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Would you consider living in a tier 3 town if the guy is well-established?

Looking for opinions: If a guy is settled in a tier 3 town, earning a good income, owns a large house, and has a couple of businesses, with supportive and open-minded family, and no bad habits, would you consider moving there? About the guy: - 6 feet tall, well-mannered, average-looking, with a good nature - Recently received a marriage proposal, parents are asking me to consider but want to leave final decision to me. The town might not have a lot of activities, but it offers a strong family environment and a spacious home. Would love to hear your thoughts!

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