Itna stress kyun le rah hai? Focus on study

You never know if bro is from Rajasthan . Please ignore if you don't get the pun.

Software Developer

Senior Consultant

I am not married so couldn't help much. But one thing I know for sure everything just works out. If you are willing you to let it work out at the same time your other half is also doing the same. Best you can do is be willing to work out.

Marriages do work, but they do take some work to work out. If it is worked upon well from both sides, it could be the single best decision you make in your life.

Product Designer

Married. Not happy. Can’t get out because of kid.

Program Manager

I just want to know how a real marriage life is varied person to person.  Tell the truth and biggest fear of your marriage life .

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

I just want to know how a real marriage life is varied person to person. 
Tell the truth and biggest fear of your marriage life .

How many are really happily married?

How many are really happily married?- Grapevine

Married people, did you have love/arranged marriage? Did things go as per your expectations?

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

Founder

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🤧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking.

Help me guys 🫡.

Are you happy with your marriage?

The post seems to be from a Doctor and the first half sounds more like you're wasting your life if you're not having sex or kids. Like there's no purpose in life if you aren't getting this.

(And that's how India made 130+ crore earthlings!)

33M here and these points sounded fascinating when I was 25-26, but not anymore. Except for the EMI part everything else looks like a blessing instead of being in a bad marriage. If you're in your late 30s and unmarried, how has it been for you?

What does future and "purpose" mean to you at this point of life?

Any 35+ M here and who is going through this?

A couple of other posts are on what unmarried men / women look for in their potential spouses. 

Married folks, based on your experience, what advice would you give people as they are going through the journey of figuring out the right partner.

Married men / women, what’s your advice on this - what factors should one consider while evaluting a to-be spouse?

Growth manager

At 28 years old, I stand at the intersection of tradition and personal choice. My heart carries the weight of past relationships—each one a lesson etched into my soul. Despite the scars, I remain hopeful, seeking a connection that transcends mere compatibility.

Yet, when my parents present potential matches, fear grips me. Will these strangers understand my quirks, share my dreams? Or am I merely following a script written by tradition? Confidence eludes me; uncertainty looms.

Perhaps amidst the profiles lies someone who defies convention—a partner who dances with me on uncharted terrain. Love, after all, isn't a checklist; it's an improvisation, a melody composed in the quiet corners of our hearts. 🌟❤️

Navigating Arranged Marriages

Office Assistant

Anybody here who's in their late 20's and family is pressuring them to get married but you're not mentally ready for the responsibility because maybe first you want to achieve something or be in a better place mentally or financially.

For Indian families marriage is just a checkpoint on their long list of responsibilities like science in school, btech in college, gov vs pvt job and stuff. 

I guess marriage is much more than just a wedding. If you're not mentally ready to have a partner reasons could be multiple like maybe you want to achieve something before tying knot or maybe you want to be at a better place mentally or monetary.

Honestly i dont know how to frame this question 
I just need to know the perspectives of married as well unmarried people or maybe any advice. 

I'm 27 btw 🫂

Thoughts on marriage

Software Engineer

This needs to be cleared out :)
To the men & women in there 30's - 60's.

The answers will be guiding light for many. 

Stay flexi♻️
Let's make grapevine the new reddit 💚

Is s*x really worth the marriage? ❤️

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

I know it's not a good platform to share a personal story but wanted to express myself. I am a software engineer with decent earnings working in Accenture and going to join Deloitte! My family environment is getting worse because of my father's drinking habit. We are not able have a normal topic with happy moment. Every-time I tried to have a discussion it gets into bad fight. I already had a pretty hard heart break and only option I have is family where I am not able to make things right. I am feeling as a failed as a child and not having any expectations from future. I am tired of toxic environment not sure till when I can handle this. I don't want to have any partner in my life as they will face things which I am facing. I suppose leaving life alone is good for me. Alone and happy.

I know sharing this will not change anything. Just wanted to tell everyone keep your family first priority. Without family high paying job will also not give any satisfaction.🙂

Don’t feel to get a married life, feeling like got stuck in life.

25M. My parents keep on asking to get marry Because I am earning.. But the thing is I am not prepared for this, need to achieve my goals, not sure I will be reaching my goals after marriage. more over there are some trust issues on arranged marriages. Also I do get this on my mind some times, does marriage is mandatory, can't we live without marriage, I feel this when I see married people pretends  that they are happy outside but they are not inside, reasons might differ, lack of understanding, compromises, adjustments, Financial instability . I am in full of confused state. I already rejected few matches because of this mixed feelings and also to achieve my goals.

Marriage in Early Stage Matters ?

Arranged marriage only - coz uske baad jo pyaar hota hai, ufffffffff 🕊️

Arranged Marriage Only

Analyst

How's your marriage experience? You can share unique & interesting aspects of your marriage - Good, bad and ugly. 🫂

If possible, you may mention any of the following parameters to give better insights to the reader. 👇

Your Gender - [M/F]
Your Age - [18,21-♾️]
City/State/Country - Any
Education/Profession - Any
Years of marriage - [0-♾️]
No. of kids - [0-♾️]
Rating of your marriage - [1-10]
Your Experience - [1 Sentence - 1 Book]

✅ You may also add your own points like what you like/dislike about him/her, advice to the people who are about to be married.

✅ Don't hesitate to share if you have faced difficult situations like the death of a partner, divorce, cheating, domestic abuse, court cases, etc. 

⚠️⚠️⚠️ Kindly maintain positivity in this post and please follow app guidelines.

💍 Rate your marriage experience 1-10

Delivery Lead

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work.

During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday.

In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. 

She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. 

We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened.

In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her.

I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. 

Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. 

We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. 

I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. 

Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

When I chose Love over my Career: My Story

Growth Manager

“You should get married on time”

To the married folks, would it be different if you would have married later in life? From a personal or objective POV, what’s your take

32+ M here and not yet married.

“SHAADI waqt se ho jaana chahiye”

Hi,

I have been working in the Software Industry for the past 9 years. I feel like I have made a good use of my time and money and maybe some of my lessons can help you folks as well. Recently did a calculation for my NW and I am happy and proud to see my NW crossing 2CR+. I have 0 debt and do not own a house. Here is how my portfolio look like

TC: 1.3 Cr
YOE: 9

I am happy to do an AMA. Ask me anything about tech, career, love, marriage, money management, therapy, songs and movies.
#Ask Me Anything #ama #amazon #atlassian #google #startups #bengaluru #networth #money management #finance #india

Sorry if delay in responses, I'll answer all your questions eventually.

[AMA] 9 years in Software Engineering in India. NW 2.5Cr

I know I'm not the only one having to go through this. Let's speak our heart out.

[Rant] Arranged marriage process

I recently got married, it was an arranged marriage. We both are polar opposites. I dont go around telling my family or her family about our day to day affairs. But she gives full report of my life and my family's affairs to her family. During both family get togethers, I come to know that she has given complete info of my life. Her extended family also knows my complete life routine/friends/finances, etc. 

I brought it to her notice already but seems she still informs them everything. How do I have this conversation with her and make sure I am able to build trust with her?

How many are really happily married?

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