Aww you’re like my friend who wonders why people don’t want to hangout with him anymore. Life is going to be very had moonpie…

Yeah, don’t really understand why people feel so powerful when they get to point out someone’s grammatical mistakes.

Product Manager

Indians still like to tell everyone that no one can speak their enslaver language better than them. Brown sepoy syndrome ig

AI Engineer

Hope mann ko shanti mili job gavake... Whatever floats your boat man

Founder

This could have been an step up... Now you will never know... The "an" is intentional

Investor

Software Engineer

Not sure why this hate towards the OP. They just pointed out her mistake, that too politely. If she really is shallow enough to take this personally, it's her problem.

Exactly! And correcting anyone irrespective of their position should not come with criticism

There’s a right place and right time for correcting someone’s mistakes. Understanding that makes one sensible. 
  
 You don’t walk into a funeral and correct someone’s grammatical mistakes while they’re paying tribute to a dead person, do you?

Security Engineer

You think you are chad but you are bad my fren 
  
 Good for the jokes tho haha

You are not a bad person but in her story you are a villain

Why the hell you want to burn bridges... You never know that same hr will be join company that you want to join in future and she will reject you based on this experience (if only of some kind revenge minded person)

Product Designer

Posted this on my meme page, took screenshot to post here

Bro went for the kill. Btw the dumb shits saying "burning bridges" don't have any idea how physics and bridges work. Go on KING!

Operations Manager

Corporate Strategist

Actually this is the sign that she typed the messge manually, and haven’t used any GPT engines for it.  
 Proof basically, messages which are human written.

Security Analyst

Once a recruiter sent me a message for an opening which had a few grammatical mistakes in the message. I replied to her with a message 'Good morning, thank you for ...... Etc.' and at the end corrected those few mistakes. I was blocked. 💀

That's stupid of that recruiter! They cannot present themselves in such a way and not get called out lol

Software Developer

Dear OP,  
  
 There is a mistake in your message to correct. It should be 'a requirement', and not 'A requirement. Sorry for being the bad person here.  
  
 Best wishes!

Guys please tell me I'm not a bad person

Guys please tell me I'm not a bad person- Grapevine

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

This is a real problem no one talks about. How do you find the difference?

Deep down, do you think you're a good person?

When I was doing my masters in economics last year, I met a girl. I was instantly attracted to her, however never got a chance to ask her out. Eventually I did, and we went out a couple of times. I really liked her but I think she considered me a good friend. I got mixed messages from her. Once, she sends me text messages in the middle of the night asking me to take her to lunch tomorrow and another she doesn't reply back to me. Anyway I persisted but eventually she kinda distanced herself from the relationship after we hooked up. I had fallen for her but she wanted no part of anything. Didn't return my calls or texts, or when she did made up excuses to avoid hanging out. 

So I told her how I felt. She was angry at me for ruining our friendship even though we hooked up, which she instigated. I never saw her again for the 3 months( she went to Delhi for some work) but she called me occasionally if she needed to talk or something.

So she left and we remained in touch via Whatsapp. On one occasion, I made a passing joke as to how she spent time with every dude there but me. She became very offended and we stopped communication. She started it up again but didn't apologise.

Finally, I actually visited Delhi because another friend of mine was getting married and invited me. I didn't visit her because of time constraints and she became pissed, and wouldn't talk to me, accusing me of doing it on purpose. That was 6 months ago.

I'm going to a friends birthday soon and she's gonna be there. 

Would it be bad for me to hold the grudge? Or should I just let it go.

Bear in mind, she avoided me whilst hanging out with others and then accuses me of avoiding her.
I don't wanna be a douche but I don't wanna be a pushover, someone who can call me whenever and I'll come running.

Please help Grapevine! 🙏🏻

Girl Trouble - Am I Bad?

She's a big red flag. She's either manipulative or moody. We don't need these teasing and chasing games in 2024. 
  
 Move on

Investment Manager

I'm a 25 y/o F. Met my schoolmate through Instagram. For 6 months we were dating. I clearly mentioned him that if we are getting involved physically then we should define our relationship as a long term one. I trusted this guy and went ahead in getting physically involved multiple times. The chemistry was so good and irresistible for both of us. He was giving me signals like saying “now I'm taken I guess “ “ i’m not a person who leaves someone just like that “ “ i’ll take care and not leave “ and all on top of this he was planning a trip with me. And in the starting of this relationship his ex girlfriend who got married called me and threatened me and she in fact bitched about me to this guy. He promised me that he will end things with her and she will not bother me. Ah for god’s sake I feel like a dumb ass for trusting this guy... Two days back he sent me a group pic where he and his married ex girlfriend was smiling. I asked him why would you send this pic at least you could have cropped your part and would have shared. He agreed that sending that pic was his mistake. Later I called him and playfully asked him to delete all his ex pictures because he had cried to me in the past that she had manipulated him hence out of care I asked him to stay away from the memories of her. That's were he got triggered and said me to stay out of his “personal things” he tells me how his 6 year relationship with her transformed him and he would like to revisit those memories it seems… honestly I felt like hitting hard rock at this point and I started to cry to my friend telling that I have been cheated. I then took time and called this guy and said hey I'll be there for you if you want to communicate about this. I'm interested in having a future with you. For which this guy breaks the ice telling me he doesn't have even little feelings about me or any love for me. Then I asked if you wanted to have a casual relationship you could have upfrontly said. At least I would have not had any expectations. Two days had gone still feeling hurt. And processing shit. To all women out there never trust words of men. Period. It might trigger some men her, but it is always a man!!!

A School friend who still thinks about his ex gf, used me for his fun.

Brand Communications

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues.

Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families.

Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices.

Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps.

In the US,
This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides

P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Dating has failed Americans, now it will fail Indians too

Your description of arranged marriages is incorrect. You are given the option that if they liked each other get got married - which was not the case in the last generation. Often times the meetings was just formality, and my own mother met father on the day of their engagement. So nope, they didn’t have the choice to see if they liked each other, their parents made that decision for them. 
  
 Now take that into today’s scenario, how many people in this generation will willingly marry someone their parents has chosen, without any say in it? None. Doesn’t matter what their income is. You yourself are dating.. why? You can ask your parents to find someone for you, if you believe their judgment. The issue is that we don’t, and people avoid admitting that cos they don’t wanna be seen as someone who disagrees with their parents. 
  
 People are free to do what they like, arrange, love, dating, single, unmarried, adoption with marriage. Literally their choice. Nothing is ruining anything, in fact the recent situation in our country, where there are no laws upheld for rich, unemployed where 40% IITians aren’t placed, religious division - are more of a concern than a person’s personal choice. My 2 cents 🙌🏻

Senior Designer

Is it considered offensive?
Is it cheesy if I tell anyone that their new haircut looks pretty ? (It is what it is)

Where do you draw the line?

My take: It should sound modest and respectful given that its a work environment. But you never know when she might get triggered.

Wierd rules.

How do you compliment a colleague without sounding cheesy?

Data engineer

I always looked at her and felt she is so beautiful, charismatic, and had an infectious smile. Looking at her made me smile broo.

Chapter 1
One day I decided to ask her out. I messaged her and our conversation grew then she spilled out that she also liked me a lot. And she was glad that I asked her out.

Chapter 2
She had studied in an all girls school and she had a stereotype about boys that they are all stupid and bad. And girls and boys should never be together. I was fine because atleast she liked me 😂. One fine day she asked me to break up with my brosss. I asked her why?
She said your friends are all playboys and I don't like the way they look at me. (Disclaimer: My bros are really nicest guys and I have known them since childhood they are the best gentlemen). We had an argument which didn't end on a good note.


Chapter 3
I left to a new state for my Job. After I reached there she messaged me that we can't talk and we have to stop whatever we had. I got anxious and worried and spent my 5 months not being able to contact her. I got into depression. Then me being restless on my birthday I came back to my hometown. At exactly 11:59PM when my bday was going to end she messaged me "Happy Birthday". I was so happy to see her message.

Chapter 4
We started talking and she said that she is leaving to Canada for her higher studies. I was happy for her but at the same time I was sad. I didn't want to see her go. We both cried and stayed on call till morning watching each other sleep.

Chapter 5:
She reached Canada and she completed her formalities and procedures. We talked for few more days but then eventually she started giving me hints that she is not interested. Then one day she abruptly messaged me and said we can't talk and we have to end everything. I cried the whole night, because there was no way for me to contact her and she had blocked me.

Chapter 6:
It has been 1 yr to that day. Somehow I have gone numb. I'm slowly forgetting her.

She left me.

Chill. After 5-6 years you will laugh on yourself that why in the world you gave so much importance to her. There is no derth of good women in this world. Moving her away was god's plan, for your good that you might never understand. Take Care!

Consultant

I am in search of a decent person/guy who is intelligent, understanding, trustworthy, caring and have a respect for women and most importantly he should not be a pervert. But I know nowadays it is difficult to find anyone with these qualities...but still my heart says....koi to hoga... kahin to hoga...

Where to find him?

It is difficult to find ladies who do not enquire about ctc/property /investments etc.

Growth Manager

Human Resources

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I am dating this girl for an arranged marriage setup, we have met multiple times(6-7 times) and almost all the time, i paid for it. She did not even attempt to pay or even ask for it. 

In another instance, she took me to a mud doll shop yesterday and I had no idea she was taking me there. She chose some mud doll which cost 2k and asked me to pay for it. 

It's really putting me off, is it normal or should I call it off???

Should I call it off??

You are now turning 30, with no house of your own, no transportation, no relationship, and not financially able to help your family.

Living in a different state, far from your family, you miss all your childhood friends and see them becoming successful in their lives. You are very happy for them and trying hard to achieve what you want, but you still haven’t gotten anything.

But you keep trying……

Is It ok?

Technical Specialist

I am a 2023 graduate, and after receiving a decent job offer, I threw a party for my friends. One of my friends invited his friend who is not my friend, and though I didn't refuse, it later stung me when that person landed a better package. What hurt even more was that he didn't throw a party at all. Now, after a year, I've received a job offer that's a thousand times better than the package he got. I want to post a WhatsApp status flaunting my success only to him, but I'm struggling to come up with a caption that indirectly stings him. Can you help me out?

Guys please suggest some caption that would burn my friend to the core.

Ok so i was traveling back from home when my overnight bus arrived early at 5.30am at the destination. It was still a bit dark. I had to book a cab for my place but an autowala was very persistent on taking me to my destination and even after i told him 3-4 times (even rudely) he didn't stop asking about my destination and saying "chalo na madam" while getting too close physically. This man standing besides me had booked another Uber and his cab had arrived. After boarding his luggage he simply asked me "is your cab here?" I said not yet. He asked me if he can wait till my cab arrived and I agreed. It was just 2 mins for him but it was a huge deal for me since I felt safe in his presence while he even asked the autowala to stand away. He made sure my OTP was verified and then left on his way. Thankyou for making me feel safe.

To the man who waited for me till my cab came

I did that once.. My wife didn't give me food for one week.

Product Owner

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Long post ahead!!!


Its been around a year since I've started working in a service based company as a Frontend dev, WLB, compensation and all is good based on I've just started.
During this year of working I do not feel like I've done anything, our team is working on a product for past 2-3 year and its nearing the completion. My role was mostly to cordinate with testing team and solve frontend bugs and minor addition to the project (which was mostly copy pasting), even doing these minor task took me some time initially and I still have to take help from seniors time to time. 
I got kinda bored with all the repetitive task and I requested my manager to assign me to other development happening within team, he agreed and assigned me some different task but I cant seem to understand anything here, 
I get stuck in the most basic things, I feel stupid when I am not able to come up with easy solutions.

I am seeing other engineers learning new tech stacks in a small amount of time and getting hold of it while i am not able to understand things in my own tech stack.

I've recently gotten a appraisal as well(my company is quite good and gives it to everyone) and I feel like I don't deserve a bit of it.

 I am a 2023 graduate , I did MCA because that was the only good option I could see for myself(mostly cz of money) at that time earlier to that I did a bachelor's (Non CS) without gaining any knowledge of anything.
My basics are not that good, In college my only focus was to get a job so I did DSA and some front-end development using ReactJS(projects mostly code along with ytube) to be able to grab a good placement.

Is software engineering not for me? If no, then how do I overcome this, i don't wanna be a mediocre.

Am I a bad engineer?

I was in a relationship with a guy, who never took me on a date, never gave any flowers or any gifts. Mostly message me and late replies. Has reason for everything. Broke up once but got together again because we were in the same college. Broke up again after college and again coincidentally landed where I live now. In this big metro city he is literally 15mins away from where I live. Again we started to talk, it is same thing now, delay in replies to messages and don't pick up calls. And asked to meet. 
How does this type of guy exist ??

Guys please tell me I'm not a bad person

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