Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues. Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families. Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices. Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps. In the US, This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Following wester consumerism blindly is the reason when most DINK couple decides not to have kids. The age old colonial term of "civilising the brown is white man's responsiblity". Let me burst this bubble of ever happy life and not having dependency of kids,they are not investment,etc etc. I wont highlight if its right or wrong here for it lots of post are there. I better highlight what will happen after next 20 30 years as I can learn from west(USA) lifestyle pattern. All these people have kept most of their money in *paper* assets like PF,Bank FD,stocks. Reason for highlighting the word paper will see. As the number of oldies will increase over youngsters. Govt will need more youngsters as economy is worked upon by them. No loan takers,no new consumers. What will happen stock prices will fall,same goes for bank interest ,in worst case you wont be ablw to withdraw your principal even(happening in australia, people have to inform why they are withdarwing cash to bankers). Next for pf: when ww contribute to PF we pay foe the payback of current retired generation or basically we are paying their debt. But due to lack of youngster no one will pay your debt so forget your PF as well. This is how your money bubble of Crores will vanish. There is a term debt to gdp ratio, ever heard? Its the debt taken by govt from future generations to develop current lifestyle. Hence still govt need people to sustain and payback that debt so they will allow illegal immigrants ( what you are seeing in USA and Europe in name of "multicultralism"). And you know what? These rowdy immigrants will fill your city and you will become second class citizen why cause its democracy and majority rules. Noone will protect you leave alone police actually there is no one "left" to protect you( read statements of Canadian police regarding car thefts you will find similarities). Still oldies are there so new experimentation on assisted suicides(Canada is leading the way in current timeframe).

Doctors, software Engineers to US/ Europe Nurses to UK Skilled construction Labour to Israel/ Middle East Now Taiwan. Where else will Indians go and work in future? Indian civilisation is going to rise as Indians work in more countries.

I am almost 31 now. Usually in our families, by this time, married couple is having a kid at least. We don’t want to have kid only because i work in startups. Last 2-3 years were tough from job security point of view and I don’t want to get into a situation when I don’t have job to support the family and kid or I need to change locations frequently because of jobs. Is this common for more folks? Thoughts? PS - I have emergency fund of 6-8 months.

Is it just me or is even a job at the best Tech companies just don’t make any sense for women? There are always women who have great family support or husbands that are understanding and encouraging. But generally why does it seem like becoming a senior woman in tech even at the best places is sort of unattractive and significantly increases your odds of “failure” outside of work e.g. divorce,having kids late? Interested for thoughts from both men and women.

You are being judged and measured every day. Every quarter your new ratings are being published. Every here and then your colleuges are getting fired and you dont know when suddenly it would be you. Such a peer pressure with huge amount of people competing for same shitty life. How are you guys able to work around this ?