Lots of thinking around this but very less action. Many are hoping for FIRE to break out of this. But I doubt problems will ever end.

Software Engineer

we become so busy in our day to day life that we take all the miseries at work, injustice for granted and move on with heavy heart and feeling low Few eg  I dont like my work but have been doing th...

we become so busy in our day to day life that we take all the miseries at work, injustice for granted and move on with heavy heart and feeling low Few eg
- I dont like my work but have been doing this since long so no other option left
- Never looked at things from first principles and now its very late to start again with right approach 
Peers, family make it worse and we are stuck. 
I fee thats Injustice to our self and life. It takes a lot of courage to move out of this and spend time on what you are good at. 
Did anyone feel this and won this battle?

Feeling Stuck?

Consultant

Feeling Stuck?- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

It’s been 11 months since I joined my first job. Being from an IIT, I only did DSA in college and got this job paying a decent 20lpa base salary. But when I first joined here I was put at bench for the first 6 months. I always used to ask for work but got very vague work of writing python scripts. Finally I was put in a project but the work mostly involves utilising python and MATLAB. I have started doing DSA again and learning MERN stack. I am applying to a lot of jobs but apparently my resume is not getting shortlisted anywhere. I want to make this switch but my biggest fear is that if I will be able to get an offer which matches this salary. Any advice how to get out of this situation ?

Feeling Stuck in current job

Software Developer

I feel stuck and lost 
Dealing with inferiority complex and relationship trauma
Anyone can suggest me some practical ways to get over these!!

Feeling stuck

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

I need some good advice. I have been working on a very weird project for past two and half years now. This project has not at all being in a proper way and feels like a classic case scenario of sucking up to clients to keep the business with them. But in this conundrum, I am suffering A LOT. 
My core working areas are SSIS and SQL Server and I have been trying expand my skillset to cloud platforms like Azure engaging in some proper Data Engineering roles. But I have been sole contributor in my role in this project and inevitably a very heavy dependency developed upon me over time and now the management is not willing to involve me in any project other than this.
I have been trying to get some opportunities laterally but since I have no hands-on experience in my "preferred skillset", no one's willing to consider. I tried talking to my managers and I keep hearing "It's a good thing that you have developed such good rapport with the customers" (which I have), "this project will end soon and you will get better opportunities once we close this project", "we will consider you for on-site opportunities". None of these promises have been fulfilled. I realized very late that I have just been exploited since I have been doing at least a three man job in the billing of one and they keep extending me on the project. Accolades are there but just on mailers and that too from customers, not my managers.
To add insult to injury when I received customer appreciation no one from the management even bothered to highlight it internally and they didn't nominate me for H1B unlike they promised. There is no incentive of any type- bonus, better project or onsite opportunities and I am struggling to find jobs within or outside the organization because of current market scenario and lack of experience. 
I am getting restless thinking about this and the time I am losing on this worthless project. There seems to be 
a huge disconnect between HR, management and employee. What to do???

Feels like I am stuck

Data engineer

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

I was being paid less by the company. But I continued as it allowed some personal time and I was expecting senior positions. However, the company has appointed someone(was close to top.mgmt) as my head and my chances of senior roles are bleak now. 
Should I keep playing the chess/politics or just lookout for something else? 
ps- my seniors have left the company and I am not finding any sponsor/godfather who can put forward my case.
#feelingstuck

Stuck in the current situation

Analyst

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

I turned 30 last month and I still feel i am a 20 year old. I lost the last 4 years of my life working from home and have started to go to office recently. I never worked together in a team, never been out for team lunches/dinners, never presented my work to the seniors/leadership. I have 4.5 years experience on the paper and my interaction with colleagues in person has been almost zero .

I don’t know how to do my taxes, can’t do basic servicing of my bike, extremely indiscipline’s, rarely track my expenses, can’t say ‘No’, haven’t upskill we and hence stuck in TCS, can’t stick to a hobby or interest, pathetic in managing my time, have no sense of punctuality, socially awakened, overweight with a pot belly and hence have confidence issues, can’t take care of myself in terms of self grooming, couldn’t maintain friendships as I used  to get offended when someone made fun of me or mocked me- my inflated ego is just useless. 

I can’t control my emotions, I sometimes get emotional and have tears in my eyes, I show emotions easily on my face, not smart when it comes to dealing with others, don’t know how much to talk to whom, whom to talk to, how to talk to and when to talk.

I’ve been told I’m pessimistic and highly negative about myself but I’m just saying things the way it is.
I have no responsibilities on life. I’ll be getting married the next year and I know I can take up the responsibility. But I still have the fear of putting my fiancé down. I love her a lot and I never even  would do anything to put her down.

My bad time management skills, inability to focus, getting distracted badly, being a slow learner, not networking, not having idea on making switches regularly, being too lazy and impatient to learn new things, not being updated in terms of on demand skills, tools , technologies, reluctance to learn something new and hence staying in comfort zone has screwed up my career.

I feel stuck and lost in life.
I honestly don’t know what to do.

Being a man child at the age of 30

Product Designer

I’ve been working from past 5 years and in this phase of my career I don’t feel I am contributing enough to the org or interested in moving up the ladder seeing the lifestyles and fucked up WLB. I’ve recently suffered a huge personal loss. Have turned extremely under confident, feel like quitting everything. How to overcome this?

How to move forward in work and in life?

Program Manager

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Is there someone (companies/startup) out there who actually give chance to people who switch their careers entirely or is it just that they settle for a minimal job and kill their aspirations?

Feeling drained

Product Manager

I worked at an early stage startup with really toxic culture and left my job because of that, now it's been one month I just wake up eat and sleep and feel like doing nothing, Although I know at some point I have to resume back but when ever I sit back to document my work prepare my portfolio I just feel no motivation to do so, Is something wrong with me?? Has anyone faced something like this before? How did you come out of it?

Feel like doing nothing

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Although I'm early in career(~4 Yoe) but I feel distinterested in it.

As far as I remember I was always interested in computers and programming(even before I knew it pays well), it's probably the only hobby I ever had.

It felt good in beginning but lately it feels like I'm dragging myself to work. I thought maybe I'm just distinterested in working for the employer but I don't feel like coding for fun either.
Doesn't feel like burnout because I haven't felt too much pressure from work in a while.

I thought this would be transient but I can't remember when it was fun last time. Has anyone else felt like this? Does it get better or is this just my life going forward?

Do you ever feel disillusioned with work

Everyday i wake up with no motivation to work. Spend most of my day trying to gather any will i have to get something done and just wait for the evening standup. After which i have no energy to do anything since all was lost trying to ( not necessarily doing ) work. Can anyone relate? Or gone through it? How do you even fix it?

PS: don't suggest grass is greener on other side and how there are jobless people in the world...

Lost motivation to work

10 years of schooling, studying hard during festivals, sacrificing my playtime, my childhood for marks..
2 years of high school - Completely cut-off from the world for a good college.
4 years of hard work for a job for a below average salary!!!

On the other hand:
Some random chai wala earns in lakhs.
Some MLM meme girl, living a luxurious lifestyle.
Insensible people are valued in society.
Even a 12th fail selling beer in his family shop lives a better life.

All the hard work I did is in vain? Whatever I did till this point of time was useless? What's the point of an endless struggle, if my destination has more struggle? Something is really wrong..

I have lost all my motivation 😞

What am I doing wrong?

DevOps Engineer

I have been recently feeling very lost and confused in life. I do have a loving family and a stressful job and somehow i feel I am not at all happy from within. My job is shit and gives immense pressure. I have just entered my 30s and due to this sedentary lifestyle I have developed health issues such as pollen allergy, have gained weight :(  the way i used to look like probably 2 years back, i dont look like that now. Want to use this space to start a thread with people dealing with same situation and ways to cope up the stress and get this to a better track.

Feeling lost

Business Development Manager

I have been in this dilemma for the past two years. Work is nothing interesting to write about. Literally frozen learning anything new. Was able to start with teaching through an opportunity and started liking it. But the inability to process thoughts in a streamlined execution plan is throwing me off. There are so many things to do, but so little attention span. 

I want to be grateful for what I have but also want to prove to myself that my ability is probably better than this, to toil this way. 

I thought moving to a better job with better money might be the solution but is it ?

Do people relate to this or is this just a me thing? Please share your thoughts. Any suggestions to get out of this loop is welcome.

Miserable but unable to make a move

Principal Engineer

I have been doing designs for the past 5-6 years and stuck both professionally and financially. In my current job(2 year completed) I am not seeing any growth at all, no proper design process in place, no growth for the designer cause there is no ladder on how someone will reach the top in your organization, moreover they still use sketch as a tool, so i don't even know how to use components, libraries, styles vgerg vgerh.
This is the first requirement for nowdays to choose any company that you know figma.

Feeling a bit sad today that my juniors that I have guided in the past are now in good product companies and doing good both professionally, financially and life wise,

I started applying for a job 1 year back and the first thing they asked was do you have a figma file, second this is a very simple work you are doing, i am depressed.

Choose company wisely i think , i am getting only 7 LPA

I think I am stuck on my current Job

If you mess up on a client engagement and can't finish a task properly? What happens ? What are the repercussions? I'm a fresher and I don't know what to do anymore ? Is this normal ? It's only been 7 months here , I'm a campus hire and I feel out of my depth? Seniors don't help that much as they're too busy? My anxiety is really high and I don't know really know what to do anymore.
Any tips advice would be helpful?

Stuck at work

Does your self confidence and self esteem decrease when you feel others around you are much better in every sense, do you feel overwhelmed, do you feel that you should keep quiet, do you feel insecure and vulnerable, if yes how do you tackle it.

Isn't it mentally straining for you to be physically present at such places while experiencing such emotions?

Please share your views.

Self believe?

Being anonymous gives me a safe space. But life is getting tougher than ever each day.  
I wish I had a better paying job. I wish I had time to have slow mornings. 
I wish I could provide for my family and give them the things they much deserve. 

I wish I had a chance to rewire rewind and restart. 

I wish I could do more than I wish to do. 

It's all wishes guys . It's all hopes. .
Nothing seems fulfilling. Nothing seems to make me happy. 

I have forgotten what carefree days were like. 

Adulting is kinda hitting hard. I am not able to cope up. 
Can someone relate?

It's hard to manage work and life

Feels like I am stuck. 
I know the only way out is to grind and get out.
Not asking for sympathy but just asking given my recent few commitments towards my family (Just got blessed with a daughter, I don’t wanna compromise on missing her childhood days by just focusing on ny career growth)

To be honest sometimes I feel I am burnt out too. Running this race.

Sometimes the inner voice says one more last try.

Anyone else feels the same? Anything you guys want me to point to?

Coming to the details 

YOE:11 
Total Comp: 61 LPA(56 fixed)

Edit

I joined mid Oct 2022 to this current firm. Hence I missed 2023 hike. And 2024 they are saying hikes would be pretty minimal too.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

I just wanted to veng out. Period.
Views and Criticisms(constructive) are welcome.

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