None of these people were attractive, atleast looked basic. But Confident 200%

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I have seen atleast 10+ people (regular people) get married from Twitter. How????!!

I have seen atleast 10+ people (regular people) get married from Twitter. How????!!- Grapevine

Unusual places to meet your partner

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Did you or anyone you know met their now wife/husband on a dating app? What's the story?

Growth Manager

I mean there is fear of so many things, what if we both don't match the vibe, what if he is not supportive, i mean how should a women take decision?

How to find a partner in arrange marriage set up ?

System Engineer

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues.

Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families.

Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices.

Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps.

In the US,
This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides

P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Dating has failed Americans, now it will fail Indians too

Product Manager

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Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

Software Engineer

What are some points to take care of when getting married through an arranged marriage setup?

Married men, what advice would you give for an arranged marriage?

Do people actually find spouses through this shit??

Saw a couple of posts on X claiming (read boasting) India’s divorce rate as 1%. If we believe this to be true, I think this is majorly because of the show-off nature of the society. Almost every marriage I’ve known about in last 5 years has loads of adjustments on the girl’s end. Things might be looking so good on out (instagram pics of holiday, social validation of money and wealth) but scratching the surface yields another story. There are issues with in-laws, random expectations for girl and her family, dowry (“gifts”) and what not. Even the best folks (guy) I know in corporate give in to this culture silently in the name of not going against their family. Would like to hear thoughts on this. Are there stories of mid-age/new couples worth considering ideal?

Indian Marriages

from a guy's point of view:

1. You will get rejected by girls you want and you will reject the girls who want you, it's an endless cycle. 

2. Caste/religion/job/location/money/face : everything matters.

3. When you start talking to a girl, assume she is already talking to 5 guys at least, that's how it works.

4. All the things you want in a person, will start vanishing with each person you talk to, so don't be rigid. You don't know what you want, it will keep changing.

5. People are going to lie about their age/salary/past etc, do your due diligence properly. They are going to pretend to be someone they are not.

6. Be ready for rejections and getting ghosted, hearing absurd rejection reasons.

7. They like to keep their options open, you are not their first priority, sooner you find that out the better or you need to put efforts to become their first priority. 

8. Keep your expectations to a minimum, otherwise it will become the reason behind your frustrations.

9. Don't be desperate. Keep your attention to a limit, if you gave too much, then you would come off as desperate and not likeable.

How to deal with it?
1. It is what it is.
2. If it didn't work, it wasn't meant to be.
3. No effort is a sign of no interest, stay away from such people. They are putting effort for someone else.

If you have someone in your life, keep them close, put in efforts, don't come to matrimony apps.

Matrimony Apps Saga

Senior software engineer

Searching for my lobster since fckin 5yrs and no results!

-Tried through contacts, turned down
- Shaadi/Jeevansathi : No one is serious and the more options I get the more end up confused. Likewise for the other side.

Although in online I get plethora of options,I end up wasting time and money.

95% of the matches are doing window shopping.

This is way way harder then getting into FAANG.

Some stats of me:

Height:6'2
Age:33
Diet: Vegetarian/Teetotaler

Btw feel free to reach out to me here also  😂

Betterhalf search

Technical lead

I have been online on a lot of sites (shaadi.com, Bharatmatrimony etc) for 2 years now but it’s been really hard to get a guy.

There have not been many expectations, just a decently well educated guy who can talk with respect to ladies (I find it really hard to get guys of the latter, on these sites)

Those who were successful in arranged marriage, how did you do it? Any tips please. Should I pay some matchmakers? Suggestions are welcome.

How to find a hubby?

Most of the marriages around me are done through freelancing middle men who show matches.. I have only seen one couple getting married through marriage site and that too it was for second marriage.. till a level I can understand elite matrimonial sites but what about normal matrimonial sites... are people really getting married through marriage sites how many marriages are happening through sites.. how they are earning so much revenue through marriage sites?

How successful are marriage apps?

Human resource

Am in my mid 30s from south working in Mumbai for a PSU. I’ve been declined in matrimony websites owing to location and perception of PSU. Is this the new normal?

Difficulty in finding matches for marriage in Mumbai

Human resources

Been seeing twitter where some girls post pics of guys asking them for a date in a harmless manner and these people putting out chats screenshots !!! 

Do you think these girls are doing the right thing as the guy who asked for a date might feel other way ??? 

Girlzz , boyzz plz express your opinions on this !!!!

Twitter Hungama

Hello! 

I am 26y old currently living in Bengaluru, working in startups, fair compensation. I am looking to find a partner for the intention of marrying in around or less than 2 years of time. 
Have used Bumble and Hinge a lot, went to like 30+ dates in past 2 years, dated few girls but nothing serious came out of it - I think it’s the platform’s problem (anyways, there can be a separate debate for this)

There are old platforms like Shaadi.com, jeevansathi and new platform like betterhalf. I am not very sure on how to go about it? 

Can anyone guide me on this???

Where to find a partner for marriage?

I recently came across this post by a very popular Instagram page. 

I personally believe love is coincidental, doesn't matter where or how you find it, what matters is you find the one. 

But I'm a hopeless romantic, y'all may share your opinions here.

Finding a soulmate, online?

Saw an acquaintance using bumble. The men in  profiles literally look highly successful, From IIT, IIM, NIFT , Founder and what not.

It was really raining overqualified guys on the platform.

Felt like real waste for the first time and thought that hot shot guys like them couldnt land a date, a commoner is out of question.

What do you all say guys ???? That platform instantly makes me introspect where I failed in life.

Ridiculous standards in dating apps.

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too

Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. 

How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings?

P.S:  don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

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