Need Help decoding this Situation - Guy suddenly went silent
Disclaimer: This is not a dating post Started casually speaking to this guy from Grapevine. I got the confidence that he is genuine, so we chatted (no long chats or daily talk) over Instagram for 4-5 months. He had to fly to Bangalore for some work, so we planned to meet. He was all excited and decided the place too. We met for lunch; nothing shady or that would make me uncomfortable, he had some work so left after that. We had exchanged numbers, and I thanked him over Whatsapp. It was all cutesy and funny for a day. I even shared some ice cream place I went to, the next day with friends. And then talks went to zero. Anything I shared got a one-word responses. So I stepped back; no point being pushy even in friendship. We haven't talked for over a month now. But he was (is) such a nice person. I don't know why he would just stop talking for no reason. Is it something I did or said? Was he expecting something different that I didn't do? Do I send him some meme or something? Am I overthinking? He could be simply too busy to talk to someone he met once
Sometimes you spend so much time chatting online that the real you could be different from what you are over texts. Maybe he got a vibe that didn’t set with him.
Bring it up with him. If you get a response you don’t like, accept it. Best not to sweat over it.
And that’s perfectly okay. It’ll probably hurts at the moment. The way I see it is that this is all character building. You have something that happens to you in life. The way you deal with it shapes who you become as you get older. It becomes your story. Something you’ll tell your therapist maybe 😅Don’t get too caught up in the emotion. Be accepting. It’ll bring give you peace.
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CloudWizard
Stealth
a month ago
Wise Men sometimes foresee & sense a thing which women can't, so they cutoff instead of trapping you via false hopes.
Possible reasons:
- He didn't like you in-person and decided to cut off when he got back.
- He was actually looking for a bit more than a friend, which is usually the case, and got the vibe that you wouldn't be interested.
- He found someone else, because he was actually looking for more than friends and his expectations might not have been met in the meet.
This has to be sanest comment on the thread. You wrote it without attacking me. Thank you
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Logs_reader
Stealth
a month ago
Move on, he has probably got someone else or he is not interested in you anymore because guys rarely ghost girls if they are interested, silence for a week is OK but for a month is probably not.
If it’s friend, share a meme!
If it’s a love interest, share a meme!
Just share a meme!
PS: may not be a great advise. But sharing memes is a net positive to the society.
😂 yes I know. Don't know a appropriate meme to send esp after 1 month of not being in touch
Also, he will comeback! They always comeback. Just wait it out. Why do you want to keep in touch? Sounds like a guy with some unresolved issues.
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Who paid the bill? Some guys might judge you if you didn't split.
He did initially, I insisted on paying at least my part.
So i suggested we get desserts and I pay, that was least I could do. He agreed to it.
I'm aware lunch>dessert. Though he didn't seem petty kinds
Next time, don’t ask. Just pay them directly. Men don’t ask or agree when offered directly. but they do care about it.
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binarypain
Student
a month ago
I literally did the same thing to a girl last week (exactly same story). Now I am feeling bad.
How can story be exactly same? We never spoke
Also, you should speak with her
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binarypain
Student
a month ago
yes, i should message her.
Bittergourd
Stealth
a month ago
It is bad , don't know why people does this without giving final closures to front person ghost them ..I'm understanding you
Don't think about this learn from this instance move on and don't trust any online guy or lady until you observe their true nature i happened with me as well ..I'm female I can understand you but it is better to look upto yourself and be awesome 😎 you are sunshine sis ☺️😃
It was happened with me
I have been talking to one guy in first instance i found him very genuine guy but later one after talking with him for 1 month i observed his true intentions and character what he is wanting from me ..I just gave him closure about ourselves and step back from their.
Some frnds or peoples are like that who pretends very innocent real towards you but in reality they will talk to you according to their priorities mood timing their own life..with due time i observed him and decided not to continue convo because of this ..I feel so so happy about this don't feel bad you deserve good frnds for you don't trust anyone observe their true intentions.
Some people only want to take advantage of you.so beware of them.
Smile alot you are awesome buddy .
Tons of smiles for you ☺️
Take care 💕
Multiple reasons might be there.
1. He didn’t got the vibes from you that he was expecting
2. He found someone else
3. His goals are changed now and not looking to make anymore female friends
ChefGroot
Stealth
a month ago
Talking and sharing jokes, online and meeting someone in-person are totally different things, maybe the vibes or whatever he was looking for is off when you guys meet. So move on, mostly guys don't want to give false hopes and move on with it. We men are sorted creatures if we like someone we will always maintain some level of conversation or sending mems to be in touch. And yaa nobody is that much busy like no contact for a month.
Frostygig5
Stealth
a month ago
Koi na sis it happens chill .
EarlyMechanism
Student
a month ago
What if he reads it here lol
@Micheal_Scott finally a PMF 🤣
@CuteUsername on lighter bot, tag the guy here na since you met him on GV. I am sure you’ll get a big wordy response then 😂😂😂
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Tauba tauba. He pulled an uno reverse. Probability of that happening in this country is near zero.
Umadbro
Stealth
a month ago
“Maybe he is just not interested.”
No guy owes you an explanation for why he is not responding. Let him be.
Hey there! So, it seems like this guy has pulled a bit of a disappearing act
Here’s a little tip: why not send him a message that’s as refreshing as a cool breeze on a hot day? Maybe drop a playful meme or a cheeky “Hey, did you get lost on your way to our next chat?”
And if he’s still in radio silence mode, don’t sweat it. Keep shining and remember, the right person will be just as excited to chat with you as you are with them!
you made him think about you after posting it on same platform, that's for sure
