[Interview Exp] Why can't Women professionals be seen as basic humans
Context: I had put out a message seeking newer projects, and a certain person reached out. They have over 20+ yrs of exp and run their own boutique consultancy. The role they had envisioned fit perfectly that I was looking for. Interview: We spoke over an hour, discussing the role, my top skills that would be beneficial, future prospects, where I see myself beyond work. Genuinely good conversation. The person concludes the Interview and I quote "Now that I have met you, I can definitely say the pictures you have over your social media and website do not do justice to how you look. You have many photogenic angles that you should explore" Shock was understatement I steered the conversation towards how it is essential for my personal brand building and I have it in my consideration. (I believe I handled it well) P.S. Anyone who supports this because it was just appreciating beauty - wrong place wrong time and also wrong person. P.P.S. Time to get a photoshoot done!
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
Happened in March, they obviously didn't come back with an offer 🤷♀️
I know women in my office who would have responded back with “haha you are so funny sir”
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
They would mean 'he has a sick humour' but can't say loud because job
Such a shitty situation
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BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
Yes, must have been 50+
Kamlesh
Stealth
4 months ago
Yaar boomers sahi mein ajeeb hote hain. Not enough filters.
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There's a line from Jaspreet Singh's special on Amazon - "Art chahe kitni bhi bda ho jaaye, tharak se niche hi rhega"
This is inappropriate
Do not ever work with that person, and warn anyone against them if they're going to.
People should not have to face this at work.
Uncle was scrolling Google Reviews of restaurants I guess. Ask him to check Swiggy and Zomato where he will get a lot of photogenic images.
Wait, we are talking about Biryani here right?
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
Ofcourse, Biryani looks far better than me irl 🤭
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
Nah, don't want to stoop to his level
hiPhone_User
Stealth
4 months ago
Adding a pinch of positivity if this helps.
Had an amazing interview experience with a company recently. Most people on the interview panel were 40 or older. They were respectful, mindful of the time, clear with what they were asking and why, didn’t ask anything personal/ about family situation/ kids, didn’t ask my previous pay, didn’t ask why I left a certain company, didn’t play mind games around how the interview went, didn’t negotiate on what I had asked.
I was mind blown, impressed and grateful for restoring my faith in interviews and employment overall.
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
You know, it also boils down to people and individuals. Good ones come together to build great culture. Some rotten ones will ruin companies
Glad you had a good interview experience, they are rare 🙌
hiPhone_User
Stealth
4 months ago
Yes, got the offer and joined the company. I wish for you to land at a good place too 🙌🏻
From a legal perspective in India, this comment could potentially constitute sexual harassment or discrimination based on gender. The comment about your appearance, particularly in a professional context, could be considered inappropriate and may violate laws related to workplace harassment and gender discrimination.
India's Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act, 2013 defines sexual harassment broadly and includes unwelcome sexually determined behavior, making comments about a person's appearance included. Additionally, the Constitution of India guarantees the right to equality and prohibits discrimination based on sex.
If you feel uncomfortable or believe your rights have been violated, you may consider taking action by reporting the incident to the appropriate authorities within your organization or seeking legal advice on how to proceed further. It's important to address such behavior to maintain a respectful and safe work environment.
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
This was an interview, ideally I cannot raise a complaint because there's no authority or HR to report to.
For the purpose of POSH the interview environment is also considered part of the workplace so this could definitely be reported to someone appropriate at the company.
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Respect for women who handle these types of situations in the workplaces/interviews with dignity.
Don't know why there are so many sexually frustrated predatory boomers(uncles),
Make sure to drop a review on Glassdoor so that other women can stay away from this company.
@Welt_yang Its because India is mostly a sexually frustrated country. The men and women here have to adhere to certain norms about chastity etc. Moreover, a boomer's mindset is that in their youth, they might have been deprived of their wishes, now they have money and all but no courage to do things they want openly .
While the interviewer is definitely very very wrong, the prevailing condition of societal norms ties down both men and women !!!
Disappointed you didn’t say “oh hello uncle, ghar mei bahu beti nhi hai kya?” and end the call.
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
Yaar I was looking for work then. He had agreed to match by expected comp and fully remote
I held back thinking He can't do anything than saying shit
TrainedCure5
Student
4 months ago
Honestly don't know what to say. I find myself in such situations, we meet such people every day every where , do I react to every such comment and report to management etc or brush away as this is one of the 100 s subtle harassment that I would go through in life . There s no guarantee that action would be taken upon even after we report .
Some boomers are serious offenders who would never change until serious action are taken
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Some would get scared once we report them a couple of times and try to behave well next time
Some no matter how many times you complain , their original character would never alter..
We need to handle case by case and depending on the situation and the reversed effect.
An HR of a well reputed firm used to call daily one of my friend simply to chit chat about the interview and how she has very high chances of getting great hike n all. Then after 2-3 calls he asked her out and trying to flirt with her. She recorded the call and mailed it to the senior management and HR head.
The person was later terminated, she do got the joining offer but she didn’t join.
samosa
Stealth
4 months ago
would you have felt different if the interviewer was a female instead of male ?
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
Someone just said a similar comment
I would have felt different, weird here too though because the setup is so wrong for such a opinion
But again, my response wouldn't change. I want to think they meant well for me so I accepted the feedback
Absolutely hate people who think doing this in a professional environment is fine. No matter their age.
I don’t see the point if even looking at gender during work. There are so many talented engineers I know and a lot of them are females, and there is nothing other than respect because of the work they do.
It’s unfortunate how some people ruin it for the rest of us in the workplace.
Just a thought - Imagine if he were very good looking handsome etc etc, How would you have reacted then? I'm curious to know. Coz people who look good if they flirt , people take it well, but people who look bad if they do so, they call him sexist. Again, #This is one of my thoughts.
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
4 months ago
I didn't react to him too. Ended it on very neutral tone.
Interview and professionalism are not based off looks and that's the point I made.
I would have given the same response irrespective
I think this is something men assume wrongly. It’s not about good or bad looks it’s about whether a person is equally attracted to the one who is flirting. Creeps are creeps regardless of their looks. And the workplace is not the place to comment on the looks of a person you’ve just met.
Kamlesh
Stealth
4 months ago
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The title should be > when you have nothing significant to rant
Agreed totally on your PS note. Interview isn't a place for such things
