Mediation is only  for people who are already at  peace. Not for the stressed out person. 
My theory,  - if the pot is hot, remove the fire, do pour water into the pot.  If one is stressed, attack the reason for the stress. Thats how you reduce the stress.   

if your manger is shitty, change jobs,  Dont like your job, upskill and change your role. Dont like your married life, get  a divorce, dont  like being single, get married. Sitting in a corner is not going to solve anything.

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Mindfulness, a Buddhistbased meditation, is often seen as a perfect solution for stress and mental health issues, but it can have adverse effects.  Research shows that over 10% of regular meditato...

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- Mindfulness, a Buddhist-based meditation, is often seen as a perfect solution for stress and mental health issues, but it can have adverse effects.
- Research shows that over 10% of regular meditators experience significant negative impacts on their mental health, including anxiety, depression, and psychosis.
- Adverse effects can occur even in people without prior mental health issues and can lead to long-lasting symptoms.
- Despite evidence of these risks, mindfulness coaches and resources rarely warn about potential negative outcomes.
- Ethical concerns arise about promoting mindfulness without mentioning its adverse effects, and more research is needed to understand how to practice it safely. 

 Source: [PsyPost](https://www.psypost.org/meditation-can-backfire-worsening-mental-health-problems/)

Meditation Can Backfire, Worsening Mental Health Problems

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Meditation Can Backfire, Worsening Mental Health Problems- Grapevine

Started meditating now and use my Apple Watch for guidance. 

I wonder what other people are doing. Because I’m having some rough nights sleeping in due to anxiety.

Avoiding anxiolytics or beta blockers for now. Also avoiding a mental health therapist for as long as I can.

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I noticed that my distraction levels increased drastically. Thanks to so many apps, every 5 mins, I end up scrolling for 10-30mins. I feel very depressed by end of the day for not being productive and the guilt is killing me. I observed working from office is more productive for me but that’s not possible all the time. Deleting apps is not helping and on top of it, I feel I’m missing out a lot of important content that actually helps to keep me updated. I heard meditation actually helps but I’m I find it very very challenging to meditate as I easily loose focus and become impatient.

Meditation helps with focus?

Has anyone taken consious steps to fix this? Or are you are mindlessely scrolling as well? Do share your experiences.

Tips to fix my ducked up attention span!

Software Engineer

Hi guys so finally went to psychiatrist he prescribed me some medications. I am just worried about its side effects.

And i have habit of overthinking in worst case scenario. 

Not sure what to do.

Went to psychiatrist. Just nervous about side effects if any?

Just got to know I was laid off, any personal stories or experiences you folks would like to share, 
- what helped you to find the next job
- how to mentally get over it it etc,

Thanks!

Things to do after getting laid off

So sorry to hear this @Yamprofessional! I’ve seen you on grapevine for some time and you’ve been so great! It felt like a friend got laid off :(  
  
 Please let me know if anything I can do to help! :/

Founder

Product Designer

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What is that one piece of advice you’d give your younger self or someone who’s starting off now after working for a few years. 

Mine would be that despite the hunger to prove yourself always take the time off to enjoy your success both personally and with people close to you. 

Time is something you’ll never get back.

One advice you’d give yourself now after having a few years of work exp

Assistant Manager

Is it common for someone in mid 20s experience diminishing attention span and mental fatigue? Any advices on how to keep brain active like it was before. (I can literally feel the difference)

Mid 20s Crisis..

I feel I am constantly overthinking about the future and getting anxiety and stress. I feel I imagine the worst case scenarios and fall into a spiral. I am trying journaling and meditation but I am not able to do it for longer than a week or two. Does someone have any experience in reducing these feelings and having a calmer mind?

Dealing with anxiety and stress about the future?

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
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Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
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If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

Ninja Techniques to have a better life

Software Test - QA

Not really sure if this is the right place to put this up but I wanted to take it out somewhere. I happened to be in a road rage recently. There was this Rapido/Uber biker who was driving rashly. I had seen him but didn’t bother and I was going my way. Suddenly, he overtook me from left and his handle hit on my bike handle. I shouted in panic and he was saying some random shit looking at me - You need to watch out, bro.. something like that.
I was safe and don’t think even the bike had any damage but I lost my calm and wanted to kind of scold him for how he was riding. I followed him driving rashly again for about 500m and caught up and shouted at him saying - bhai shanti se chala or nahi chalana aata hai toh kyun chala rhe ho. And I realised I was about to head on hit an auto wala but braked on time. That auto wala started giving me hand gestures. He was right. I did drive rash.

In the meanwhile, that biker guy went crazy. He got off his bike, took his helmet and signalled at hitting me. The auto wala was standing beside me and he asked what was happening. I said this guy hit my bike and tried to run away. The biker was speaking some rubbish something like - I warned you there also bro.. I went a little numb and didn’t figure what was happening. This guy hit me with his hand on my helmet. I didn’t get hurt but felt the blow. I tried saying something but nothing came out. He hit me again the same way. The auto wala tried to stop him. He kept abusing and then left. I was numb for a few mins. Left from there and reached home safe. 

I am just not able to get these thoughts off my head. The incident keeps flashing. I feel lucky to not have removed my helmet, tried to hit him back because I don’t know what that could have led to. It was clearly my mistake that I lost my calm and followed him in the first place knowing he was a rapido biker. I don’t know why I did that - may be work stress or may be some other trauma. I have been bullied at times in my childhood when I

Road rage, regrets and thoughts!

Product Owner

I haven't been doing mentally well since I don't know when. I've  been extremely self critical about myself to the extent that it has negatively affected my relationship with loved ones. I think I have ADHD as I strongly feel I have the symptoms that are described in YouTube or in any article online. To make matters worse, I am not doing well in terms of my career, my finances have taken a hit, have gained 12+ kilos since a year, unable to focus on work and upskilling and I have anger issues. 
I am 30 YO and I feel my life is turning into a disaster.
Can someone please recommend therapists in Bangalore to whom I can talk face to face? 
I sometimes feel I'm seeking sympathy but in reality, I just need help.
There is a lot of guilt, regret and self hatred rooted deep inside me which has wrecked my confidence, self love, compassion which has started to affect others.
So if you guys know anyone, please let me know.

Need recommendations for therapists in Bangalore

Just sharing for everybody. I personally meditate every now & then or do NSDR. Since I started this practice, I'm baffled at how anxious/in a rush I used to be about everything.

Examples: 
- Wake up in the morning, be in a rush to take a get ready
- Be in a rush to book Uber, anxiously looking at my phone
- Would get done with lunch/dinner in 5-10 mins, sometimes not even appreciating what had been made

It's gotten much better. But I feel this happens with too many of us. Please, just take a moment of calm. Breathe. The world will move with or without you, you need to find your calm.

Have a good one :)

A friendly reminder for the weekend and beyond: breathe, there's no rush!

Analyst

Hey guys,

Waa going through some severe anxiety issues which always leads me into negative thinking spiral and some past issues. 

Could you guys recommend me a therapist which you feel has been extremely helpful for you?

I would prefer only online mode for sessions.

Any therapist recommendation?

Hey folks, just wanted to know how are you all taking care of your mental health on a daily basis and stuff that can be incorporated in your daily routine.

How to take care of mental health?

Co-Founder

I'm trying to find more awareness in the present, trying to make sure I listen well, and that I am well aware of what I'm doing, the food I eat, how well I respond to people etc.

It's obviously an ever evolving journey. 
Grapeviners who have successfully moved to better focus and mindfulness, what made you get there? What can I follow? How did it help you?

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