I'll go first. I became way more patient and empathetic, translating to much improved people skills at work. Please mention the positive changes only. The small negatives are too minor in the broad...

I'll go first.
I became way more patient and empathetic, translating to much improved people skills at work.
Please mention the positive changes only. The small negatives are too minor in the broad scheme of things as parents i believe.

Did becoming a new Parent change you professionally?

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Did becoming a new Parent change you professionally?- Grapevine

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DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

We are a DINK couple (live-in, will get married soon) and absolutely no plans to have kids. Maybe be a DINKWAD someday by adopting an indie. Also no plans to buy a home or spend on our marriage. This is not a financial decision (both of us are doing decently well in our careers) but we don't want to have a child knowing how nothing around is improving and we don't want to sacrifice the best years of our lives by doing this. We are building a large corpus to be financially independent and travel without any financial restrictions.

Growth Manager

Software Engineer

Everyone knows about the relatively young median age we have India. So consequently, we are going to be having a burst of newly weds and their subsequent kids. This would also be a generation where we see both parents working instead of one parent staying home(rent ain't cheap).

So, few questions to new parents who are both working jobs: 
What were major problems/stressors you faced in early years of parenting ? (Specifically between 0-2 years of age where babies require alot of care) 

What parts of early years of parenting strained your work life the most?

What parts of the early years of parenting gave you guys the most joy?

Would love to know more.

New Indian parents, What are your problems?

Machine Learning Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

How did your personal life affect your professional life ? Share your positive/ negative experiences.

A lot. 
 Sister suffers severe psychological ssues. 
 Has been known since 4 years. Can't leave her alone. Trying to get her up on her feet has been a challenge since such people are not that socially acceptable. 
 We've had to juggle cities just so that someone is there to tend to her.  
 It drains the life out of your life. 
 Such things definitely affect professional life as you can't give 100% to your work when your mentally stuck at your home.

Software Developer

Product Manager

People with kids: What's different in your parenting than your parents?

Consultant

I am currently expecting, and while I am overjoyed about this new chapter in my life, I've also been facing some unique challenges in balancing my personal and professional responsibilities. 

I believe that some of you have been through similar experiences, and your insights would mean the world to me.

I had a few questions on:

1. When and how did you choose to disclose your pregnancy to your colleagues and superiors? 

2. How did you handle any potential changes in workload or responsibilities?

3. How do you stay energized and focused during the workday, especially in the later stages of pregnancy?

I understand that everyone's experiences are unique, but I believe your advice and insights can provide valuable guidance during this exciting but sometimes challenging time. Please feel free to share some stories that you're comfortable with.

How do I cope with the challenges of Pregnancy while maintaining professionalism?

Parents of GV, what were your thoughts of such innovation after becoming parents

Thoughts after children

I became a new father like a week ago and I work in hardware. It’s already very hectic and has low reward mechanisms. Within next week I will have to leave my baby & wife in the hometown with better care and attention to earn my living in the city. Its not like my org is forcing me & is calling me, in-fact they are nicest I have seen but wish ke thoda time aur hota with zero regrets.

Wish I had work from home!

Product Owner

I am one and I have trouble 
always grew up asking parents, permission, rules 

but some decisions need to be taken on own, even smallest 
but the continuous overthinking complicates it further

Shower thoughts: Do eldest kids have trouble decision making?

Women who have rejoined rat race after pregnancy 

I have ultimate respect for you. Pregnancy is not easy. Post paturm is not easy. Working a job while having a new born baby is definitely not easy.

But if your answers are about this, rather than the skills I am hiring for, how do I make a judgement if you can do the job?

I think bit of it stems from them feeling left out, guilty of taking a break. Why can't they view it as a challenging phase of life and focus on their individuality.

Easier said than done, but sincerely HR who doesn't know if I can hire you

Hiring Observations: From newbie recruiter

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I’m a functional head, new dad and struggling to find my balance with work and parenting. Any tips? How do I win both parenting and work? Right now the split is more like 70-80% parenting, but 20-30% work. Need to balance it out

Any tips for a new dad trying to balance work while being a functional head

Head Of Marketing

As a kid, who wasn't extreme ill-mannered, have had my share of beatings 
I think it is ego satisfaction or let out of anger on something you have produced and feel entitled to use as punching bag

But ones who haven't been subjected to those are in a high of their own.
Feels like they were God sent for leveling up Earth

Hence, extremes.
What’s your opinion?

Thoughts on Gentle Parenting?

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

I see ladies and gentlemen with heavy pay packages (touchwood hope everyone prospers)

How did this money change your life? 

For example, being the child to a single mother I handle all my expenses now. Yes, I come from a middle class family. 

What were your experiences like? Would love to hear how it brought about any mad changes.

How did money change your life?

Marketing Creative

What’s the biggest change you ever made to your life/lifestyle?

so what changes happened in your life after marriage and what were it's impacts on your personal/professional/social life.

What changed after Marriage?

Senior Software Engineer

Finance and personal : 
DINK, but planning. No major savings or investments. Will be only a few lacs (10-15 lacs) before the baby is here. Wife will be off the job for a couple of years. 
Will be living pay-check to pay-check on my income, with a family to support. 


Struggling with health. Gained 20 kgs in 3 years. 
Putting efforts to undo this, but struggling. 

Professional: 
8 yoe+ in Product management. 
Current employer not aligned with long term personal goals ( post 5 years type goals - tier 2 settle in, remote etc ) 
No increment since quite a while…company is growing but slowly. 

Mentally: 
Nothing is making sense. In the larger scheme of things, nothing really matters.
Inertia is there to change job. No motivation to work at all. What will I even do after a job change ?
There is no excitement of the same. 
No excitement of starting up myself either. 
Something doesnt feel right. 

I used to be the powerhouse of energy and motivation, a while back. 
Now I’m just the opposite. Is it fatigue speaking ?

Feeling unmotivated at 32 already, in various aspects of live. Framework to solve it ?

- Let’s create a safe space
- Mention *minimal* information such as you age, gender, etc to add context about you
- Trolls be empathetic and think before you comment to someone.

What are you innermost thoughts and emotions you don’t share with family and friends as they wouldn’t understand?

Welcome to Moving Abroad's Private Community

I’ve had some experience (2/3 of my life) staying abroad but didn’t make it into any full time long term roles and moved to India. But if given an opportunity I do want to go abroad, it’s just difficult. I see folks here that moved back to India intentionally. Why did you do that? What about India made you come back?

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