of friends, meet them as is traditional on festivals. That's the best you can do. I think constantly changing jobs and cities has this negative impact - you miss on building meaningful long term relationships.

Why is this post giving me existential crisis. I didn't even play holi while growing up. Is there term for feeling nostalgic for something you never did?

I lost interest in festivals when I stopped believing in God. Been more than a decade now. However, I can feel some excitement around in the air during Diwali and the Christmas-New Year week. Maybe because of the lights that add up to our eyes. Otherwise I'm busy planning my long weekend trip or a vacation whenever there is a festival. Probably the only good thing that happens because of religion.

Us moment bhai

This is usual and I also connect with this. The one remedy is to meet friends often, once a month to once in 2 months. You will lose connect with human side or else.

Simple thing is festival gives you chance to be happy, now take it or leave it and that's how the life works ! No one will come to you to make you happy as the Bollywood shows, you yourself need to grab each & every chance to be happy, enjoy, party, be happy, celebrate... One can even celebrate, that nothing went wrong today, and one may remain sad after earning crores thinking others are already way ahead... It's on you... Other thing is spirituality, but people will start mismatching vibes, so leave it. But you yourself should explore the way too

True I'm 24 and I have already lost interest in festivals due to my office work and qualification

Very similar situation to mine. Only I have opted to be like that as it is actually better to not celebrate any festival or any occasion at all. I think of everything logically and realised that these occasions are just people behaving like a tribe and celebrating the more famous or entertaining tribal activities just because they don't have anything more important to do or society compels them to indulge. I would suggest to quit thinking about this shit and stay at home where you can at least be proud that you didn't actually waste resources like others. Be online and read different topics, gather information, do research, keep yourself busy in meaningful things as there are many to spend time on. Realise what all things are actually happening all around and you will come to know how useless topics were you worried on.

Try having kids. You will surely enjoy more than them

Friendships, relationships take time and effort yaar. My suggestion to you is open your heart and mind and do things that you like and then share and you’ll find your tribe.