Lesson learned late: Men texting late in night is a red flag

Disclaimer: This is not a dating post Started casually speaking to this guy from Grapevine. I got the confidence that he is genuine, so we chatted (no long chats or daily talk) over Instagram for 4-5 months. He had to fly to Bangalore for some work, so we planned to meet. He was all excited and decided the place too. We met for lunch; nothing shady or that would make me uncomfortable, he had some work so left after that. We had exchanged numbers, and I thanked him over Whatsapp. It was all cutesy and funny for a day. I even shared some ice cream place I went to, the next day with friends. And then talks went to zero. Anything I shared got a one-word responses. So I stepped back; no point being pushy even in friendship. We haven't talked for over a month now. But he was (is) such a nice person. I don't know why he would just stop talking for no reason. Is it something I did or said? Was he expecting something different that I didn't do? Do I send him some meme or something? Am I overthinking? He could be simply too busy to talk to someone he met once

I'm a 25 y/o F. Met my schoolmate through Instagram. For 6 months we were dating. I clearly mentioned him that if we are getting involved physically then we should define our relationship as a long term one. I trusted this guy and went ahead in getting physically involved multiple times. The chemistry was so good and irresistible for both of us. He was giving me signals like saying “now I'm taken I guess “ “ i’m not a person who leaves someone just like that “ “ i’ll take care and not leave “ and all on top of this he was planning a trip with me. And in the starting of this relationship his ex girlfriend who got married called me and threatened me and she in fact bitched about me to this guy. He promised me that he will end things with her and she will not bother me. Ah for god’s sake I feel like a dumb ass for trusting this guy... Two days back he sent me a group pic where he and his married ex girlfriend was smiling. I asked him why would you send this pic at least you could have cropped your part and would have shared. He agreed that sending that pic was his mistake. Later I called him and playfully asked him to delete all his ex pictures because he had cried to me in the past that she had manipulated him hence out of care I asked him to stay away from the memories of her. That's were he got triggered and said me to stay out of his “personal things” he tells me how his 6 year relationship with her transformed him and he would like to revisit those memories it seems… honestly I felt like hitting hard rock at this point and I started to cry to my friend telling that I have been cheated. I then took time and called this guy and said hey I'll be there for you if you want to communicate about this. I'm interested in having a future with you. For which this guy breaks the ice telling me he doesn't have even little feelings about me or any love for me. Then I asked if you wanted to have a casual relationship you could have upfrontly said. At least I would have not had any expectations. Two days had gone still feeling hurt. And processing shit. To all women out there never trust words of men. Period. It might trigger some men her, but it is always a man!!!

I met a guy over reddit few weeks ago. We both talked about our workplace issues, about mba entrance exam prep and few other things. He mentioned he liked talking to me and so did I. But he never told me his name or anything about his identity as he mentioned how people spend a lot of time in the beginning to get to know each other and this might be a distraction since both of us are preparing for mba entrance this year. Few days ago, he texted me that this texting consumes a lot of time and energy and he feels exhausted and he doesn't have the bandwidth as he needs to fully focus on his preparation for now. So he stopped talking to me and mentioned how he is still interested in being friends after the entrance exam in November. I want to understand a guy's perspective here. Do guys leave everything to focus on their career? Am I being unreasonable for feeling bad about this situation? Is it okay to sometimes prioritise career in our 20s and leave everything else? I feel there could be a balance but would like to know a third opinion.

Despite the "modern era" we live in, many of us still find ourselves on the path to arranged marriage—often feeling like it's the only option we have. Speaking from personal experience, I've had my fair share of bizarre encounters. Hearing similar stories from my male and female friends who are also going through this process has provided some comfort, especially knowing that I'm not alone. Let's use this comment section to share our experiences—whether they were bad, weird, gut-wrenching, blood-boiling, or even heartbreakingly disappointing

Hi, I am in service based company, Graduated in 2022 and did internship in MERN Stack in BYJU's Exam Prep for 10 mos As I had worked in start up , I am having decent knowledge of at least completing the task. I need to switch badly. Girls were never my friends , no point of GF. Fast forward to now , I am in a project and working on React. There is a girl of same batch and we are working on frontend only. Our dev started in May, and at that time we chit chat for normal queries. After a day or 2 , She started to discuss approach with me, I was ok ( as I was talking to girl no feelings at that time, and was discussing logic). And then slowly the scenario become like she use to call me on teams for any single query , and I in excitement talked to her. I loved her voice had not seen her as our stand up was on teams. I used to help her , and she gives the update like " I am doing this" / " I am doing this , facing some issue, and trying to resolve that " And in each case I was there with her. And then this continued uptill 20 July . I was getting feelings for her , like why a girl is talking to me without even seeing/ knowing. I was interested w/o any reason. I just need a partner to share feelings. And then then due to project requirement , we were asked to come to office. We came on Monday , i helped her normally as we used to discuss with each other on teams. We both saw each other on that day for first time face to face. Her task was going ok, and was supposed to complete on Tuesday, bu by reaching office she use to connect with seniors instead of me and they use to tell her the approach not doing her task. Hence this took full week. I was noticing this from Tuesday to friday (23-26) and we were gradually decreasing our conversation.. Our accomodation is in company's society. I talked to her and her 2 friends in Friday night when I was roaming out. We made plan to go for mall / Iskcon. On Saturday we went outside. For Sunday i asked her to go out she said.......

Got this question from Twitter/ X, but Grapevine is a better place for it

Okay, so this happened to me last year. I was approached by a college alumni (got my number from college alumni group) who told me he had a side business going on which was leading him to earn more money than his corporate job and that he was going to leave the corporate for his “business”. I was initially not interested but he was insistent and also I was looking to explore some options (may be my naïveté) that I asked him more and so he setup a call with his senior to explain more about this “business”. Now this senior gave all sorts of gyaan regarding how to reach financial independence and picking up on the general mindset of how to make more money. They asked to create a list of 10 things that I desired the most at the point of time which could be solved with more money. I complied thinking it was a good exercise (again, I was a big fool). Now I was connected with another senior who gave all sorts of gyaan regarding how I could make more money and lead to financial independence. Please note, during all this time I was constantly asking what the business idea was and how it would be achieved but got no response on the details and only white washing regarding how I should be prepared to do anything to achieve my dreams. Now, it was revealed that I would need to put in 5L as investment to get bigger returns. Since I did not have that money in handy, I was suggested to get a personal loan through their agents. Also not to inform this to parents because they won’t understand this stuff and get “worried”. Luckily I did went with their suggestion and informed my parent about it. Thinking it was a startup idea, I got the investment from my father through an OD in my name. Now we get onto a call two days later, where they reveal the company QNet and makes me purchase 5L of stuff from their website and explained the business model which was to get other people from your knowing to buy products from this company and get commissions on the sale. Continued……

I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him. She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her. Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him. But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad. I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc. or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?