Fuck why am I crying! I don't even have a sister 😭

Staff Engineer

Growth Manager

Thanks! Isiliye I'll never marry ❤️❤️

Business analyst

Lawyer

Yes, it's more silent. 
 And I get the whole room to myself 
 Yay!

Aww, my lil brother is in boarding school,i miss him tons...

Chartered accountant 

Analyst 

I miss my nieces but not my sister…with her it’s always fight mode on😛

Product Manager

My sister got married and I was most happiest (or so I thought)  I was in college then, and she used to nag me on going out with friends or bunking college. Hated her interference, but mom would al...

My sister got married and I was most happiest (or so I thought)

I was in college then, and she used to nag me on going out with friends or bunking college. Hated her interference, but mom would always take side
She lives in Pune with her husband, couldn't come for Rakhi because they had to go to husband's sister place.

Now when I return home, it is just so silent. No one irritates or nags me, just like I wanted. Dad is busy with his news and mom on her Whatsapp reels. 

I never thought I would miss this one person whom I have fought all my life.

The silence in house after your sister gets married

Founder

The silence in house after your sister gets married- Grapevine

So, yesterday was supposed to be all about sibling bonds, but it turned into a reminder of how complicated family can be. You know how some holidays just don't live up to expectations? Yeah, this was one of those.

I've got this tradition of reaching out to my guy cousins for Rakshabandhan since I don't have brothers. Usually, it's a nice little exchange - nothing fancy, just a quick "Hey, thinking of you" kind of thing. But this year? Radio silence from one of them. Let's call him Dev.

At first, I brushed it off. People get busy, right? But then I saw him commenting on stuff in our family group chat. Ouch. Talk about being left on read.

The weird part is, Dev and I generally get along fine. He even made this sweet post about his sister today. It just hit different, you know? Like, oh right, I'm not actually part of that sibling circle.

Mom dropped some truth bombs later, mentioning how this isn't exactly new. Apparently, back in the day when we'd send actual rakhis, they'd never even say thanks. I'd totally forgotten about all the heartfelt letters I used to write too. Guess they're still collecting dust somewhere.

I'm trying not to let it get to me, but it's hard not to feel a little... I don't know, forgotten? Unimportant? It's just a text, but sometimes it's the little things that speak volumes.

Cousin ghosted me on Rakshabandhan

Software Engineer

Drop the one small thing that made you feel good today.

Often we look for “happiness” while we rush through life like there will be time later to pause and enjoy. Little moments should be cherished and enjoyed - makes the day to day more meaningful. 

Mine: 

1. 5 small red roses and 3 white roses in the balcony. Waking up to that felt good and makes me smile today.

2. 5 minutes in the balcony and the morning sun. therapeutic!

What made you smile today?

Growth manager

Even though relationships aren't about money and gifts, this rakshabandan I felt hurt and sad and broke, when I had to spend a huge chunk of money on my air tickets to go home for tying my brother rakhi and got nothing much in return. 
*My brother is elder to me by 2-4 years and he's a well settled business man with a very high standard of living*

I feel so broke this Rakshabandhan!!

Analyst

I see a lot of girls today have this condition of not staying with in-laws after marriage. I want to know the opinion of both genders on this. As I myself don’t understand what difference it makes. 🫠

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[Thread] How did you get fooled today? Drop your stories as the day progresses.

Consultant

Near my 28th birthday some aatma started haunting my parents and relatives and they started telling me to marry even though I said I am happy being single.
Now my mother soon died after my 28th birthday and my dad and relatives without my consent started seeing matches for me and started irritating me.
Even on my mother's funeral, my  family friends and relatives instead of saying condolences,  where saying to get married.

I am 29 yrs old now and want to focus on my career and weightloss but none of my relatives with their semi-failed marriages care.

Since I am a female, my aunt was telling about the bridal lehengas and all and I told her, if I am not interested and to respect the fact that I do not want to marry.

Not sure why some people do not respect boundaries.

Irritating relatives

Team lead

29F, I still stay with my parents
Working, earning >1lpm, remote work

Over the years, I have realised I own no assets. 
Everything has been bought by parents EVERYTHING
My mom would always make sure she or dad paid, saying you can keep your money for yourself (which I initially thought was very sweet)
Now I see how I am dependent on them for all

What ever I have bought can be put into a polythene bag and that's all my life (I generally spend on food and stuff that goes away)
I have bought certain items for family or the house, but that isn't mine obviously 

I need to get out of the house, my mental health is at the edge

I want to move out of my parents home

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32+ M here and not yet married.

“SHAADI waqt se ho jaana chahiye”

"Beta, your room is always waiting for you."

Mom's words echoed in my head as I lugged my suitcases up the familiar stairs of my childhood home. At 29, with a master's degree and five years of corporate experience under my belt, I never thought I'd be back here. Not like this, anyway.

The decision to move back wasn't easy. My startup had failed spectacularly, taking my savings and self-esteem with it. Mumbai's sky-high rents suddenly seemed impossible. When Dad suggested I come home "just until you figure things out," it felt like both a lifeline and a step backwards.

The first week was a strange mix of comfort and chaos. Mom's cooking was a welcome change from my diet of Swiggy/Zomato. But the luxury of home-cooked meals came with a side of "Why aren't you eating?", "You've become so thin!", and unsolicited advice on everything from my career to my love life.

My old room, now Dad's "home office," was a time capsule of my teenage years. Faded cricket posters shared wall space with his collection of business books. At night, lying in my childhood bed, I'd stare at the glow-in-the-dark stars on the ceiling and wonder where I'd gone wrong.

The hardest part was the loss of independence. Suddenly, I had to inform my parents if I was going out late. Dad would casually inquire about my job search over breakfast. Mom would remind me to make my bed, as if I hadn't been doing it myself for years.

But amid the frustration, there were moments of unexpected joy. Like when Dad and I stayed up late discussing startup ideas, his eyes lighting up with an enthusiasm I'd forgotten he possessed. Or the afternoon I spent teaching Mom how to use Instagram, both of us laughing at the filters.

Slowly, I started to see my parents not just as "Mom and Dad," but as individuals with their own dreams and quirks. I noticed the silver in Dad's hair, the new lines around Mom's eyes. When had they gotten older? Had I been too busy "adulting" to notice?

There were adjustments on both sides. I learned to bite my tongue when Mom rearranged my carefully organized closet. They learned to knock before entering my room. We all learned the delicate dance of sharing space as adults.

The turning point came three months in. I landed a new job, and my first instinct was to start apartment hunting. But as I sat at the dining table, sharing the news over Mom's special biryani, I realized something had shifted. This house, with all its quirks and challenges, had become home again. Not in the same way it was when I was a kid, but in a new, complex, adult way.

I ended up staying for eight more months. In that time, I not only rebuilt my career but also rediscovered my relationship with my parents. We argued, we laughed, we shared silences. I learned that Dad makes a mean omelet at 2 AM, and that Mom's got a wicked sense of humor I'd somehow missed growing up.

When I finally moved out, it wasn't with the desperate rush I'd initially imagined. It was a practical decision - I'd saved enough, found a place I liked, and felt ready. The send-off was a simple family dinner, where we laughed about some of the awkward moments from the past year.

As I settled into my new apartment, I realized those months at home had taught me a lot. Sure, there were tough times - privacy issues, disagreements over household rules, the occasional feeling of regression. But there were also valuable lessons:

1. My parents are people too, with their own lives and challenges.
2. Independence is more about mindset than living situation.
3. Family relationships can actually improve with some close quarters and open communication.
4. I'm more resilient than I thought, capable of adapting to unexpected life turns.

Would I do it again? Maybe, if circumstances required it. It wasn't always easy, but it was far from the disaster I'd feared. If anything, those months gave me a new appreciation for my family and a better understanding of myself.

So if you find yourself packing up to head back to your childhood bedroom, don't panic. It's not a step backward - it's just a different kind of move forward.

Moved back home after 11 years of living my life "independantly"

Clinical research

My GFs and my family are now soon to be in talking stage and it's already fucking up our mind.

My parents want to do it ASAP and her's want to have sometime. Every single day we're just balancing and cursing our decision.

For context: it's typical interstate, inter caste one and we have know each other for 8 years.

Why does it need to be so hard? Both the families are in opposite directions. 🥲

Families are now in talking stage and it is brutal

Senior product manager

I was suffering from 2-3 mild health issues in metro. (prolonged cold n cough, regular sneezing etc)

Came home 🏡 in diwali and now extended wfh due to health gain. Living with parents and consuming clean air + food is helping improve my sleep quality as well ❤️‍🩹 (2h+ deep sleep) 8h continuous sleep.

I did cost benifit analysis and have decided to work on a plan which will eventually help me settle down at my birthplace within 2-5y. 

synopsis --

Children's play under sun 🌞 and have group of 10 kids. They ain't worried about anything. Their happiness index > ceos.  
  
They don't know about masturbation till 10th or age 14 if they don't have a smartphone.   
  
My workplace is open and aqi is below 10. Strong peepal and banyan trees 🌴 even 100y old. When I feel stressed due to any reason I just go to see sunset near my place hardly 2km away. It's a stress buster with earbuds in and watching migrant birds crossing river.  
  
Ain't those birds more free and independent than us? Like they don't give a damn 🕊️ about future and enjoy the present.  
  
Very less car and almost 0 traffic ⛔. People still use bicycles and cycle repair shop>garages.   
  
Life is slow and peaceful. People go to sleep at 9-10pm and wake up at 5-6am.  
  
Life is too easy. Cost of a family with 2acre land is hardly 25k/m here.  
  
Sometimes I wonder why chase 2 lac/month sacrificing so much in a so called developed city.  
  
Society is ambivert. Pizza 🍕 🍔 burger biryani is trying to enter these areas.  
  
But I don't miss swiggy.  
  
Zeptonis redundant here.  
  
My 💳 credit card is lying there thinking why am not swiping it...  
  
  
  
यहाँ कोई मित्र नहीं है, कोई आश्वस्त चरित्न नहीं है,  
सब अर्धनिर्मित है।  
अर्धनिर्मित इमारतें हैं, अर्धनिर्मित बच्चों कि शरारतें हैं,  
अर्धनिर्मित ज़िन्दगी कि शर्ते हैं,  
अर्धनिर्मित जीवन पाने के लिए लोग रोज़ यहाँ मरते हैं।  
  
अर्धनिर्मित है यहाँ के प्रेमियों का प्यार,  
अर्धनिर्मित है यहाँ मनुष्यों के जीवन के आधार  
आज का दिन अर्धनिर्मित

Rural Life Experience.

Senior Consultant

I know I'm not the only one having to go through this. Let's speak our heart out.

[Rant] Arranged marriage process

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I am from a lower income family. My father is a blue collar worker and my mom is a home-maker. I have a few siblings.

Entire life my parents made close to ~6L in a year combined. They let me do anything and never pressured me into pursuing a career that I did not want to, especially as a woman.

They gave me 100% freedom, support, and never once asked me to take care of them after I made it.

Like most Indian parents from tat background, they have no retirement fund. Every bit of money went towards food and essentials.

I went to a shit college in the middle of nowhere for my Bachelors. Chose my degree in CSE and grinded tf out. Got into PM after a few years and never looked back.

My parents can’t tell the difference between Product Management and Project Management. It doesn't even matter anymore. I am prepared to take care of my parents but more importantly I plan to take care of my sister's higher education so that she can decide a career without having to worry about ROI/LTV of her course fees because of loans.

It has been a journey of a lifetime till now. I can only be grateful for what has happened and continue working hard.

How being a PM lifted my family out of poverty

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I am an engineer and have been working remotely since the pandemic started. Initially, it was great as I could save time by not commuting to office but now I feel like I am missing out on something.

I don't know what it is but I just feel like I need to be in an office environment to thrive. Maybe it's the social aspect or the structure of having set hours, but whatever it is, I can't seem to find the same level of motivation when working from home.

Anyone else feeling this way? Any tips on how to make remote work more productive and enjoyable?

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