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Hey All, I am writing this to express how I am feeling since last 1 year now. This post will be a bit lengthy but I would be grateful if anyone could help me even a bit. 
I moved into a new company 1year back and due to bad work environment I left. I took a months break and joined a new company now. I have a total 5 years of work experience, my salary is extremely good. ( I don’t worry about this at all for now)

My problem is I don’t know what to do in my life. I guess I have quarter life crisis. 

Earlier I wanted to do music and act , I took professional classes and left because I felt bored idk why. I felt like I need someone to guide me and handhold me since I know no one in this industry. 
Talking about my job I have always moved into roles I loved every bit of work and I m very sincere and hardworking. 
I stopped working out , I stopped cycling, I stopped painting.
I stopped liking everything literally. Idk how to get back at things. I feel I am gonna die anyway why I need to do this , or that or etc etc. I even took counselling but it did not seem yo help me. 

Idk what to do. Please share your experiences too and what I need to do.

Mentally not well!

Market Research

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.

So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.

I realised that,
Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)

My current daily routine is like this:
Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.

School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.

Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.

I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
1. I’m the only son of my parents.
2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.

That’s it
🙏🏼

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Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. 
 Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho

General Manager

Software Developer

Sometimes I usually think, Why do I lose our school and college friends one by one? Is this a sign of maturity, reality, or something else?

I am just 25 years old, and within 3 years I have lost 90 percent of my circle and the few who left, with whom I usually get time to chat, call, or plan to get out.
 
And I feel that some day I will also lose them.

Can you guys make some comments that I have became  matured or that this is the actual reality of damn life?

Is losing friends from school and college a sign of maturity or reality?

Reality of life. 
  
 Some genuine relations will still be there even if you guys aren't meeting regularly or in touch regularly. 
  
 However you can consider other relations as gone. 
  
 With time only you will know which ones are going to fall in which category.

Application Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

And I feel I am a dumb guy. The main thing is they have been very well educated, they have a ton of experience, every tiny detail about these people who I work with is so extraordinary and I feel like I am a dumb guy who is not even good with writing an email. Its not that I am not trying to learn, I am trying to extract as much knowledge from them but still it feels like I will never ever be as good as them.

Everybody in my office is talented

Product Marketing Manager

They don't know your life, may say something that triggers your PTSD
But now you cannot react, though hurt
You cannot drive them away because it isn't even their fault 

🥺😪

Making friends as adults is so difficult

Consultant

What are some of the best board games to play with friends?

2 options: 
  
 I. You and your friends work hard and get promoted to board of directors and play with the life of your employees. 10/10 can assure will be real fun. 
  
 II. UNO

Security Engineer

Software Engineer

Getting taste of money early in life shapes career very differently. Opinion?

Depends person to person and how much money really. 
  
 In my case, when I used to earn meagre decent(say top 10% of country salary), I used to save a lot, never spend anywhere unless absolutely needed etc. But, once I started earning top 2-4% and living in Bangalore within 1.6yrs of my career, I became too engrossed in chasing money and spending on luxury. For me, I believe, too much money especially when I didn't think I deserved it, made me into someone who didn't focus on his skills and became complacent.  
   I am trying to fix that now 
  
 My learning - Never focus on money initially, always upskill, always earn what you are worth and work towards increasing your worth! 
 At the same time, know your roots, be grounded and work on building effective relationships(realised that this is what makes me truly happy)

hi guys,
I feel so lonely these days , I feel no one is there to talk with me 
I have so many "friends" 
everyone is busy in their life 
I feel I need someone to talk at anytime, can share my thoughts.
any solutions?

mental health

Tell us how and when you realised that you need to move away from the people around you for your betterment.


There's a saying, "You're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with."
This unknowingly shaped us for periods.

🧵 when did you realise to change your circle

Growth Manager

I have lost all the trust and dont even trust my shadow  anymore.

But then,
Human relationships thrive on trust.
Its forms the fulcrum of every bond.


This puts me in a difficult situation where I cant offer trust but seek a deeper and lost lasting connection

I just feel that people leave me.
Most of them did,
When I hit my low.

But as they say,
The comeback has to be stronger than the setback. I am moving towards bigger things in life and am still haunted by this fear of not being able to connect.

Crippling Trust Issues : Why cant I connect with fellow humans?

Data engineer

I was focusing on my career and just working - suddenly realised I don't have any good friends. I quit my job, in depression right now. I am also an introvert which makes it very hard for me to go to a public gathering. I also don't smoke/drink. How do I make new friends?

How do you make friends at the age of 33?

Friends are overrated, you dont need to. If you organically bond, good enough otherwise its fine. If you are married your partner makes uo for it for the most parts. 
  
 That being said to organically bond, you need to increase the surface area meaning you need to stumble into new people to make new friends.  For people like me its just colleagues and old school/college friends. 
  
 Anyhow at 33 you dont really make friends just acquaintance so its better to rebond with your old buddies which I am sure you must have lost touch with rather than finding new ones.

Product Manager

Welcome to Movies & Music's Private Community

It can be the lyrics, it can be the music video or music.

I'll go first -

1. KSHMR & Lost Stories - Bombay Dreams
It is beautifully crafted video dealing with shame in pursuing something others despise or make fun of. The music video makes me smile at around the end

2. Passenger - Let her Go
The lyrics are so damn pure gold. It's so common sense but truly hits you especially when you are by yourself and it just sinks in! Love every line of the song and I think the lyrics are relatable for lot of people

3. Ritviz - Sage
Beautiful video, talks about acceptability and how people are threatened by something they don't understand and how world could use more love and it would be such an amazing place!

What are the songs that makes you emotional?

What are the songs that make you emotional?

Is it okay to be alone rather than being with guys I don't like. 

College friends are the worst I have ever had.

College life

I saw a friend tweet about how Bangalore is full of connected but lonely people jumping in to join every Meetup/WhatsApp group that becomes available. This is my problem with the meetup / conference culture. Meetup culture is all about optionality. You think you'll meet someone new who's cool. Someone who can help you build your network. 

You would rather join a meetup with 100 other strangers than build stronger connections with your friends. In life there are only a few people who really matter. 

People who you can call at 11 PM to rant about your workday. People who you know will be genuinely happy about your promotion. People you share screenshots from work with. It is not probably the 100 strangers in that Whatsapp group that you think of when you are having a health issue and want to share your fears. It also means lowering your ego, which I'm happy to do with my old friends. I'm always happy to ping them when I get the chance, and I'm the one asking them to call me. 

I'm the one who asks them to hang out with me. I used to think, "Why bother?" but then I realised that it doesn't matter who reaches out first. It is not about keeping a count. 

I realised it's for me! If I have a chat with a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years, my mood improves immediately. Everyone is very busy. Everyone is stressed with their jobs and their personal lives. Some of them are married now. Some have children. But that's where you've got to work to keep connecting with the people who matter to you. Friendship is also about being vulnerable. True friendship is built on vulnerability. 

Being able to share your dreams, your failures and your demons with each other. While the meetup culture is all about bumping into people for 5 minutes to judge their worth and whether they are worth your time, my preference is for long 1-1s. Either on the phone or face to face. I am happy to meet just one person over the weekend and have hours of conversation about work, life or wha

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Friends sabke paas nahi hote Lakshman 🥲 
 Translation (in spirit,not literal): Not everyone is lucky to have friends, Lakshman (edited dialogue from Main Hoon Na)

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