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Okay can you explain me in detail like what made you think like you will be putting bad message to your manager.is he give more work or toxic behaviour or work load? 
 Is this first time you are feeling like this ,ever done before?

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Am having overthinking that i will write something bad to my manager or vice president. They both are genuine people, still why am having fear of it. I will never harm them in any way still feeling...

Am having overthinking that i will write something bad to my manager or vice president. They both are genuine people, still why am having fear of it. I will never harm them in any way still feeling it. Its like my mind is controlling me. Btw I am diagnosed with OCD. Is it that reason? Please help, will i get fired if i will do it, will they understand me from what things i am going through.

Overthinking at peak

Overthinking at peak- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Hi Guys, I'm an SDE and I have this weird problem where I stress too much when some work is given to me which I don't understand.

Basically I'm not scared of high workload, as long as I know how to do it. Because then I know IT WILL BE DONE, I just have to work to finish it.

But when I get stuck on a problem, I DONT KNOW IF IT WILL BE DONE, I just keep thinking about it even if I close my laptop. The more I think, the more scary the problem becomes and then I start thinking if it continues and I'm not able to deliver more work, I might get fired and then during background verification for the next company, they will see I was fired and then no one will hire me. Basically my thoughts spiral out of control and make my life miserable to the point where I don't feel hungry.

If I'm confident I'm very confident, I feel like i can do any problem but when I see myself failing multiple times, i lose my mental strength

I need help and I want to improve this nature, not get stressed when things go south. Do you guys feel the same or know how to handle it

Any books or words of wisdom or thought process that you follow which helps you deal with job related work stress will be extremely helpful.

Strange work anxiety

Software Engineer

I have been suffering from work related anxiety for the last 3-4 months. I have recently started taking medications for it. I am supposed to move to Bengaluru as my wfh has ended. My parents think it's a good idea as it will help change my environment. I am wondering if it's a good idea to share about it at my workplace with my manager/superior. I know it's subjective, but still. Because I am worried this has started to affect my performance. Also, I am a talkative and emotional person and may end up slipping these things anyway.

Informing manager / superior about anxiety

Don't share this with anyone in workplace unless you really trust your manager who you know will always have your back 
  
 But please start seeking therapy regularly and actively, and do have faith in the process. You'll be available to cope with it better hopefully

Program Manager

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

So it's basically about when something good happens to you, like getting a new job. Do you believe in telling your friends or relatives in advance, before joining? Or do you prefer to share the news on the joining day through LinkedIn or some posts?

The fear I have in my mind is that if I tell them in advance, I might not get the offer or something bad may happen. In the past, my 8 LPA job offer was revoked, and then I landed a 6.5 LPA job, but the package changed to 4 LPA. So I've decided not to tell anyone in advance about what's happening in my life.

Does it happens with you or I'm overthinking much 🤔 

If you think I sound crazy then do let me know how to overcome

Myth or superstition idk what it is !!

Data Scientist

Do you Believe in Superstition

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

So I am a fresher who joined this decent company where they pay me a decent salary. I got allotted to a project in place of an Senior Swe.  It's been 2 months and I have been given tickets regarding features requests . The work is not easy at all. The team consists of 5 people where there are only 2 developers me and my manager. He is mostly busy so he just provides me an overview about the code base which is 30 years old . The languages are C, C++ and C#. I have been working on this feature request for the past 3 weeks and the pressure is immense. I am feeling so terrible that I am not able to deliver. I just don't like this feeling. I try and try and try but some things are just way above my expertise. I have always been good at coding but to contribute to a real world project is really tough. It's also quite frustrating as at every step you have to deal with multiple problems. My manager is a good guy overall but today he told me that I really need to amp up my game. And deliver. I just don't like to be mediocre but I am just stuck at this point. Am I overthinking? Or me feeling this way is normal. I just want suggestions from different people of this sub!!

Fresher in Tech got assigned to a Cybersecurity project in place of Senior SWE.

Gym peeps, what made y'all started working out?

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

The past week hasn't been good. Not sure why but I am doing blunders at my work. Confidence is at its lowest, imposter syndrome is kicking in as hard as never. 

Thought of switching from PMing also came in, but again not sure what is happening. 

For some reason, I am not feeling good about myself and I am not able to figure out why. 

Mind is totally fucked up, and it's hampering my work now. 

Need help, what should I do to feel calm.😞

ADHD is ruining my work as a PM

Product Manager

So, my boss is an absolutely lovely person, and is the best boss I've had so far. Not to brag, but I'm also the best performer in my team, by a mile. So, while I do get my pats on the back, I'm also rewarded with more and more work. I love, atleast so far, what I do, so I didn't mind taking up more work, because I learnt a lot in the process too, and it helped my hone my craft better.

Cut to now, I'm losing interest in work. Don't feel like taking up any new work, no matter how exciting the brief, or how great its potential.

I feel like I'm burnt out. And majorly demotivated.

What makes it worse is seeing this other member in my team chill the absolute fk out. He's hardly even given any important projects because of what a waste resource he is.

I've also just been promoted. So, I'm not sure if I should share what's on my mind with my boss.

My mind says I shouldn't, but my heart says it should be fine.

What should I do about:
1. Telling or not telling my boss what I'm going through (because I'm scared if it'll come back to bite my later)
2. Me feeling extremely burnt out and demotivated.

Drop in a joke or two, if you want, but please drop in a serious and genuine reply too.

Should I tell me boss I'm burnt out?

No, please dont in my opinion. Are you not taking leave’s? Please take leaves. 
  
 It might be contradictory on what i said but when it comes to bosses, it better not to talk about burning out and demotivated etc. 
  
 If you still want to do, sound as positive as you can be.  
 Boss sab ka bharosa nahi yaar.

Marketing Creative

Hi all, 
I am a software engineer in a * company. But here the point is about myself, i don't like to code at all, infect i hate it now, but still i am doing it , because i have no choice, i can't leave it nor my family will be  supportive about it. I know its the best work in today's time but not for me. I also got promoted and been on a good pay (acc to exp). But i just don't want to do this job at all. My brain is affecting to a large extent , i have been hiding it from my family. I have a lot of headaches and tension of work like how am i going to do this. Because of having no interest in this, i am not improving my knowledge in this field, which have created fear about switching jobs. I forgets concepts , but i am able to work , don't know how, but i am afraid how long will i survive. My life is ahead me, many responsibilities lying ahead, but also i dont want to do this. What should i do ? Please help me , i can see only one option and that the very last option.

Coding...

As asked in the title. During office timings, I am really anxious to the point that I am unable to relax during lunch breaks as I am afraid I will get a message or a call that I might have to jump into. I know it sounds stupid, but I spend nearly 10 hours everyday with crippling anxiety. It has become so bad, I am considering quitting to work on myself just to get rid of this anxiety. However the Current market scenario doesn't allow me to me do this. I have asked my friends and family about this, but everyone says 'don't quit', 'work hard' Etc. I am sick of hearing this.

How do you deal with the crippling anxiety for WFH?

Project Manager

I am not sure if this is the right platform or not. I am always anxious that what if I make a mistake in office. What if someone says anything to me ?
I want to do everything correct. 
This is even causing me sleep problems.
What do I think so much about office ?
I feel fundamentally I am a person who likes to be unhappy. 🥹

Anxiety

Hi all, I just wanted to ask everyone here if they ever felt the way i am feeling right now in my role. I’ve been working for over a year now, and i feel burnt out all the time. I have a habit of saying yes to everything to my project managers/ team managers because i dont want to show any weakness or them thinking that I’m slacking off. This has taken a toll on me big time. Whenever I’m struggling with deadlines, i get legit scared, like shaking and all, and it’s frightening and annoying. I want to switch to a more stable company (currently in a company somewhere between a startup and a corporate- it has the downsides of both but upsides of neither imo). I wanted to know if this is something only i am struggling with or if anyone has any suggestions on how to tackle this.
Thank you all in advance:)

SDE 1

After 7-8 months at my new job, I've been increasingly anxious, affecting my sleep. I'm constantly worried about making mistakes, even when they're not my fault. Recently, my manager rebuked me for errors that weren't mine, and since then, ge has just gone silent with me and he has just sideined me. The situation is making work and life challenging, with random outbursts adding to the stress.
Company culture is also very toxic after layoffs and everyone just keeps on blaming each other.

How to handle this situation?

Feel Anxious about going to work everyday

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Like suppose you have deadline of 1 week if you spend 7-8 hours daily. 
But sometimes (happening all times with me) I over stretch myself to complete it in 2-3 days itself. 
I don't get better sleep or focus on other things like watch movies or play games until I complete it.

How many of you have OCD of completing a given task/project fast.

Tech Lead

My story -
So I switched to a startup last year. I was initially super excited in solving problems. Asking questions and just being curious about everything in general.
   Then, some incidents of my manager's behavior and team folks has turned me into a person who is so fucking afraid of now asking questions, doing tasks. My stakeholder communication sometimes I miss on, some things that seem to be pretty obvious had I been my competent self of previous organization, I am missing out on.
   I don't communicate well simply because I don't want to face my current manager and team. There's huge disconnect as well. I am not at all excited to work everyday. 
 
My friend was miserable in my previous org but now after switch he's damn happy and doing good!

I want to know if this is something that happens with you all? Or are you all like you fit in everywhere?
Or is it just My problem and my incompetence? Because I am always reminiscing my past org and my performance there was exceptional!

Has anyone ever faced a situation where you perform excellent in some org but not in another?

Consultant

Today i have gone to doctor as i have headache and little bit of dizziness. She said i got anxious all the time. It is kind of true. But i dont know how to rectify those anxiousness.

For example, i am going get a project where i dont how to work on backend project wrt testing. I got anxious. I got anxious while driving that i have to drive safely. I dont have to go for over speed limit. Even if i pick up tea cup i got anxious that tea should not be spilled on floor.

I have remote job and work is chill. But anxiousness always finds a way in my routine. Due to that i am getting high blood pressure. I am also walking daily except this week due to sickness. 

Any idea how to be less anxious in every work.

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