Families are now in talking stage and it is brutal

I've been of the opinion that I don't want to marry and will enjoy life single. Turned 28 this year and for some reasons, my thoughts and perceptions changed and decided to give it a shot. Installed a matrimony app and didn't find much things happening there until I found a girl whom I thought I would give a try. I requested a match which got accepted very soon. Fast forward, it's been 2 months since we whastapped each other. The only thing bothering me is that she's working in audit and says that she's too busy for texts, calls etc. And over the course of this 2 months period, we only managed to call each other thrice(including 1 video call). I had asked her to atleast try to call me but she's too busy/ not feeling well/ tired etc. I really had feelings for her initially, but even after multiple attempts, she still keeps me waiting, I feel I'm slowly losing it and have reached a stage where i don't feel anything. What should I do? P.S. we live in different time zones with a difference of 1.5 hours and by the time I'm back from gym, it'll be 11-11:30 pm her side. I try to have food and everything very quickly and make time for her everyday, only to be disappointed most days. And most of her texts are scattered, with time gaps ranging from 10-16 hours at times. She tells me she's too exhausted and has no energy for anything but I am cent percent sure that she is using phone for insta, twitter etc even when my chats are waiting.

Nowadays people are facing lot and lot of mental health issue and this generation is facing more beacuse of social media and other factors. I have my family where everyone is very tough and have their own ego and anger issues. Its like if we meet there is 110% chance that we will end up with argument or fights (verbally). This had made everyone alone in life and far from each other. Evn between siblings we have such bad relationships due to our ego. what's ideal case and what is not i m not able to differentiate since I have not seen such family with 0 faults but mine is extreme I think. Whatever I try my best but our trip or any meet up will end up with fight and thn we don't talk for days and months . This is affecting me mentally and I couldn't do anything about it. Are any one of u facing such family problems.

I (28, Hindu Brahmin) am in love with this (30, Sikhni) girl. We are together in relationship from last 5 years. I am trying to convince my mom for marriage but she is not getting convinced. We have being in relationship for very long and she(girl) has waited for a very long time for us to get married. Everytime I talk to my mom, she says, you get married but don’t involve me. Girl’s family came to meet my mom, there also my mom denied. I said that I want to get married to this girl only. Girl’s family they are trusting me to get married to her only. They didn’t resisted much. I and girl’s family decided to get married in December, and have planned everything. I hve invited only my friends and girl’s family is also having few closed relatives. My mom is still not getting convinced. She is not talking about marriage at all. What should I do? On top of that my sister, is saying that I am rushing into it. Though it is clear my mom is not going to be convinced. What should I do? Getting stressed a lot. Anyone else who faced the same, going through it or anybody else who can share their pov or any idea around what should be done?

hi all, Please just pour some ideas ,I am in relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years,My parents are accepting my love .THe problem here in his mom don't get to our marriage untill his elder brother gets married but my parents are urging me to get married before his elder brother .....or asking me to call off as I am 27 dont know what I need to do and his parents are coming to my home to have a word with my parents whatif there will be clash between 2 family I am very depressing with this ....please pour some suggestions

I am in early 30ts F, Family wants caste marriage, but most of the PPL from the community is not okay with my independent thinking and growth mindset. Each conversation goes back to me being married to a family where I will need to go few years back in my life to adjust with the thought process. Am I being unreasonable? This is getting too much to handle, so many conflicts with my family, today it was upto the extreme that I felt like I am being burden too them and they will be better without. Never before ever I had this feeling of leaving the world with this ease. I want companionship in my life, but caste apparantly is really important for my parents. They agree that it is rare to find someone with the morden thinking in the caste due to the traditional norms and not many ppl getting oppertunity to come out and explore other parts of the country. I am really afraid of being trapped in the system is I marry in the caste. I don't know how to navigate this. These days whatever my family things whatever I say and talk is against them. These chaos is becoming too much for me to handle too.

I am 33M, started working at 20. Earned 87LPA when I was dropped off in June 23. I am a very responsible person who had taken care of everything in the family for quite some time. My parents and relatives and everyone else who know me well, know this and kost have appreciated this at some point. My sister separated from her husband 6 months after my marriage and had been living with me and my wife since then till COVID hit. My mother has anger issues and my father is very obedient to her. I love my parents and they loved me I think. Post COVID I moved to my hometown (because family) and things started going downhill. My mother will almost entire day find every faults in my wife and share it with everyone with an angry tone. I just listened to her initially for 2 years but at times I told her that it's enough. Now she has started fighting me. After the fight I would go and apologize to her knowing that it's not my fault just to make things right. This time when my mother fought with me she taunted me that you will come back and apologize. This hurted me even more than the fight. Now I am not going back to apologize and she's escalating it every day. Convinced my father and my eldest sister(happily married) that I am a bad son. Shares messages like "maa bap ko pareshan krne vale bachho ko kya fal milta hai" in WhatsApp groups. She has even asked me to vacate home. I am unemployed at the moment and I told her I will when I have a job. I don't know how to deal with it. I can't convince people in the family that she has anger issues.

I see a lot of girls today have this condition of not staying with in-laws after marriage. I want to know the opinion of both genders on this. As I myself don’t understand what difference it makes. 🫠

Few days back I shared the issues with my love marriage: https://share.gvine.app/MqNSaoaojCmwsXbB7 Lot of love and support from you people. So finally the day is near. Not much change in my family’s stand! Few conversation where they started becoming supportive of me but that came along with the question of postponing the marriage. Again after every support, their was push to not do the marriage. You will regret later, she is not good etc etc. My mom, today she even asked that the girl need to leave her well paying job! I am feeling so so ashamed of all this happening around. I am feeling guilty for both the family. I am feeling guilty that I should not have carry forwarded the relationship. Over these, I have started realising that how societal powers can make a human sacrifice their own self. If I choose to not marry(Assumption) how I am going to sacrifice myself only for my mother’s happiness. Idk what happiness she will get by marrying me to someone of her choice. I am sure of all the marriages that are happening around, more than half of it must be broken or shallow marriage. I am greatful to have friends who are around, who are coming to attend marriage and are supporting me. I am also greatful to girl’s family. They are supporting the relationship! Plz share your nlessing for us! Will share a pic from marriage!