I overcame it by refraining from taking a bath. Also, helped reduce my carbon footprint. Now I only date women under 25

Business Analyst

Growth Manager

Consultant

Everyone faces this man. It is just we get stuck in it

Software Developer

Yup this is what ‘overthinking’ is and I am in the same boat

Senior Designer

It's when you are incredible at solving any situation after the situation is over and you replay it in your head.   Did anyone overcome it? How?

It's when you are incredible at solving any situation after the situation is over and you replay it in your head.


Did anyone overcome it? How?

Anyone with "Replay Syndrome"?

Anyone with "Replay Syndrome"?- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Hi All, 
             I kinda have too many interests and passion and tend to be fairly good at most.But the big downside is I don't really get good at everything.I start many things but completion is a big problem.Like learning different languages (programming) and tech. Am a musician so I start too many projects or trying to learn too many genres but then spreading thin on everything.I want to learn so many courses.I start and then don't complete.

Do you guys also suffer from this.What are some strategies to overcome this

Too many interests and not finishing things

Software Engineer

Does this happen to you'll also, where you forget name/keyword and then it take allot of mental pushing/effort to get back it to your mind.

And the you think am I having a problem? 
is it something that happens to me only or others also? 
Is it natural?

Mind block and forgetting names/key words

Support Specialist

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I work as an intern at a startup who pays me a reasonable 20k. Sometimes I feel I am not giving my 100 percent and I feel I am always lacking something. In my college, many of the students are preparing for GATE and hence not interested in doing internships. So they're always busy with either watching movies or making their notes. So when I see other students who are doing internships, I feel a little down. I don't know why. 
Is this what they call 'imposter syndrome' ? How to control those thoughts?

Confusing times . . .

Obvious ones can be -
1. Not studying for exams / studying 1 day before
2. No control over your emotions / cravings

I'll go first -
When I was in 9th, I was depressed and very socially anxious and underconfident. 

So, on the day of my birthday, I pretended to study in my room for an apparent exam coming in just so that I don't deal with being uncomfortable around the people coming in to wish me

My young brain thought to escape these issues than fight it

What all non-obvious self destructing things you have done in your life?

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Hi Guys, I'm an SDE and I have this weird problem where I stress too much when some work is given to me which I don't understand.

Basically I'm not scared of high workload, as long as I know how to do it. Because then I know IT WILL BE DONE, I just have to work to finish it.

But when I get stuck on a problem, I DONT KNOW IF IT WILL BE DONE, I just keep thinking about it even if I close my laptop. The more I think, the more scary the problem becomes and then I start thinking if it continues and I'm not able to deliver more work, I might get fired and then during background verification for the next company, they will see I was fired and then no one will hire me. Basically my thoughts spiral out of control and make my life miserable to the point where I don't feel hungry.

If I'm confident I'm very confident, I feel like i can do any problem but when I see myself failing multiple times, i lose my mental strength

I need help and I want to improve this nature, not get stressed when things go south. Do you guys feel the same or know how to handle it

Any books or words of wisdom or thought process that you follow which helps you deal with job related work stress will be extremely helpful.

Strange work anxiety

Hi all, 
I started playing/ learning tennis around 1.5 yrs back . what started as a hobby or means to stay fit has now turned into addiction sort of ( for the lack of better word ) . I keep thinking about playing well all the time. I become angry and irritated when I do not play well. it has started to affect me mentally . any tips on overcoming this

Getting attached to sport

Senior Software Engineer

Anyone here with adhd? How did you overcome?

Product Manager

I have a feeling I have become dumb/dumber as the folks around me grasp things much faster ! I am a 33 year old guy and have been having this feeling since last couple of years. 

Anyone else in the same boat and if yes,what could be the reason behind this and potential solutions ?

Feel ‘dumber’ as you age ?

Strategy & Operations

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I'm working at a decently large firm here in Bangalore, leading a cool project that involves stuff I really like, like modeling and data engineering. Plus, I'm helping leadership team with some cool projects which is giving me a lot of visibility in the org. Lately I'm finding it hard to stay motivated.

I'm on medication and seeing a therapist for depression, and I’ve been feeling a lot better overall. It's just that with all these responsibilities I'm not feeling happy. I sometimes vent out on juniors or colleagues (erratic behaviour).  

Has anyone else gone through something like this? What helped you get past this kind of mental block? Any tips or advice would be really helpful.

Mental Health Challenge @work

I’ve been suffering from this all my life. My confidence has improved over time, but there are times when I still feel this returning.

How do you guys n gals deal with this at work?

Imposter Syndrome

Customer Service

What’s something that you do that works to bounce back when hit with setbacks in life?

Boosting mental energy

Program Manager

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
.
Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
.
If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

Seeing colleagues getting promoted while your contribution goes unnoticed. Working on projects that none of your peers care about. Figuring out the balance between work and personal life. Regret of ignoring physical health due to work.

There are endless reasons that can trigger the imposter syndrome. How are you guys coping up with this?

How do you guys cope up with the imposter syndrome

I started a side business. These fuckers can have their promotions. I work for the salary now. I don't contribute beyond the basic limit.  It's liberating. I don't even laugh at the stupid jokes at meeting.

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

[Controversial Opinion] Don't chase perfectionism chase consistency. Period!

My story -
So I switched to a startup last year. I was initially super excited in solving problems. Asking questions and just being curious about everything in general.
   Then, some incidents of my manager's behavior and team folks has turned me into a person who is so fucking afraid of now asking questions, doing tasks. My stakeholder communication sometimes I miss on, some things that seem to be pretty obvious had I been my competent self of previous organization, I am missing out on.
   I don't communicate well simply because I don't want to face my current manager and team. There's huge disconnect as well. I am not at all excited to work everyday. 
 
My friend was miserable in my previous org but now after switch he's damn happy and doing good!

I want to know if this is something that happens with you all? Or are you all like you fit in everywhere?
Or is it just My problem and my incompetence? Because I am always reminiscing my past org and my performance there was exceptional!

Has anyone ever faced a situation where you perform excellent in some org but not in another?

This is worse addiction than smoking, drinking. 

Haven't watched any short/reels for 5 days straight feeling like a void inside. 

But its better, Watching reels/shorts would give a feeling of satisfaction because of the dopamine release.
So seeking other experiences for that dopamine hit. Life is getting better.

Reels, Shorts Addiction

Exactly the reason I deactivated Instagram. It's been a year now. Don't even feel the need to ever go back.

Customer Success

Recently read about something called short attention span and was taken aback by the very evident thing present in my habits and day in day out task that I carried out. Started observing in much more detail about how this is really affecting me and results are not really good. This is probably the root cause of all my unproductiveness. Feels like toddler now.
Observations
1.  mobile is directly or indirectly the reason behind this (Started reading books in order to overcome). 
2. Trying to do multiple things at once eventually leading to doing nothing.
You all get the gist. This is nothing strange. 
So wise people of grapevine how do you overcome this and also how do you reduce your screen time.

Dealing with short attention span

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

just like we need physical workouts to keep our bodies healthy, we need to do mental exercises to keep our brain sharp

do you do any brain exercises intentionally?

Keeping brain sharp & healthy

I worry about the future. Keeps my brain going 24 hours a day. During sleep also

Anyone with "Replay Syndrome"?

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