Can be a list too. But Only unmarried men
Meme game should be strong.
Underrated comment, it gets really weird when she doesn't laugh on any of your memes😅
A girl laughing at your memes and stupidity lovingly is way more attractive than a hot one ignoring the things that make you laugh
I think about this from time to time, but never penned it down. so here we go:
Non-negotiables:
she should be empathetic towards other human beings, and animals. do not necessarily have to love and pet animals, but ykwim. i absolutely abhor folks who behave rudely with the lesser privileged people.
have a life outside our relationship/marriage. i'd absolutely love it if my SO has good and supportive friends to hangout, without me and her hanging out together.
there would be no "your" and "mine" in the relationship. everything is ours, and both of us would decide how and what to spend in what way.
she should tell me to my face if i'm doing something wrong, or doing something she doesn't approve of. i'll always try to better myself, so i need to be told specifically. i would not like it if she starts resenting what i'm doing, without me knowing about it. there would never be any competition in between us, regarding anything. in whatever thing one person lacks in, the other would complement. there would be no i vs her in any problem. it's she and i, vs the problem. always.
yes, since two families are going to get involved together, there will be people on both sides who will have ulterior motives. they may even comment on the other person, which s/he may not like. both of us should be cool enough not to engage in it, and just move in. e.g. maybe my so's extended family has a person who commented on something of mine which i did not like, i must not engage in front of everyone, and thrash that person verbally. however, if my SO wants to do so, she's free to do it, if she is also present in the situation. likewise, if someone from my family said something horrible to her, in front of families, it's a little better if she doesn't engage herself. i would absolutely defend her whatever the case right then and there, but i should be the one who rebuttals. i've a reasoning behind this.
let me explain: whenever you engage in such conversations, with your in-laws families, it is very very easy for it to become something massive. in bengali there's a proverb: "jonaki poka theke agun laglo" (fireflies spread this massive wild fire). i absolutely do not want to have rumour spread about my SO in my extended family. i absolutely do not care about what society thinks of me and us, but if we can maintain a good image, where is the harm.
Religion. I'm not religious, but I've absolutely no problem if my SO practices her religion diligently; I might even take part in her religious activities if she wants. But major life decisions must not depend upon religious connotations.
e.g. if she's a conservative catholic, she won't abort the baby, even if her life is on the line. if she's a jehova's witness, she won't accept blood from outside, even in a life-threatening situation. if she's a kattar hindu, she trash talks people from islam. These mustn't be the case at all.
she should be best friends with me (i know this takes time, and i'm more than willing to invest my time and energy here). she should be able to tell me anything, without a shadow of doubt, about anything, without ever fearing about judgements. i should be able to do the same. there should be trust, without an iota of doubt in the mind.
if one of us has taken a decision to do something, without informing the other, the other person should be patient and understanding enough to understand ki, "yaar agar isne bina puche ye decision liya hai abhi k liye, then mera naa janna hi sahi hai, abhi k liye. kuch sochkr e liya hoga. aage jaake toh batayega hi"
political views should be something around the center. not too right, not too left. both have good and bad sides, so it'll be great to listen to both of them views and jo sahi lage jis situation pe, usko apnay. and patient enough to understand a different perspective to a certain problem/situation.
political views should be something around the center. not too right, not too left. both have good and bad sides, so it'll be great to listen to both of them views and jo sahi lage jis situation pe, usko apnay. and patient enough to understand a different perspective to a certain problem/situation.
should be able to admit if she's wrong in a certain situation. nothing is more sexier than when someone understands and rectify their decisions
Leadership like Sonia Gandhi, Diplomatic like sushma swaraj, Enthusiastic like Saina Nehwal, Sensible like Sudha Murti Last but not least
Beautiful like Deepika..
Bas itna sa khwab hai
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