Alone

I am 21 years old. I have good offers (20lac+) from good companies, but I am not happy. I always feel that something is missing in life, I don't know what and why I feel so. I tried to get in a relationship, but whenever I express this feeling, things get bad between both of us. I really want to love and get loved. I have been living my life alone for about 3 years now. I want to make friends, and I want to be in a relationship, but the last 3 years have not been nice to me because of which I don't like going out and having fun. I was in a depression and a workaholic nerd for the past years and feel that now I have got wired in such a way which is not letting me have fun and enjoy life. I find myself lonely. Whenever I don't have anything to work on, I get anxious, and I get this question, what am I doing with life. Maybe I am feeling lonely while writing this post and may sound little gone case. Open to your suggestions, do share your stories if you have been through this phase. Is it normal to feel like this?

What does this feeling of loneliness teach me about myself and my needs?

hi guys, I feel so lonely these days , I feel no one is there to talk with me I have so many "friends" everyone is busy in their life I feel I need someone to talk at anytime, can share my thoughts. any solutions?

Have you felt that the conversations with your work buddies and away from office buddies are not that fulfilling? Like you might be passionate about so many stuffs but you just don’t have that passion in anyone around you and you end up being yourself, overtime becoming very lonely while still consuming content at high pace. Do you feel lonely? If yes how are you dealing it?

I never had a gf in my life. Loved lot of girls, asked 2 but was rejected. Still looking for someone, although nothing solid yet. But now I have grown paranoid of relationships. Now I don't believe if someone will love me back. If I do find someone who shows interest, I feel like they will leave me eventually so I don't go ahead. I am stuck in a catch 22 situation, I cannot trust someone but I also need someone. I have tried telling myself that I don't need anyone, I should focus on my goals and dreams. And I do focus, but then it comes back to me. I get lovesick and I can't go on. I exercise daily, work on daily tasks, practise for interview as I am planning to switch, play badminton with friends. And still when the day ends, I feel need to hold hands with someone. Don't misunderstand this for loneliness, I love being alone and I prefer to be that most of the time. When I want to have some company, i go eat, play with friends. I have tried finding different cures for this feeling, like exercise, games, friends but nothing has worked out yet. It's not even sadness, it's just empty void. How do you get rid of this emotion?

It feels sometimes so alone in these big cities. How you people deal with it

Nowadays, it is difficult to maintain friendships (old friends) as many are pursuing dreams and for that one has to shift for other countries/state and the rest busy with there jobs and family business. New friends are difficult to make where people already have there groups of bunch of friends where they don’t want anyone else to join (old friends groups) & also as the smaller groups are easy to manage and for execution of any plans. While growing up due to change in habits (smoking, drinking, etc) of our friends we did lose few.. and now they don’t call me up for any plans! So, basically i am left alone with nobody by my side apart from cousins of same age (more or less)! Most of the time, I spend my day working on my business.. or at times, working out or reading books.. But at times, i am left alone with my own thoughts and that feeling at times is exhausting and frustrating and sometimes this loneliness becomes toxic! Can anyone help.. how can we make friends in midst of all this?

I am currently in college. I don't know why, but I constantly need to be around people to feel happy, otherwise I feel depressed. I feel I don't have any value and will have any value only if someone else approves me. I fear going for lunch or dinner alone. I fear people will judge me if they see me alone. I am scared to be lonely. Why?

Hi Everyone Tech stack is Java and SQL(dropwizard) been there for 1.5 years but still don't have much idea abt infrastructure of codebase.Have Developed Resources as API but Feels Insecure and Imposter.They've supported in my Sick Phase (Anxiety, Depressed phase) but Still feel lot Anxious bcuz of lack of knowledge (my mistake+colleagues bad behaviour resulting in low self esteem and facing lot of Self image issues bcuz of that. I need Help but also feel pressurized to work till late. Should I Leave(dont have much confidence left in myself and that place feels comfortable -(not that much mental effort for daily tasks) I need Help for Mental Issues but I'm in New place and even my Hometown is not that much developed. I feel very very lonely and Helpless Only good time is Gyming which gives some relief. How should I Handle myself?

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them. I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions. I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair. Is life all about suffering and pain?