Sad Reality of dating in indian cities

Hey reader, I am living in Pune from around 2 years, but one thing i saw here is people just want marathi only to date, idk 🤷 the reason and it’s not like that they’re good and sensible (sorry for this) but yes really weird 🤷🤷kuch pta lge to btao mujhe bhi

Fairy Tale Expectations - Movies and novels set unrealistic expectations for marriage. People expect a perfect life and avoid dealing with real problems together. Thanks to internet - Real life communications made it more complicated Individualism - Selfishness: Building a strong marriage takes lot of compromises and time together. Many people love to spend their time with ofc colleagues, but refuse spend with family. Two jobs in single family, built a confidence that money can save you from all problems Too Many Choices: Thanks to internet and dating apps which made it easy to meet new people. This literally gives confidence to leave relationships without fear of being alone for lifelong. Bad Habits: Alcohol, weed, and drugs are normalized, but they destroy a person’s inner self. When you lose yourself to these habits, it’s hard to be a good partner because it gives you confidence to do every shit Late Marriages: Marrying at older age often means having rigid mindsets. It’s harder to adapt and change, which can hurt the relationship.

The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo

I am writing this post to understand the pros and cons of different dating apps from the customer side point of view.

I've been seeing a lotta posts where men are venting about not being able to find the right girl, so just wanted to know whether it's the same for women too Here in Bangalore its hard to find a quality guy smh, (emphasis on quality). Dating apps are a dead end and even when you have organic “meet cutes” the men end up saying they want something casual and don't want to commit. How do you deal with this? Or rather, how do you distract yourself from these kinda feelings? P.S: don't come at me saying “its harder for men” - I'm sure it is lol I just want to know if there are women who also resonate with what I feel.

Can be a list too. But Only unmarried men

Hi I’m an above average looking and average height guy. I’ve been looking out for a serious relationship for years now and it really sucks. I mean career wise, I’m doing great. I’ve a stable career with a good car and my own house. Something that women consider for serious relationships turning into a marriage. I’m also very religious, super good at heart, loyal, caring basically too good to be true. I’m so loyal that I stop looking at other women even at talking stage. Send flowers randomly etc etc. Now the problem is, apparently if you don’t play mind and manipulation games, or basically be toxic, you won’t get a good partner. Every woman out there says she’s looking for 90s love and nice guys who care for her etc etc. Then why are people like me single? Not only me i know many men who are good at heart being played by such women. Why are you lying girls?

What started as an Instagram-inspired social experiment has turned into a startup idea. (Refer: Men https://grapevine.in/post/808462ef-8ae0-4269-aaa3-c683ba1194bb and women https://grapevine.in/post/6bcaeffa-0cac-44a2-98a5-fc7a14786e85 survey) Few observations: 1. Our generation has moved on from orthodox thinking (baring few people) to more emotional compatibility 2. Men have more worldly expectations, while women seek spiritual features; none are right/wrong as long as they find each other. 3. Very glad that no one 'expected' the partner to take up gendered roles as dictated by society So, coming to the matchmaking platform. The idea is to have all aspects of life considered - personality, profession, family, demographics, physical attributes, etc. and have a weighted scale against them. Though I have my doubts here 1. An Introvert will need an extrovert to seek them but will be drained of social battery later. How do they match? 2. Physical attributes pull down people who aren't confident with their looks; that doesn't relate to how good/bad they are as partners. But without pictures, it will be a risky surprise element. 3. Prevent parents from creating accounts on children's behalf. Probably a social media log-in Share your thoughts on the compatibility algorithm and the problems we may face. P.S. I am not a techie, will need someone to actually build this. Will take care of marketing. Let's help someone find their soulmate ❤️ P.P.S. If this takes off, I will change my username to TimaSaparia