Keep your laptop in a different baggage and don’t carry it

Data Scientist

Growth Manager

Log off from all devices and don’t check them, if it’s super urgent they will call, say you are in XXX location, idhar net nhi aata, OOO mein bhi same info, limited access to mails, call karne mein log ko maut aati hai  🤗

Corporate Strategist

Taking a vacation for a trip and able to have pre week without any critical work is heavenly but the opposite is happening with me !!! No work is likely to be closed before I leave and how not to carry this baggage on to the trip 🙃?

Taking a vacation for a trip and able to have pre week without any critical work is heavenly but the opposite is happening with me !!! No work is likely to be closed before I leave and how not to carry this baggage on to the trip 🙃?- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Context - Applied for leave but manager told that there might be some work coming my way so don’t take leave. I obliged but then I had an Idea of Workcation 😭

Since work till now is pretty lite so I planned a workcation thinking I would be working for like 4-5 hrs and will roam around in the evening. 

But on the day of my travel, my manager called and told me that there’s some high priority work and I had to put in long hours for getting this delivered within this week so considering I will not be having much time to roam and explore, I ended up cancelling my travel plan losing 15k in bookings and here I am, having not much to do because we are waiting for other folks to share some data and inputs. 

I mean wth 🤦‍♂️ Life has fucked me really hard.

Note- I live with my parents so I had planned a good 4 days getaway with my wife but it seems destiny had other plans. Since my parents are dependent so we both never got chance to travel and explore in each other company. 

Venting out here for no reason.

Rant: Life always fuck my travel plans.

Product Manager

We’re pretty chill. But I’m planning to go for a vacation to Kerala for 10 days almost, and since i told them they have been weird. 
Immediate response was to say that it’ll be tough to manage the project and that long a leave isn’t possible

I debated back and they were like fine.
But since then it’s just been very cold.

What can I do? 🤕

My manager is acting strange since I asked for a leave. What should I do?

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

My cousins are visiting us from the US, and we are planning a trip to Japan for 8 days. I joined a new company just a few weeks ago, and it will be around 2 months into my employment on the day of the trip. I am being assigned tasks slowly, so I'm not sure what to do, whether to go on the family trip or stay alone at home and go to work while the rest of my family members enjoy the trip.

YOE: 1.7

Torn between a family trip and work. What should I be doing?

Software Engineer

Lessons over career span

Consultant

So, my boss is an absolutely lovely person, and is the best boss I've had so far. Not to brag, but I'm also the best performer in my team, by a mile. So, while I do get my pats on the back, I'm also rewarded with more and more work. I love, atleast so far, what I do, so I didn't mind taking up more work, because I learnt a lot in the process too, and it helped my hone my craft better.

Cut to now, I'm losing interest in work. Don't feel like taking up any new work, no matter how exciting the brief, or how great its potential.

I feel like I'm burnt out. And majorly demotivated.

What makes it worse is seeing this other member in my team chill the absolute fk out. He's hardly even given any important projects because of what a waste resource he is.

I've also just been promoted. So, I'm not sure if I should share what's on my mind with my boss.

My mind says I shouldn't, but my heart says it should be fine.

What should I do about:
1. Telling or not telling my boss what I'm going through (because I'm scared if it'll come back to bite my later)
2. Me feeling extremely burnt out and demotivated.

Drop in a joke or two, if you want, but please drop in a serious and genuine reply too.

Should I tell me boss I'm burnt out?

No, please dont in my opinion. Are you not taking leave’s? Please take leaves. 
  
 It might be contradictory on what i said but when it comes to bosses, it better not to talk about burning out and demotivated etc. 
  
 If you still want to do, sound as positive as you can be.  
 Boss sab ka bharosa nahi yaar.

Marketing Creative

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I’m a solo dev funding myself while I get my business to the point of funding my life. I derive a lot of meaning and excitement from my work. 

There are giant open problems that if addressed could improve my life for decades. 

There are skills to learn and reps to hit. I find myself thinking about it all the time, not anxiously, but like a chess person might think of a difficult chess problem. I could fly to Iceland and sit in a spa with cream on my face but within I’d be cracking the code.

Do you relate to this? Should I take a vacation for vacations sake?

I do find my life is reducing in complexity to the point where most of my time is the business. But isn’t that common? Like how a college student is basically only a student until their life opens up after completing that education.

How do you take vacations? All I want to think about is my work

Let's talk about being highly underpaid. It's a reality many of us face, yet it's often shrouded in silence. Whether you're in a corporate job, a creative field, or any profession, feeling undervalued and underpaid can be demoralizing and unjust. It's not just about the numbers on our paycheck; it's about the recognition of our worth, our skills, and our contributions.

Too often, we find ourselves in situations where our hard work and dedication are not adequately compensated. We put in long hours, go above and beyond our job descriptions, and yet, when it comes time to discuss salaries, we're met with excuses or paltry raises that barely keep pace with inflation. It's a cycle that perpetuates feelings of frustration, resentment, and even imposter syndrome.

But here's the thing: We don't have to accept being undervalued. We can speak up, advocate for ourselves, and demand fair compensation for our efforts. It might be uncomfortable, and it might require us to challenge the status quo, but it's essential for our well-being and the integrity of our professions.

Employers need to recognize the importance of fairly compensating their employees. It's not just about the bottom line; it's about fostering a culture of respect, appreciation, and mutual benefit. When employees feel valued and adequately compensated, they're more engaged, productive, and loyal.

So, if you're feeling highly underpaid, know that you're not alone. It's a widespread issue that deserves attention and action. Whether it's through salary negotiations, seeking out better opportunities, or advocating for change within our organizations, let's stand together and demand the compensation we deserve. Because when we value ourselves, others will too.

Are you getting underpaid?! I know it sucks🤦🏻

1. Most of the time it sucks because you're comparing and that'll always take your joy. In some cases, you're not underpaid but someone else is overpaid. 
 2. When you don't have a job, you'll appreciate being a bit underpaid too. 
 3. Not all people can take the risk of standing against the organizations. 
 4. Indian labour laws suck and that's why the culture of fair compensation is just a joke. 
 P.s.: Everyone should know their 'market' value and they should always aim for the highest of the range.

Analyst 

My LWD is approaching. I don’t think anyone would ask me to work even on my last day. I have given KT and handoffs already.

What do you do on your last working day?

Data engineer

Half day salary cut for every 3 days you're late is pretty freakin messed up.
Curious to know what other ancient capatilist policies do corporates have in place to exploit all of us?

What are some dystopian policies at your work place?

Nomura requires you to clock your time out when you use the restrooms.

Intern

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

Everyone seems to be traveling the World. I am wondering how are they funding it? Especially the ones with kids.

What % of your annual income do you spend on travel?

Hey folks,
I’ve taken few leaves to connect with family and relax but I’m feeling guilty for not working. 
I see slack and emails being exchanged and that makes me feel I’m not doing enough and it will impact my appraisal. 
So essentially I’ve taken leaves but unable to enjoy which was the purpose of taking leaves. Does anyone else relate to this? 
How do y’all cope with this? Any tips?

Feeling guilty about not working on a leave.

For the last 2 months I have been trying to go to the gym and take care of my health but every week something or the other comes up and I'm working more than 14+ hrs sometimes. 12 hrs is average.


Every time something is going on in my mind around my work or performance or layoffs and a lot of things.  

I'm frustrated. Can somebody tell me what should be the best way to handle this?

Because of this I have high anxiety and also not getting proper time for personal life. 

I also feel a lot demotivated sometimes , thinking that why I'm working till 2am and for what?

Frustrated and Stressed: Mind Fog

My mother called me yesterday and tells me she got scammed for about 10 lakhs and needs money by Monday. She has 4 lakhs and I will have to cover the rest. Turns out she let a friend take a loan in her name and this friend gave fake jewellery as collateral. The friend took loans under her husband’s name and my mom’s name, she divorced the dude and escaped. The bank called my mom and has asked her to pay, now they’re filing a case against my mom for fraud.

I’ve spent my weekend talking to advocates and friends, and looks like the only way to get out of it unscathed is to cut a deal with the bank saying we’ll pay the money back and they don’t press charges in return. Contesting the bank is going to take time, money and the risk of my mom losing her job.

As an older daughter who grew up in a broken family, I’ve spent my childhood and adulthood protecting my mother and sibling. I finally landed a well paying job 2 years ago and now the responsibility extended to providing for my younger sister and my mother financially which I’m more than happy to do. I’ve worked hard the past few months to save what I have right now beyond what I give my family, use to sustain myself and finally felt happy about the position I’m in.

Now I’m heartbroken. I’m going to be emptying almost 70% of what I have so far for this for paying the bank and the lawyer. Especially for something that’s not even my mistake and something that could have been easily avoided. I’m not in a place to direct my anger at her, I know it’s a hard time for her as well. 


6 to 7 lakhs might sound like a small amount to some but I don’t have the privilege to throw money like that. I don’t have fuck you money. I don’t take money from friends. I’m 25 and literally just started my life 2 years ago after working for peanuts. 

What’s even the point of working hard, leading an honest life if this is how it works? It’s just truly unfair and I don’t know how to deal with it.

I wish life was a little easier and I just need to vent

Me too venting in this space.. 
 //Start if rant 
  
 My father too was frauded by a builder whom we had entrusted building flats on our plot of land. Fcker took booking amount from multiple people and left construction, claimants now coming after us saying its our responsibility to refund even though my father didnot recive any amount. 
 I had to take 18 lakhs loan for my father to complete construction and am all the time calling advocates in assesing risk from claimants who come barging at our home and building site with threats of filling FIR. 
 Every month my one third salary goes in Loan amount, had got a ideal wlb good paying job 2 years back after battling unemployment and low pay for many years. 
 Had planned to take wife and kids on vactaions for making up for lost time but now struggling to fulfill basic needs for family, forgot about vacations. 
 Have taken risk and moonlighting but it becomes hell on days when there is clash between jobs and sometimes lash out on my kids and wife and parents and then get hit by double guilt of not being strong enough.  
 Dont have any backing to face cheat builder who has backing of police and politicians, claimants coming after us as they have recognized us as soft target. 
 Preparing for 10 lakhs more expenses in multi year litigation trying to probe my fathers innocence. 
 Fcking jealous relatives enjoying all this from distance. 
 Fck this world. 
  
 //End of rant

Offer : E4 175k pounds
Current: L4 56 Lakhs
YoE: 1 year 7 months

Here's what I have considered:

- Living in London is going to be costly, on an avg I'll be saving 1.2x of India.
- Meta London created a bad reputation for itself when last year it laid off people from India just 2 days after joining
- it's not worth it going from L4 to E4, I probably should switch only when getting a higher level or a big big pay bump (this is probably not a big pay bump considering the cost of living)
- I am not very good at making friends, and I have quite some friends here now... I don't just want to leave everything and be alone in a new city so far away from home.

- the only pro point I see is that..  it is London.

Do you think I should reconsider my decision?

I have decided to reject Meta London offer

Dude, take risk. I know staying in Google looks like safety net but You might not be able to do adventures stuff later in life. Moving to a new country, new food, new culture. You WILL meet new people. Those things can’t be bought.

I have been suffering from work related anxiety for the last 3-4 months. I have recently started taking medications for it. I am supposed to move to Bengaluru as my wfh has ended. My parents think it's a good idea as it will help change my environment. I am wondering if it's a good idea to share about it at my workplace with my manager/superior. I know it's subjective, but still. Because I am worried this has started to affect my performance. Also, I am a talkative and emotional person and may end up slipping these things anyway.

Informing manager / superior about anxiety

Don't share this with anyone in workplace unless you really trust your manager who you know will always have your back 
  
 But please start seeking therapy regularly and actively, and do have faith in the process. You'll be available to cope with it better hopefully

Program Manager

I recently laid off, sometime ago. I was privileged enough so didn't really complained about it. But what i realised is:

"Everyone should get laid off once in a lifetime." Reason being you stop being emotional about your job. Some people have a habit to treat job as a the only purpose their life has. Basically job gives them the validation which they never received from anyone.  
Also you realize the hard truth that you are just a number. "Resource" as they aptly call you.

You realize your life has many dimensions than just serving someone. 

Quite an experience i would say, Kuch din to guzariyen lay offs mein!

Taking a vacation for a trip and able to have pre week without any critical work is heavenly but the opposite is happening with me !!! No work is likely to be closed before I leave and how not to carry this baggage on to the trip 🙃?

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