Welcome to Gadgets & Apps's Private Community

I hope at least some of you relate :)

Analyst

I hope at least some of you relate :)- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I am sure so many people would relate to this!

Relatable?

Software Engineer

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Confidence is the key, you see,
To set the table and let it be.
No need to chase, no need to beg,
When your worth shines like a golden egg.

With every stride and every feat,
You beckon others to take a seat.
For when you know what you bring,
You're the feast, the song to sing.

So stand tall, don't hesitate,
Let your confidence radiate.
For those who hunger will surely find,
A banquet of greatness in your mind.


If this felt relatable and made you feel happy, consider sharing it with peers too.

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Founder

I think we fall for people who are opposite to our insecurities. 
And this is beyond how they look, what they do for work, or which school they belong too (that's for arrange marriages 😂 )

I am someone who cannot keep up good habits (for long) and tend to question myself at every step.
People who are disciplined and self aware are very hot to me!

Do you relate?

My Love Theory

My love theory is how comfortable is the silence between you....  
  
 Moreover I had read somewhere and strongly resonate with the fact that you don't know a person well until you : 
 1.travel with them 
 2. Money is involved 
 3. You deal with them when they are angry. 
 4. You live with them

Consultant

Anyone else feels the same?

Process Associate

So relatable

Hey Viners, 

Thought I'll start a thread to share everything that can make each other's holidays better. Let's share our recommendations of what one could watch/hear/play/or do and maybe even tag it so. 

Could end up being a very handy list when one of us is just lying on the bed just scrolling through insta mindlessly or when somebody has ordered some amazing pizza, but it ends up getting cold because you can't find something to watch :p 

Hope you do relate :p 
Let's comment here, and hopefully make it a good set of days :)

[Holiday Megathread]: Cool ideas on what one can do in the holidays (movies/shows/games/music/others) 🎥🎶👾

Corporate Strategist

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

Anyone else in the same boat?

I am working hard on my myself
Gym study work sleep
Make sure everything is completed on time
So that the schedule doesn't mess up

But Why?
I get a feeling of someone I need
To tell everything how my day went
Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon
Theek hai
Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k

In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team

Ghar aata hoon to 
Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon
Na h koi call
Message

Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai
PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath
Akele marna likha hai 
Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai
Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem
Mar rahe hai
These thoughts are winning

.....
Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai
Na h Bhai behen
1 dost hai wo busy rehta

Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta
I close my eyes and cry sometimes
Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai
Kya pap kiya hoga maine

It's lonely, Ain't it?

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

I have done MBA from 7 years of work ex and switched into product management later. I have been struggling for the last 3 years with switching jobs every year post MBA.
 I am not able to find any anchor or goal. Further, wfh doesn't help either 😭😭. I was planning to connect with people who empathize with my situation, any guidance or help.

Is there someone with 10 years of experience who thinks, he is miserable in his current job and dont know what he wants to do in his life?

Product Manager

Literally me right now!!

I feel seen

Instagram drives fomo have created epidemic of status driven consumption like ₹2500 for a one hour class of pottery, strawberry picking for Rs. 2000.

What happened to free activities like playing morning cricket or enjoying IPL finale with your best friends / family . 

Bangalore economy is running on fomo

Bangalore economy is running on fomo

Finally someone said it 🙏  
 Why is Staying at home looked down upon

I haven't been doing mentally well since I don't know when. I've  been extremely self critical about myself to the extent that it has negatively affected my relationship with loved ones. I think I have ADHD as I strongly feel I have the symptoms that are described in YouTube or in any article online. To make matters worse, I am not doing well in terms of my career, my finances have taken a hit, have gained 12+ kilos since a year, unable to focus on work and upskilling and I have anger issues. 
I am 30 YO and I feel my life is turning into a disaster.
Can someone please recommend therapists in Bangalore to whom I can talk face to face? 
I sometimes feel I'm seeking sympathy but in reality, I just need help.
There is a lot of guilt, regret and self hatred rooted deep inside me which has wrecked my confidence, self love, compassion which has started to affect others.
So if you guys know anyone, please let me know.

Need recommendations for therapists in Bangalore

Product Designer

I get a lot of work and sometimes I forget about everything else.

Does anyone relate to this while working everyday?

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

After a few failed relationships, I had an arranged marriage (at that time, it was just to fulfill what my parents wanted). She was a very conventional girl,, never had any relationship before. I was scared going into the marriage too. 
  
 5 years later, she is the best thing that has happened to me. She helped me explore things I never would have. She gave my life a different perspective. 
  
 I'm not saying just because it happened to me, it could happen to you too. I'm saying unless you take the leap you'll never know what you're missing out on.

I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work.

During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday.

In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. 

She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. 

We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened.

In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her.

I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. 

Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. 

We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. 

I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. 

Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

I hope at least some of you relate :)

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