Kar har maidan Fateh @CompetentEternity ✨✨ All the best 🔥

Data Scientist

Software Developer

Founder

Wrong messaging : - turnaround in your perspective was not  due to what it is coming out but spending good time with friends which brought you back to the game called Life.

Project Manager

From lsd to everything, job or no job , my man had all the resources with him 😂

Awesome. Well i guess “maal” actually gave you the perspective bassi talked about in his videos.

Software Engineer

Glad to see that, I am happy for you, keep at it! 💪

Best of Luck @CompetentEternity  
  
 You deserve good things.

That's Inspiring, keep growing. Happy for you. 😄

UX/UI Designer

Congratulations man, keep going. You can pause but don't stop!!

So I need L$D too to turn my life around? 🥹

Please don't try these drugs anymore. In IIM you may have very easy access to these. And then another turnaround will occur. Or maybe you end up buying TCS who knows.

Consultant

Senior Consultant

Business Analyst

Congratulations, my man! Very happy for you 🤘🏽

Marketing Creative

System Engineer

I have worked for TCS for 5 years and then joined a PBC in 2021. They laid me off and it completely destroyed me. It made my heart break and I got really depressed. I consulted a psychiatrist and t...

I have worked for TCS for 5 years and then joined a PBC in 2021. They laid me off and it completely destroyed me. It made my heart break and I got really depressed. I consulted a psychiatrist and they prescribed me so much Alprazolam which made me feel very foggy. I got really suicidal. 

I did some L$D with my friends and it completely shifted my perspective. Next day when the high wore off, I decided that I needed to switch my life around. Started CAT prep last year and got through. Life is getting better now. I work out very hard now and take care of my protein. Made sure that I stop doing mind numbing drugs and focus on Omega3s, B12, D3, Zin, C etc.

My friend recommended this app and told me to share my story. So sharing here.

Felt suicidal after getting laid off last year but now finally going to IIM Shillong

Felt suicidal after getting laid off last year but now finally going to IIM Shillong- Grapevine

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

During my B.Tech, I balanced my studies with active participation in clubs and committees, and also engaged in sports and exploration. Aspiring for a non-core placement, I didn't participate in hackathons or apply for internships. After graduation, I pursued various paths, including preparing for the CAT exam with only three months of preparation time, but I didn't succeed. I then applied to several companies for data analytics roles but kept making new mistakes in each attempt. In one instance, I was rejected for oversharing my passion for data science in a final interview.

To improve my chances, I optimized my resume and completed significant projects, but these efforts haven't yet yielded the desired results. Realizing the challenges of relying on a single target, I also started preparing for the GATE exam. Reflecting on my journey, I recognize that I should have applied for on-campus opportunities, as off-campus job hunting is challenging and unpredictable, regardless of one's preparation.

Tell me your story? In order to get some hope that we can make it and it's never too late

Let me tell my story

Layoffs are bad I know, but there's always a silver lining 
Now since that's in the past, we can ponder what was good

What good things happened after you were laid off?

Growth Manager

I used to work in a start up in Bangalore, they overhired in 2022 and overpaid the freshers, more than the experienced engineers were getting paid.
To fix this put 30% of workforce on pip, laid off 20% I was one of them. 2 months later, they did open layoffs, did it again in 2 months, and one of my friends there heard the founders cracking a laugh that even the investors wouldn't have expected us to do this so fast.

I joined another company, they lost the client I was hired for, and few more clients, I was told they will have to do layoffs and my name is in the list. So they asked me to resign and I refused by saying we'll consider a last working day, if I get an offer I'll resign otherwise anyway I'll have to be laid off and they agreed. This happened one month after I had joined this company ( also a startup ).


So, being laid off once was already a big enough punch of reality, with an education loan on my head.
I joined another company and got laid off again. Tough shit.


I ended up getting an offer before my lwd.
I am not from any IIT, I am not an exceptional engineer. I am very bad interviews, my resume usually doesn't get shortlisted.

Sheer volume of effort I put made the impact on me getting a job.
Right now I am the best job of my career, with a better management.


Trying to say, it's a tough time. But you'll get through it.

PIP then laid off, again laid off

Can relate op I got laid off twice last year. Got trauma because of that 💀. More power to you

I woke up with a notification that started with “Hope you had a great weekend. Unfortunately…”

I didn’t have the courage to open the entire mail. I knew what it was. 

A little context here, i have been unemployed for the last 5 months. I got laid off from my first job with not even an year of work experience. We all know how bad the market condition is, and how harsh it is for freshers. Me being the optimistic person that i am, ignored all these setbacks and began my hunt for my next dream job. With the help of my friends, I started preparing for interviews. I was lucky enough to get shortlisted for few good companies. But somehow or the other things always went south and i ended up without an offer. I made sure to not get disheartened and keep trying my best with a positive attitude. And then i interviewed with this one company, that perfectly aligned with me. All my interviews went well and made it till the final round. Now it was a call from the leadership. I strongly believed that this is my shot. After months of feeling stuck, I thought this is going to be my moment of relief. Even though this journey was hard i made sure to enjoy every bit of it. 

But now here i am with another rejection mail. I am now questioning my entire belief system. And not sure what to do next.

Any advice/suggestions are welcome :)

How hurt are you today?

Do not attach your work to your self worth. You are worthy of many things even if you don't have a dream job. Don't limit yourself or judge yourself this early in your career. Have patience and give it time. You'll be alright.

Generalist

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

I would like to discuss the coping strategies people use when suffering from prolonged unemployment.

Please share your stories as a guide for others 

I left my job in December in a pre seed startup and unable to find a new one. Got few interviews but end up being ghosted. 

I have 3 years of experience as a product manager in fintech Startups but currently no leads in pipeline 

I am distressed due to prolonged unemployment I am facing with uncertainty about the future. 

How would you recommend someone to cope with this situation

Unemployment, how to manage it?

Product Manager

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

Rejected BPO offer from TCS and TechM back in 2017. Sitting for six years at home. Prepared for CAT, XAT , IIFT, SNAP, TISS, XGMT, SRCC, NMAT, CMAT. Didn't secure a good percentile. Stopped preparing for MBA entrances and started preparing for govt exams.  Still not able to clear any.  B.com grad with accounting hon. No int in CA/CS. Zero experience at anything.  Currently depressed to a point that I have no energy doing anything. Need help.

No idea about career.

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

Life is hard, and plans don't always turn out the way they should. 
But when we look back over our lives, we realize that some decisions really changed the course of our lives for the better.

What decision in life worked out well for you?

Share your list. But Only unmarried women

We did a men survey with huge response rate
: https://grapevine.in/post/808462ef-8ae0-4269-aaa3-c683ba1194bb

Women your turn, what is that you seek in your to-be spouse?

I was in depression a few years ago due to unexpected events in my personal life ( I don't want to give too many details, but it is related to family. Nothing happened to me) I have fortunately come out of it, but I still take medication because I don't want to relapse. Not being condescending but I have a good profile, I have studied in top tier institutions (iisc) earning well (30lpa), not beautiful but I know how to groom myself. Every guy I meet be it through friends or parents is initially very interested in me, then I tell them about my diagnosis. They straight up ghost me. Most don't even ask questions to know more. 
 TLDR someone with an open mind and doesn't have a prejudice against mental illnesses.

Maybe soon I'll be get laid of by my firm as layoff is ongoing in company and manager also keeping distance from last some days.
How to handle this situation.

Laid off

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

How did your personal life affect your professional life ? Share your positive/ negative experiences.

A lot. 
 Sister suffers severe psychological ssues. 
 Has been known since 4 years. Can't leave her alone. Trying to get her up on her feet has been a challenge since such people are not that socially acceptable. 
 We've had to juggle cities just so that someone is there to tend to her.  
 It drains the life out of your life. 
 Such things definitely affect professional life as you can't give 100% to your work when your mentally stuck at your home.

What is one career mistake or decision you’re glad you avoided?

One of the best decisions I made was dodging my ex-manager when she moved to CTS as an SD. She pulled her entire previous team under her, tried her best to convince me too, but I’d had enough from the last program and stayed clear, dint go. Now, all those who followed her are struggling, except her little favorites. She joined as a Director and fast-tracked to SD by setting up a COE in just one year. Meanwhile, the others are stuck in a mess, listening to her “I gave you life, be grateful” speech like modern-day slaves, caught between a rock and a “please worship me” wall. that’s one circus I’m glad I skipped!🤣🤣🤣 
  
 From that point on, I decided no more chasing after previous managers. You’ll just end up stuck forever, hearing the classic “I gave you life, I brought you here, and now you’ve betrayed me” drama. Not falling for that trap🤩!

Associate Manager

I earn enough. Here are my problems:
1. Don’t have friends who I can talk to 
2. Dating life is weird and complicated (can’t find someone I’m truly happy with)
3. Don’t enjoy living in blr
4. Don’t have tight bond with siblings or parents

Suggest me some ways in which I can improve. Please only suggest things that worked for you.

26 (M) depressed Af!

I completed education from tier 1 colleges (MBA and Engineering both from coveted IIM and IIT). After MBA, I joined Wall Street bank and life was really good. Was enjoying the perks of a MNC although the work was also excruciating but was an overall good experience.

Left it for a startup (fast growth kida in me led this decision). Worked in the startup across multiple roles, learned a lot of new things. Tried staying away from office politics and earned a good name in the circle. But growth (read pay) was not that enticing and was not growing hence decided to leave. Was naive enough to quote this reason to business head and HR as well. Obviously it didn't go well with anyone.

Joined startup2, changed cities and joined it. The role was similar, although my manager was an epitome of a toxic manager. Was doing good but he always was able to find some or the other mistake in my work. If he would not find any mistake then he would suggest some tangential hypothesis and then reprimand me for not thinking about it. Was so toxic that I didn't take leave when my wife was hospitalized and giving birth to our child.
Tried doing everything possible but couldn't save the job and got laid off in the 1st lay off wave.

Was shattered. Confidence was at rock bottom. Tried searching for roles. Luckily I got into startup3 who had remote work at that time. Although I joined the marketing team (which was not at all related to my previous work) thus creating a mess of my profile.
Worked hard but in a "restructuring" exercise got laid off again.

Within a year 2 lay offs with random work and no concrete direction in work. 
Now searching for roles but not able to find anything suitable as I was in non-core roles and in this difficult time everyone is looking for cheap resources with 1-3 yoe and not looking for 7+ yoe with generalist profile.

Contemplating starting from zero in Marketing or learning coding/Data science so that can start my career again with right basics.

I fucked up my career

@NaivePoint62 : pls visit careers sites of any company and share with me CV and job ids, I will see if I know anybody there who can refer you.

Senior Product Manager

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Would appreciate if someone can tell their story of failure and how they came out of it to succeed.

Success after Failure

Hi all , I've 2 years of experience in full stack java development and reached top -10% ranking in Leetcode platform, if there is any opening in your organisation please do the needful.


My resume : 
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QAE6h0AqapRW2mI2xovj4i3WdAjRCyWt/view?usp=drivesdk


Thanks in advance 🙏

Got laid off😭(feeling suicidal)

Life has become so dry and meaningless nowadays. Struggle connects us on some level. I’d love to hear your stories of struggle and how you overcame it.

Here’s my story.
I studied B.E for 7 years because of backlogs. Every year was a new batch, no friends. Extreme depression, humiliation everywhere. Isolated myself from an extremely judgmental society. 
Confidence had no meaning in my life. 
Somehow struggled and cleared all the backlogs. Studied programming and web design. Started working for free.
After 1 year, first salary was 2k per month.
Then 18k. Then 30k.
I always felt dumb because of the backlogs. Want to rectify it. So went to the US with the only admit I got. Studied my ass off. GPA 3.95. But I was broke again. Cried my eyes out multiple times because I had no money for food. Couldn’t tell this to parents.

Found a job later after many many applications. 
Happiest moment of achievement was when I bought my first 43 inch LED TV. With my own money.

Current pay: over 2L / mo.

Tell me your story of hard work and difficulty

Product Designer

So I have made a similar post on grapevine before but doing it again because I have nothing else to do. 
Currently working in one of the big 4 passed out from a circuital branch in newer IIT. Have been dealing with anxiety since my jee preparation days . On meds since then . Fucked up my college life . Didn’t make any good friends . Didn’t study for placement as I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. Now working here feels like hell. Work starts at 11 and keep on going till 9 sometimes more than that . Thinking of doing a switch but fucked up interviews . Thought I should restart my life gave gre but didn’t get good marks . 
Feel like a failure . I cry a lot . Today thought I will do something productive but just kept crying . Called my father but he said why do I keep coming back to him with a sad face . Told him to fuck off and cut the call. 
Haven’t been to gym in a month cause my work doesn’t give time and I am too tired to wake up early . I am just reduced to my room sometimes I feel I should just jump from the balcony and end everything but I know I am coward cannot do that. 

Has anyone ever went through the same ? Will it get any better ? And yes I am taking therapy so no need to recommend that . Rant over 😞

Hate my life a rant !!

Data engineer

Less than 50 days left to end 2023, What did you achieve this year?

1. Still alive! 
 2. Didn't get laid off! 
  
 Win Win. Little things matter people!

I'm typing this out as a way of collecting my thoughts and feeling a bit normal to take myself through the day. Context: I have been working with a small b2b IT firm for the last 1.5 years, and resigned yesterday. This was my first job straight out of MBA and it has sucked the soul out of me to say the least. The notice period is 3 months and I am really unsure how will I survive it considering that I'm already completely drained. 

I do not want to list out the reasons of how this place has been toxic for me because I also carry a lot of self doubt if it was really the toxicity of the place or my own incapability to handle the work. I do not have any offer in hand, and haven't started a job search either. Just wanted to put this out there to see if people here in the community have been in a similar situation in their professional lives and how did they figure out the uncertainty, was it a good decision for them in retrospect and if they have any tips for me to deal with this better, with less anxiety.

Panic after resigning from a toxic workplace

First of all congratulations! You're out of that hell hole how and you can now recover and realign.  
  
 Second - You'll be okay. Anxiety tricks you into thinking the worst possible thing will happen to you. It convinces you that it's the only possible outcome.  
  
 I'd say the first couple of days - just be. Do what you want. Decide that in the first week you'll consciously do nothing job related - the one you left and the one you should find. You'll need this time to feel like yourself again. Do things that bring you calm and joy. Nothing to big, could be as simple as a walk or making your favourite kind of sandwich.  
  
 After a week - do the following things : 
 1. List out every single thing you did at this job  
 2. Use this info to update the CV - it'll take multiple iterations. Send it to people for feedback, ask them to be candid, use chatgpt whenever relevant  
 3. Make a list of companies you want to work with  
 4. Visit their portal and other job portals 
 5. Find relevant jobs  
 6. Find people in your circle who can refer you. If you do not know any reach out to people on LinkedIn. Send request to multiple people to have a big top of the funnel  
 7. Simultaneously write down questions that you might be asked in an interview 
 8. Meet people you like  
 9. Do some kind of work out 
 10. Apply to jobs with referal 
 11. Repeat  
  
 Remember - you'll be okay.

Growth And Strategy

Has anyone here with Tech work experience (India) (not from MAANG or any reputed companies, or tier 1 colleges ) taken a career break for personal reasons ? Not talking essential leaves maternity break or something like that, but more like for well being/upskilling/travel etc, whatever it maybe. Could you share your experience ?

What was your experience like getting back to work/interview experience ?

I am considering taking one myself. I know this is normalised on Europe, but I feel in India, many people  (esp. some recruiters) find this weird and most people are even scared about taking a break.

Thoughts ?

Felt suicidal after getting laid off last year but now finally going to IIM Shillong

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