My coping mechanism: books, writing (recently started), reading poems, and i am into art. I actually am someone who likes my me time and not much into people.

What do you write about? 
 I recently started journaling and I am having a hard time doing justice to it. I have this spectatious feeling that someone is watching me write.

Data engineer

I started writing on politics and whatever i feel on any topic. Just started, hence a newbie. Journaling is a great habit. Do keep the momentum.

Chartered Accountant

peace only comes from within, all the scriptures have mentioned it already 
  
 also, accept that there is no point in crying like a little bit*ch, you have to put efforts instead of blaming others  
  
 and survival of the fittest

Senior Software Engineer

Listening to buddha’s stories on YouTube helps me a lot

Senior Designer

How to put the phrase "find you own happiness, it comes from within" to use? I am curious to know your coping mechanisms.

How to put the phrase "find you own happiness, it comes from within" to use?
I am curious to know your coping mechanisms.

In a world full of apathetic fake people, how do find peace from within?

In a world full of apathetic fake people, how do find peace from within?- Grapevine

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

You meet new people - on some you cringe, some are boring, some intrigue you, some you respect, and some are intimidating

It is the intimidating lot that makes me jhzdgfhfghsjj (how do I explain this)
I feel small infront of them, even though I am not in the same room or face to face
There's an unknown fear, it feels you have to prove yourself to them (for no reason)
Somehow our brains put them on a higher pedestal for various reasons - it is different reasons for different people

Why why do I have to feel like this? 
How do I get rid of it?

Help me make sense of this

Consultant

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

If you ask me, the purpose of life has to be more than climbing a self-constructed ladder. 

Like, it has to be more than a 3BHK in a metro, with two kids, a car and a prestigious job at a faceless corporation, 2 weeks of vacation and a movie on the weekend.

Isn’t this weird that, we all continue to fool ourselves? 

When you know nothing matters the universe is yours, and I've never met a universe that was into it. The universe is an animal, it grazes on the ordinary. It creates infinite idiots just to eat them. 

You know? Smart people get a chance to climb on top and take reality for a ride but it'll never stop trying to throw you. And eventually it will, there's no other way off

- Rick, Rick and Morty.

[Thread] What is according to you makes life worth living?

Remember when you were a kid and had a school trip the next day?    
    
 You sleep all excited, over preparing your bag, snacks, your pocket money and sleep fantasizing the day forward.   
    
 You wake up on the morning. You are excited as hell. Although it's no different than any other day but everything feels colorful. You can't wait to hop into your school bus and meet your friends who are just as excited as you.   
    
 I think what makes life is worth living are these experiences. When you sleep, you have something to look forward to. Someone to do, something to achieve, something you truly enjoy or be passionate about.   
    
 If you are just going through days fixated on the coming weekend or planned holiday. That is when things get a little messy.   
    
 I'm in that zone right now. I try to seek the satisfaction and happiness inside of me. So I don't depend on materialistic or emotional to feel lively. It must come from within and its damn hard to cultivate.   
    
 When I'll have that I'll be off from this corporate for good. .

Software Engineer

Product Manager

I am working hard on my myself
Gym study work sleep
Make sure everything is completed on time
So that the schedule doesn't mess up

But Why?
I get a feeling of someone I need
To tell everything how my day went
Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon
Theek hai
Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k

In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team

Ghar aata hoon to 
Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon
Na h koi call
Message

Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai
PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath
Akele marna likha hai 
Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai
Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem
Mar rahe hai
These thoughts are winning

.....
Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai
Na h Bhai behen
1 dost hai wo busy rehta

Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta
I close my eyes and cry sometimes
Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai
Kya pap kiya hoga maine

It's lonely, Ain't it?

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hello grapeviners. 

I was recently interviewing at a big MNC and gave 5 rounds of interviews. (4 Tech, 1 Managerial). I did fairly well in the interviews (according to me).
Got rejected in the end and received no feedback... Just a generic rejection mail.

How do you guys keep up with failures like these?
Whenever I give interviews at a good company and perform well, I tend to imagine myself as a future employee in that company and how my life would be after joining there... and it really breaks my heart when I get rejected. This happened to me few times before as well and I still have no idea how to move on from feelings like these.

Really interested to know what do you folks do in situations like these... How do you calm yourself down?

Interview Rejection

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.

So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.

I realised that,
Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)

My current daily routine is like this:
Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.

School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.

Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.

I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
1. I’m the only son of my parents.
2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.

That’s it
🙏🏼

This week’s introspection

Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. 
 Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho

General Manager

Software Developer

This question is to people who are in their late 20s or older.


Life shows its ups and downs to pretty much everyone. And when you are younger, living with adverse situations that impact your mental peace and health, paving your way becomes difficult. All this can lead to uncertainty about future, can make you doubt yourself and your decisions, or can make you think whether you would be able to make something of yourself or not.


If you ever felt like this, how did you handle it? What would you tell your younger self about how to navigate through these situations and feelings?

How did you figure things out?

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

Doston, I'm a 26 year old, run-of-the-mill MBA grad who has just been coasting through life until a very recent and intense encounter with the perils of modern life. 

Background brief: 
Academics : 8/5/8; MBA from NMIMS Mumbai
~2yrs of work ex in sales; have worked in financial sales, currently working in non-alco bev sales
  
I have very few hard skills and am not sure where to start. Still, I'm seduced by other lucrative jobs/profiles such as finance, PM, consulting, which feel inaccessible at this point. I've accepted that there's nothing I can do to change the past, but I'm seeking guidance on how to shape my career from this point forward. Looking forward to any advice about jobs, career planning, and even life. Thank you!

Seeking career advice 🙏

Sales Manager

Welcome to Get Motivated's Private Community

How do you all navigate the pressure to constantly hustle and showcase your successes? 

Have you found ways to unplug and focus on your own path without getting caught up in the comparison game?"

Growth Manager

My friends here, after having observed some common trends emerging in society today, it's very clear to me that being simple & normal is the best strategy. 

Look at the world around us:
- Attention spans are fucked. People cannot listen for 10 seconds without glancing over phone. There is very little recognition of the human in the 'other' person. 
- There is very little recognition of one self. Intoxicants, indiscipline, mindless activities are the sign of times. It's okay to do these. It's human to be silly. But it mustn't be your 24*7. 
- People are woke, but they're not awake. They'll come to you with a pitchfork as soon as they hear something that irks them, but barely try to understand your view.

These are disparate problems, and just some examples. 
The surest way to guard yourself is to **avoid doing what everyone else is doing**.

Be aware. Be disciplined. Exercise, eat well, sleep well, think well. 
Be simple, as you were a few years ago, or most people were mentally before the coming of the short term dopamine hit economy.

Random musings, thoughts welcome :)

Just be normal. Maintain your sanity. We will succeed in the long run.

Corporate Strategist

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Have you ever felt you have got cheated in your life? You are not in a place where you exactly should be? Wrong connection/relationship?? How to come out from this??

Hey guys...have you ever felt??

Human Resources

I know it’s a very common question, and impossible to know or answer.
But curious how you folks here rationalize the meaning of life.

Add your age if that’s okay, for good measure

For me: I’m 27, my life’s purpose (or so I think) is to build something that helps a whole lot of people have a better life. And it is to make the people around me - family, friends, strangers happier (the scale of which depends on how successfully I pull this off).

Whats yours? Would love to engage on this :)

Thread: What do you feel is your life’s purpose?

Do you really need one? 
 Existence is a gift, just enjoying it should be enough.

Founder

Seeing colleagues getting promoted while your contribution goes unnoticed. Working on projects that none of your peers care about. Figuring out the balance between work and personal life. Regret of ignoring physical health due to work.

There are endless reasons that can trigger the imposter syndrome. How are you guys coping up with this?

How do you guys cope up with the imposter syndrome

I started a side business. These fuckers can have their promotions. I work for the salary now. I don't contribute beyond the basic limit.  It's liberating. I don't even laugh at the stupid jokes at meeting.

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

Me and my wife are 30 years old software engineer with no kids. Draw 7 lac a month please some yearly bonus. We invest 2 lac a month combined into equity market through mutual funds. 

Expenses: 1.5 lac a month including everything, lives in Bangalore in good society, owns a car, don't thing much before spending. 

Still after everything left with 3 lakhs every month in bank account. Not sure how to use that. We both don't have any fancy "shauk" where we can spend and hence don't have an urge to earn more. 

Any suggestions???

Post tax 7 lac a month. Double income no kids, but not sure what do with all the money.

Hey - we are also similar to you. Would strongly suggest finding something you’re passionate about. 
  
 For us (primarily me) - got a dog, took a 6 month sabbatical, travelled to 30+ countries in this time, left job to pursue startup idea, spend time with parents, learn language, improve fitness, learnt some coding, etc 
  
 It’s a pretty good position to be in - just explore I’d say

Strategy & Operations

Sometimes I feel that the work I am doing in the office is worthless. It is providing no value to the client nor does it help me. I am able to answer the technical questions of the client which help in their business decisions and I think that's what keeps me employed. But I still feel I am wasting my time and I really don't know what I should do. Does anyone else face a similar issue or is it only with me? Also have someone come out of this and would like to share their experiences.

Sometimes I feel that the work I am doing is worthless.

What methods do you have for coping with anxiety?

- Is there a song/Playlist that you listen to keep you going 
- Is there an activity that you do - gym, running, meditation, etc.. 
- Is there anyone - friend/family that you rely on who helps you see the positive side of things and motivate you to keep going

How do you manage to stay positive every day. Is there a hack?

Marketing Manager

How do one can cope from their lowest point in life?

How do you keep yourself motivated and disciplined. I almost forgot that this is a new year. Yes, I'm supposed to be motivated and work on my resolutions 🥲, I often find myself settling for less and slipping into a comfort zone. 
Occasionally, I get bursts of motivation and make plans, but I struggle to stay on track. My attention span has reduced, and I easily get distracted, especially with phone notifications. I've tried digital well-being tools, but the real solution seems to be strict discipline. 

How do others tackle this issue? I'm eager to learn from different perspectives and strategies.

How do you all stay motivated?

Senior Associate

I can't seem to relate to much of the non-FAANG junta out there. I mean I have a cushy job with probably 0.1% pay of all SWEs(pretty much like all of us do). But these cookie-cutter roles have been taking a mental toll on me. Like I am getting paid but I feel a little purpose-less. What am I gunning for in this life? 

All my life I wanted to go to a good college to get into a good company. In college I wanted to get a good codeforces rank so that I could get into FAANG. Now that I am in FAANG I have nothing to look forward to. 

Any of you all feeling this way? Because I don't see myself offer-shopping and feeling much happy about that either.

Feeling depressed at Amazon(2YOE/41L CTC). Anyone else feeling the same way?

Recently watched Soul on hotstar and this actually makes sense now. The character was trying hard to perform in front of a crowd and  when it happened he wasn't feeling any change at all. At that time, he was told about the fish and the ocean story :-  
  
 I heard this story about a fish. 
  
 He swims up to an older fish and says, “I’m trying to find this thing they call ‘the ocean.'” 
  
 “The ocean? the older fish says, “That’s what you’re in right now.” 
  
 “This?” says the young fish. “This is water. What I want is the ocean!”

The rise of social media has made it easier than ever to compare ourselves to others. I'll admit, I've fallen into the trap of scrolling through LinkedIn and feeling like I'm not achieving enough. 

How do you all navigate the pressure to constantly hustle and showcase your successes? Have you found ways to unplug and focus on your own path without getting caught up in the comparison game?

In a world full of apathetic fake people, how do find peace from within?

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