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Guilt of staying away from home with a remote job

I started working in an early stage startup this year in jan, moved out to bangalore(which I wanted to, since my 3rd year) for it. Now, i had to find a new role recently because things didn't work out, I was so scared that I might have to go back home if I didn't get a new job in time. I did get a new role which is remote and started this month. But even though I always wanted to move away from all the chaos of my dysfunctional household (while still supporting them in all the ways i could) and make a life for me, I now feel if I am betraying them by living here, some of my friends also are doing wfh and that's also nudging me towards this thought. This is the first year of my full-time employment and I'm in a dilemma of what's important career-wise and responsibility-wise.

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by PricklyFax34

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Struggling to feel excited after moving back home. Can anyone help?

So bit of context here. I am a 25 year old Male. Moved to bangalore after 2 years of wfh. Stayed there for a year. Got fed up of my job and toxic workplace tendencies so wanted to resign. Dad had been doing a startup for a bit and he felt I was ready to be useful so he asked me to come. I felt it would good for my career so I moved back. 6 months in I feel mentally drained, and all my limited excitement I feel in life are for the small trips I manage to do where I meet some of my college friends/girlfriend. I had read takes online from people that if I had a chance I would leave everything and be at home with parents, but I just dont feel this way. I love my parents a lot but I just dont feel too much anymore. I dont feel like oh I am so lucky I get to spend so much time with my mother. All of my childhood friends from my city have moved to the US. I have 2 friends(not very close but decent) who I meet sometimes, so life is all about waking up, going to office, coming home and calling my long distance girlfriend (who was with me in Bangalore) and falling asleep with 2/3 hours here and there. I rarely have plans. I feel like I am doing something wrong but I cant pinpoint what. How can I passionately want to spend more time with my parents? I just don’t get it from within. Do I really have to work and find new close friends in the city. People at work keep a bit of distance because my dad is the founder. Anyone with any advice?

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by thebaldking

Small SaaS Startup

What would be your advice for me?

Guys, I recently switched to a startup that is operating fully remotely, where I am working as a software engineer. This is something that I consciously chose as I personally liked working from home. I have 2 years of experience in this field. In my earlier job, I was working from the office in mumbai, so I have lived in the suburbs of mumbai for around 1.5 years. I am turned 25 just a few months back. I come from a small town in Rajasthan. I do have a bsnl fibre connectivity at home, which gives good enough internet connectivity as well. Living in a small town and with parents is great. I save almost all of my salary. Now, here comes the confusion - being early in my career, i feel like I should live in the city, like bangalore, explore more things, but since I already lived in mumbai, to be very honest I didn't liked it to that extent as I am not the party guy, and too many people make it more worse, traffic I am not even considering. I am kind of very simple. Home to office and office to home, on weekends maybe go to temples and explore some places around. I also have food choices, which makes it more difficult to survive. Like I am pure vegetarian and don't even eat onion/garlic, nobody in the home actually eats it. No offence to anyone, but I feel extremely uncomfortable when i am asked to eat at restaurants where non-veg is surved during company offsites and all. Now, just for the context, it's not that I never lived away from family. Actually, I am staying away from my family from very early school days, like 8th/9th standard. And somehow, I managed it all during all those years. That is one of the reasons that makes me feel as if I should spend more time with my parents. What would be your advice for me so that I don't leave behind in my career and at the same time live a balanced and happy life. Also, considering my context, which city would you recommend me to relocate to? Or should I not even think about it?