Need advice in Marriage. Pls advice advice me !!

Do you realise how much of a hypocrite you are? You are calling the women too avg or below avg but then you yourself have issues with how you look. If you want to demand something from someone, then first yourself be on that level.

I think the problem lies in you buddy. You yourself not look in good shape right now and wanting a girl who looks top notch is not fair.
Second thing going after the looks is bad for long term all those who had a joyful relationship and probably valued the persons character more than how he/she looks
My advice would be to atleast talk to 2-3 girls who looks average just like you so both of you don't have a superiority complex and might have a better conversation with each other. Best of luck from my side

If you look fat and have hairloss please work on yourself if you want the women you like to like you back. That’s the only way.

Go to the gym, do skincare, visit dermatologist for hair loss treatments (PRP, transplant etc) when you’ll be good looking, good looking women will come to you.

The other option is to work on yourself career as well, families will flock to you if you have good CTC.

It’s completely fair that you want to marry someone you are attracted, but whining and complaining while sitting on your lazy bum will do nothing. Work for it.

Your current CTC ?

Lol, beggars can't be choosers. Grow up before it's too late

You can simply tell them that you will consider marriage if you find someone suitable. 31 is hardly any age to draw such strong lines. There are plenty of folks in 30s who are still unmarried, in fact I come across many unmarried girls too of 33-35 age group. That said, you should forget getting good looking girl, since hair loss is a huge deal breaker for girls I have observed. And obviously looks play a big role, no matter how much you earn or how well your family is, any job doing girl even of average look will decline the match.

If you want to go for good looking girl, your only chance is if you opt to go for barely educated, non-working girls. So it is your call. My suggestion is, keep looking out, in the hope that you meet someone nice, not from looks, but just from nature.

If you have decided that you do not want to get marry then stick to it, at least you have clarity of thought which is good. These days people do not have clarity of what they want to do and then spoil other’s life as well. About the relationship with parents, you are their child so I guess slowly but with some time, they will understand your decision. Instead of getting married and then destroying 2 families and wasting someone’s time and effort, its better to stay single

It seems you may be in light depression & anxiety that you are still unaware of yourself. Check with some psychiatrist, but avoid to try their medicine at this stage.

Since you are 31, you still have a chance to change your thoughts.

1. Go for a body checkup wrt Vit D, B12, iron level.
2. Hit the Gym, go for sports
3. Have a better diet plan
4. Socialize. This is must
5. Spirituality (This is must) and Yoga (especially breathing techniques, suryanamaskar, paschimottanasana, Padahastasana)
6. Groom yourself

Was hair loss recently?

One of my close friends, attracted to a beautiful girl, his parents have searched her through matrimonial site. She was beautiful, good looking and better than him. He was in Switzerland and earning 4lac per month in 2012. Because she was beautiful and he was rich they got married. She used to do tantrums in house chores bcz she was pampered child too. Somehow He manages to handle the situation by putting extra effort after office

When he was sent back to India and his package was 30 lpa in 2023. Now they are filing for divorce.

Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder. Don’t go for beauty, go for the girl you feel good with. Make friends and then find the girl.

Don’t worry its not too late yet. After few years, only good behaviour person you will cherish to live with, not with the once upon a time beautiful girl.

Think about it.

You are no Brad Pitt or George Clooney himself so stop searching for Jeniffer Anniston As you mentioned , I would say search for soul mate who understands you better and someone who you think yes I want to spend my rest of life with her , Looks won't matter brother, my Friend got married to the hottest girl of our batch and year later they parted their ways !! Marriage is something jisko Har din Har Pal Nibhana Hota hai , if u get trapped with someone just because of looks and vo tumain Chain ki neend nahi Sone deta then boss , now a days you must be seeing cases on social Media !!! Good luck !