Try to have a call/video call before the first date. Always take their phone number/insta id before agreeing to meet, plenty of ghosters and shady folks these days.
Always try to meet outside for the first date. Don't go for drives. Those kinda dates almost never end up going well in the long run. Ask to meet halfway, don't go out of your way just to meet someone.
Don't meet someone with the expectation to start dating or getting married right away. Get to know them as friends first. Everything else later.
Date for 2-3 months at least before committing to be exclusive, don't rush into things and keep your options open.
Do not go for dates when you're feeling down or depressed. Meeting a stranger most likely won't help, it'll only distract temporarily.
Draw up a list of things you want and don't want in a partner. Should have at least 5-6 points on both sides. Pointless to date without knowing that much, but the list will also change with time.
Keep an open mind, try to be empathetic, and have fun. Don't compromise just to please the other. Learn to take a stand and draw boundaries from the start.
Use protection always, no matter what. And also have some self defense prepared just in case (for all genders).
Having met hundreds of people through dating apps in the last decade, these are a few rules I formed for myself over time. Hope they help :)
@Rorschach you seem to be very expert and experienced in datings..and may have gone through many ups and downs through dating if I am not wrong 😉🤪
Or as a guy to other guys focus on building yourself.
Get rich and go to the gym everyday. Girls will come to you and you'll have a much healthier relationship than you'll ever have by superficial attraction.
Being a fit rich guy after 25 is like being a bombshell hottie in college.
And you think gym bodies aren't superficial? 😂
Everyone should work on themselves constantly. But that doesn't mean you can't look for dates at the same time. Partners help you improve too, sometimes they're even better motivation than anything else.
What's superficial about building your health which has quantum benefits on other aspects of your life?
You clearly don't know the definition of superficial.
Dating is good and fine no doubt. But the above list is for someone who is willing to spend a considerable amount of time and energy on it. That is NOT good for a young person.
Sure keep an open mind and look for a good partner but you're much much better off focusing inwards.
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