Bruhhh! Op just poured his/her heart out.. Lmao

You must be a joy to work with. Sounds like your old company tried to do the right thing and set up a farewell lunch to say thank you for your service, and you blew it off to show them how mature and awesome you are.

Now I realise why they say 18 years is when people get mature

Know your worth!  No one else gives a shit except you.

My God. 18 years.  That's more than a lot of marriages.

Software Lead

18 years in the same company. Company grew, my boss became a millionaire. I was still stuck making pittance, no company shares, no stock options. It was almost like I was taken for granted. Last st...

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18 years in the same company. Company grew, my boss became a millionaire. I was still stuck making pittance, no company shares, no stock options. It was almost like I was taken for granted. Last straw came when I was handed an envelope at the Christmas party with ten 20 dollar bills, "annual bonus". Gave my 2 week notice, the team and HR planned a farewell lunch, I didnt go. Said good bye on Teams and signed out. Today I am free.

Next month, I start as a Manager in another company, already my new boss seems light years ahead of my old one. He has been communicating with me regularly, getting me acclimatized to the new company by inviting me to observe team meetings and sending me links and articles, even before my start date.

I finally did it

I finally did it- Grapevine

Without a job in hand and now I am fucking scared that no one will hire me.

Fuck this shit.

Guys, I did it! I quit my toxic boss.

I was told during covid that they will cut my salary in KPMG because they are doing it for all employees who are contractors.  
 I said fck it and left the job.  Got an opportunity with ey within next 1 month. Always have faith in your degree, your skillsets and your capabilities.

Senior Consultant

Brand Marketing Manager

Looking for genuine and non diplomatic answers since it will be anonymous. It is upto you to reveal the name of the company you resigned from.

Lets discuss!!! I will go first -

I quit my last organisation (a famous UPI company) in 2020 because, they still are in old technology. No cloud computing, no kubernates, no terraform. Their entire baremetal infra are in 2 DCs (Mumbai and Bangalore). Leadership ideas are outdated. I was very much bored and looking for a change.

Why did you resign?

Amount of effort i put and the salary i got was not proportional. 14 hrs to get 30k salary as a fresher. I had understood that I deserve better - thus i moved to get better pay and better wlb (which I got in swiggy)

Founder

DevOps Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

hooked up with someone from my previous job, now she is my girlfriend and we are going strong 5 years.

what is your best mistake in office?

I drank too much at an office party, and told my coworker that I was disappointed at my salary growth and title. She cleverly told it to my boss who got worried about me leaving. Guess who ended up with a promo.

Growth Manager

Software Developer

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I'm typing this out as a way of collecting my thoughts and feeling a bit normal to take myself through the day. Context: I have been working with a small b2b IT firm for the last 1.5 years, and resigned yesterday. This was my first job straight out of MBA and it has sucked the soul out of me to say the least. The notice period is 3 months and I am really unsure how will I survive it considering that I'm already completely drained. 

I do not want to list out the reasons of how this place has been toxic for me because I also carry a lot of self doubt if it was really the toxicity of the place or my own incapability to handle the work. I do not have any offer in hand, and haven't started a job search either. Just wanted to put this out there to see if people here in the community have been in a similar situation in their professional lives and how did they figure out the uncertainty, was it a good decision for them in retrospect and if they have any tips for me to deal with this better, with less anxiety.

Panic after resigning from a toxic workplace

First of all congratulations! You're out of that hell hole how and you can now recover and realign.  
  
 Second - You'll be okay. Anxiety tricks you into thinking the worst possible thing will happen to you. It convinces you that it's the only possible outcome.  
  
 I'd say the first couple of days - just be. Do what you want. Decide that in the first week you'll consciously do nothing job related - the one you left and the one you should find. You'll need this time to feel like yourself again. Do things that bring you calm and joy. Nothing to big, could be as simple as a walk or making your favourite kind of sandwich.  
  
 After a week - do the following things : 
 1. List out every single thing you did at this job  
 2. Use this info to update the CV - it'll take multiple iterations. Send it to people for feedback, ask them to be candid, use chatgpt whenever relevant  
 3. Make a list of companies you want to work with  
 4. Visit their portal and other job portals 
 5. Find relevant jobs  
 6. Find people in your circle who can refer you. If you do not know any reach out to people on LinkedIn. Send request to multiple people to have a big top of the funnel  
 7. Simultaneously write down questions that you might be asked in an interview 
 8. Meet people you like  
 9. Do some kind of work out 
 10. Apply to jobs with referal 
 11. Repeat  
  
 Remember - you'll be okay.

Growth And Strategy

Project Manager

I had a boss who asked a colleague on their notice period to report to work when they were actually sick. 100+ fever on consecutive days. He took him to a client meeting, where he fainted and had to be taken to the hospital. 
The boss said - "Uski kismat hi kharab hai."

Share your toxic boss experience

Product Manager

Hello Grapevine fam, 

I want to share my story and get everyone's suggestions on how to proceed. 

I have been working with this startup for more than two years. Recently, my manager and HR head called me for a meeting and said I wasn't living up to their expectations and they wanted me to resign. In the same discussion they said, the company would be paying 2 months salary as severance pay and my LWD would be in June since the notice period here is 2 months and this would help me in my job hunt.

So having faith in this company, I resigned. Right after that my manager and the HR head is not legally acknowledging the two months of my salary as severance pay. And the very same day, they sent me the experience letter which had the same day as my last working day, despite them mentioning my LWD would be in June. 

How do I proceed now? I have given my best to the company in the last two years. But things turned out this way, very dejected and disappointed with the startup.

Was asked to resign but I got laid off

Product Designer

I had been toiling in my current organization for a good while despite the compensation not being totally fair. Whenever I brought this discussion up with the CEO, he always played the friend card and promised to give me what I deserve once the company raises the next round. He also claimed to have supposedly saved me from the layoffs which was completely in his control in the first place. Now I got a better offer, kind of like a dream offer- one that I well deserve, and have convinced a challenging panel to get. One small concern is that during the initial stages of the application, I lied about how much I was getting paid currently. Now that I actually made it and got the offer, I have to submit the documents. How far are these things taken seriously?

Will payslip verification be taken seriously?

Digital Marketing

I have had over 8-10 managers in my life in a career spanning over 8 years, 5 of them were female managers and unfortunately the experience with 4 of them were very bad. They’re either micro managers, or power hungry, want to be dominant over male juniors, misuse their power, cannot take any kind of resistance or refusals or disagreement from juniors.

I have always heard female managers are more empathetic but unfortunately I’ve faced the opposite. Just wondering, was it just bad luck or is it actually the case?

I tried to introspect in this and I found at least 4 points common across all these female managers:

1. They are all from Tier 2/3 Cities
2. They’ve studied in premier institutions IIT,IIMS,Wharton even one of them
3. They either have a younger or elder brother who got more love in the family
4. Their husband is at a higher senior level than them in professional life/career

Unpopular Opinion: Female Managers are Dominating

I have found females in corporate are much more opportunistic and shrewd than men. They think that is the only way to rise. Yet to encounter an empathetic female in jobs.

Software Engineer

Have you been in such a situation where you joined a 'high growth, super fast' organisation and 1 week into, you know you made a mistake.

Thinking you should give the company a chance, it's more than a year and you have not moved. Your mental and physical health have started taking a toll.

Has it happened with you?
How did you break free?

Joined the wrong company

Consultant

Knew this as concept but didn't know the term. Learnt it last week on one of my posts here

Have you faced this in any of your previous companies?

TIL: Dry Promotions. Your story of being promoted without any pay raise?

[ thread ] what are your biggest wins this year?

First time cash flow from investments is greater than salary.

Operations Analytics

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So we had a town hall meet today with our entire vertical. And we reached to a point of AMA’s where people had asked some concerns directly with the CEO.

There was a question, that how can achieve work
Life balance to which he responded saying that it is not possible, we want to become the best company that we will surly become, but if you are expecting work life balance put down your papers today. 
Next there are people living very far away (30-40 km in banagalore) and asked for wfh on Saturdays, he said that please shift near by don’t use that as an excuse for anything. (I don’t know if he realises that people with with their families here and the deposit you would have to pay just be near your job location)
Adding on to job security, he said we have not fired anyone, if you are performing as expected you don’t have to worry. (They have fired over 15 people last month)
He also said that we need to focus on our work and only  be more worried about how to be more productive and nothing else. So we are going to continue working hard and we are not going to make any changes.
Another person asked about appraisals, and we got a disappointing reaction again from him saying that you should not be worried about it, but won’t be getting any appraisals in coming time. 

I am not sure what is happening here anymore!

Work life balance or resign? Definitely resignation!

Business Development

Some managers have better reach in the company and this let's their team be at the top of everything.

I have seen people get promoted and praised just because of their managers reach to upper management and rest are left for scrambles many a time not because they don't work hard enough but because their manager doesn't cares about their job that much or maybe doesn't has that level of reach in the company 

These well fit in managers tend to benefit their entire team with more opportunities, better salary packages and benefits than rest.

Is this trend everywhere ?

Managerbazi a thing everywhere ?

Data Scientist

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So it's that time of the year when variable payouts are being processed. Everyone’s excited, checking their bank accounts. 
I get the email from HR - "Your annual bonus is..." 
I open it

It’s enough to buy me a nice lunch
I go to my boss and ask him about it
He says "We had a tough year, need to tighten our belts" 
I look at his belt - it’s designer

Meanwhile, I’m tightening mine to skip meals. I said "Thanks" and left. 
He says "Keep up the good work"
I leave the meeting room and start Googling jobs

- CONFESSED NO ONE

We had a tough year, need to tighten our belts

Human Resource

I am thinking of leaving my current job and focus on myself, getting to know myself better etc. Currently I have enough money saved for my expenses for next 6-8 months. 
   Everyone I have asked about this say don't leave your job if you don't have another lined up, in this tech winter. I understand their view point. It aligns with what my parents think as well.

Is there anyone who has had done this in the past? Do you recommend this route? Are the consequences far too severe? Does anyone have a different opinion from one stated above?

Anyone ever left job without having another job lying around for their mental peace?

I'm in the same boat, on the verge of quitting, and will most probably take the leap next month.  
 Thanks for the thread. A lot of insights. It has made me confident that I'm not doing anything stupid.

I’m thankful to my manager in my first company for showing me the way and the lead who gave me a chance.

People you are thankful for in your career!?

Thankful to my last org for having toxic culture and not paying salaries for months, leading me to take a mental health break and join a nice new place :)

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