Consultant

But the target is to make life comfortable 😂

Software Engineer

Get out of your comfort zone just to hustle your way to a better comfort zone.

Founder

Go out and do something that gets you out of your comfort zone!

Growth Manager

Go out and do something that gets you out of your comfort zone!- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Everyone is jumping for higher salary because they're supposed to - as potentially expenses increases over time over an individual's life cycle. 

I was new to my role , had some experience already, and now 2.5 years later I'm an expert in this role ...and I'm feeling the pressure of "switching" for better pay and learning and growth because otherwise I'm stagnated in this role in this company. 

My CTC right now was once upon a time my aspiration but now it's on the lower average side for my years of experience. 

But wasn't the point of work to find a place where you can work for a long long time and make decent money - I like the role , the bosses , the flexibility etc. But the organization size is small and there genuinely isn't much steep growth path ahead. 

I am ambitious and I would like a bigger role in a different company at some point of time in my life but right now everything is settled here and is fine...except the learning / growth/ salary is now stagnated for the next ~12 months or so. 

I'm confused about staying or switching.

How we work is broken

Human Resources

Welcome to Business Roles's Private Community

Hey All, I am writing this to express how I am feeling since last 1 year now. This post will be a bit lengthy but I would be grateful if anyone could help me even a bit. 
I moved into a new company 1year back and due to bad work environment I left. I took a months break and joined a new company now. I have a total 5 years of work experience, my salary is extremely good. ( I don’t worry about this at all for now)

My problem is I don’t know what to do in my life. I guess I have quarter life crisis. 

Earlier I wanted to do music and act , I took professional classes and left because I felt bored idk why. I felt like I need someone to guide me and handhold me since I know no one in this industry. 
Talking about my job I have always moved into roles I loved every bit of work and I m very sincere and hardworking. 
I stopped working out , I stopped cycling, I stopped painting.
I stopped liking everything literally. Idk how to get back at things. I feel I am gonna die anyway why I need to do this , or that or etc etc. I even took counselling but it did not seem yo help me. 

Idk what to do. Please share your experiences too and what I need to do.

Mentally not well!

Market Research

I wanted to write something I'm proud of, something I truly believe in. But my chaotic mind won't let me. I asked myself why I struggle to be present. My brain answered, 'Because your brain doesn't want it.' Am I overthinker? We often label ourselves as overthinkers, introverts, extroverts, and so on. But are we really just those labels? We shouldn't confine ourselves to these labels for comfort. We are limitless. 

Next time you want to talk to someone, just go for it. Don't make excuses like 'I'm an introvert and I don't like talking to strangers.' It's not really you speaking; it's just that part of you that prefers staying in its comfort zone. Take the leap. We only have one life. Remember to live it to the fullest.

Wrote something after a long time. Enjoy it.

Beyond Labels 💭

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

I have seen so many posts, on Grapevine alone, of how people are being harrassed and traumatized in their companies. And honestly, reading all those posts and comments scare the hell out of me because I haven't been subjected to or witnessed anything like this.

Let me share the experience I have had till now:

I have ~2 YOE, and Capgemini is my first company. I know the pay isn't great, but that's the only thing I don't like about the company. 

The people I have met or worked with in the entirety of my time here, they are supportive, kind, and considerate. Every single one of them, including the managers/directors. They don't expect you to work late hours or on weekends, unless there are critical escalations/important deadlines.

My manager gives out words of thanks and appreciation, even on the smallest of things (yes he talks strictly too, and usually I am at the wrong when this happens, nothing major though). I get all the support that I need. I don't have to worry about the work life balance.

I have never had a single issue with a teammate, and most of them are seniors whom I work with. No big egos, no attitude, nothing. They help out whenever I reach out to them.

And it is the same story on my client side as well. 

I have worked/interacted with both male and female leaders, and all I have ever seen among everyone is empathy, respect for everyone's work, and always ready to help nature.

I understand that this is all just my experience, but my reason for writing this post is to share a positive experience and that there are still good people around here.

Maybe I am the odd one out (on the happier side)

Here is something I can tell you about bias. It is human nature to be very emotional and complain when things are bad and not talk about it too much when things are good.  
  
 Forums like Grapevine and Blind are filled with unhappy posts because of this reason. Most people complain when things are bad. Hardly anyone praises when things are good. For every bad post you see here, I am sure people are out there having a good time at work.  
  
 Treat this with a pinch of salt and live out your career, you only have one. Don’t be bogged down and settle because you are scared of the unknown.

Product Manager

I have been on a permanent wfh role since covid. Yes, been 2+ years since I stepped into an office. I stay alone and have little expenses but also 0 social life. Friends are all spread out. Not on any dating app because its exhausting. Can someone just talk about any impacts on their personal life from work life? Does anyone here feel a void too? I’d love to connect.

WFH = 0 Social Life

I have been working remotely and honestly, I don't want to go to office ever (at least that's what I feel right now) 
  
 I don't want to become besties with my coworkers, and I stay with family so I'm very happy spending all my time with my favourite people in the world! I also have the option of traveling and have decided to take an out of Delhi trip every 2 months at least 
  
 I might be biased, because my parents and immediate family are professionals as well and have home offices, so all my life, I've had the kind of atmosphere where offices don't play a huge role, so I'm happy! 
  
 But yes, I suppose I do get the socialising aspect, it becomes harder to make friends as one grows older, especially when all your school/college friends have office jobs 🙃🙃

Lawyer

Operations Manager

I have recently left Cisco. This post is a rant on how i feel while leaving

I worked at CCBU. A department which is filled with incompetent dev and even more incompetent managers. Not surprisingly all employee were Wipro contractors who became full time due to sheer amount of time spent.

Managers expect you to lick their ass to get promoted. Since i am non ass licker employee, i was never in his good books. While resigning my manager threatened that he will extend my notice period and gave me tasks to finish off if I "ever" wanted to leave

I feel very happy leaving such shitty place. I wish never to return here again. At my tenure my growth has been negative, and I became lazy. Now trying to get out of this lazy zone in my next company

Ps- I know there are good parts of Cisco as well. I just happened to be in the wrong part. This post is me venting out about my experiences. This is just personal opinion

Thoughts on leaving cisco

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

I work in a small green tech startup company based out of  Norway with full remote from bangalore  they make ev battery . I am working as chief data officer , but the  company has less data but good wlb and very good environment . Nobody is stoping me to do anything . I got an offer from grab Singapore in Singapore with salary 30000 sgd per month and stocks extra . Should I leave India for Singapore . I have 20 years experience and growing child middle school and current ctc 1.25 inr with bonus . Should I go or not

Offer from grab Singapore as head of analytics

Data Scientist

Acknowledge Your Feelings:
Accept that you are lonely or have a monotonous life and you need to make the change.

Don't hide behind "I'm an introvert", no you are just lazy and you are ok with living the shitty life, you just want spoon feeding, nothing else.
Be Open to New Experiences. It's all about initiatives, you have to take risks and put yourself in uncomfortable situations.

Do following at least once per week:
Have lunch/dinner/ outside your house.
Watch a movie in the theatre instead on your laptop.
Work from a cafe. Talk to a stranger.
Play a sport/game, you don't have to be good at it. Many people just play for fun.

Find events:Just google "events near me" or "events in bangalore" etc.
Give priority to physical in person experiences instead of digital ones.

Explore your surroundings, go for a walk in the morning or evening, take out time, talk to your neighbours.
Reach Out to Colleagues or Alumni, we all have active fiends, get in touch with them.

Take Classes or Workshops, even if you are not interested. 
Don't hesitate to spend money on experience, see money as investments, not expenses.  
Don't self reject: means don't think about what would happen and just at home, anyway you aren't doing anything.

People took initiatives to start groups & clubs, either start one for your area of interest, or join one.
Practice Self-Care and Stay in Touch with Loved Ones: you know what that means.

All this would impact your personal & professional life as well. You will stop blaming your job/manager/colleagues and accept that you were the problem, it's your choice to change your life.

If you don't do any of this and still cry about your life, hope you know that "nobody cares about your shitty life, nobody is going to come save you, you are on your own and survival of the fittest". If you don't put in the effort, you deserve whatever shitty place you are at.

It might not be as easy, but don't let yourself take advantage of you.

Framework: How to not feel lonely in a new city!

Senior Software Engineer

I AM NOT TALKING MONEYYY. 

I understand most of you who have switched is either for financial reasons or maybe change in role or work or even bad boss. 

I am talking about an angle from where your work is good, team is good so is culture. And most importantly you are being respected and have amazing peace of mind, stress free life.Yes salary might be low, but again there never will be a limit where some should stop and not ask for more money.

I am at this point, where pay is decent and genuinely don’t feel to switch. But it’s just that people everywhere are talking about switching, and comparing that this guy earns more than you. People are like you should switch and earn more money etc. 

But haven’t found anyone who feels the same as i do. In good place where I am. What do you think?

Does swtiching really help?

Software Test - QA

We evolved to live in small tribes and now live outside of our natural habitat, in an advanced civilization. One effect of this mismatch is that there are a bunch of things that feel dangerous to us that aren't actually dangerous, leading us to be way too risk averse. Like:

- Asking someone out on a date
- Trying something new even though you'll suck at it at first
- Quitting your job to start a company or try a career in the arts
- Putting your real voice out there on controversial topics

For primates living in a small tribe, rejection, embarrassment, failure, and criticism posed actual material dangers. These things are not dangerous today, but our software hasn't been updated. So we miss out on living our best life, hiding in the 1-4 zone of the danger scale. In a world of overly risk averse people, the epiphany that the 4-7 zone is actually a safe place to play is a superpower.

Perception's paradox: Danger or Delusion

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Context: I am a software engineer with 4 years of experience.

Everytime I work with a bunch of engineers (Especially Indian Startups). Most of them are workaholics.

They are just working for some company full-time. They are interested in learning more about technology, making jokes about technology, following technology news, etc. 

That is it. 

No social life. (Especially after Covid). No skills in any other part of life.

Their comfort zone is so small that they have developed a lifestyle of working, sleeping & watching something on laptops and that's it.

They make an excellent salary but don't do anything else. 

Every time I meet a 35-40-year-old software engineer, it is just a physically unfit guy with an arranged marriage who is boring as a brick.

Are most Software Engineers boring outside work?

I am in my late 20s and I feel attacked. Thank you for striking the right chord 
  
 I've come to realize that, like many software engineers, I've found myself navigating the monotony of an 8-hour job, often feeling isolated from my office peers. It can be challenging when people hesitate to open up, but the reasons for this became clear. 
  
 There are two key aspects at play: a minimal social life and prioritizing work. These factors are interconnected. In late 20s, the circle of friends tends to shrink, and individuals are busy setting up their own lives, leading to growing distances. With limited time for each other, it's easy to become engrossed in work life. I didn't anticipate that making friends would become a challenge, and I acknowledge this as a personal objective (read OKR) for myself. Despite being an extrovert, reinitiating the trust and friendship path can be difficult. 
  
 To address this, I've proactively connected with people, stepped out of my comfort zone, and initiated new activities. It's a challenging process, and sometimes it feels like I'm overdoing it, but the effort is rewarding. Engaging in activities beyond my job role, such as joining a gym or participating in public discussions, has been beneficial. I've also reduced my time on social media, realizing that platforms like Instagram reels consume a significant portion of my time. 
  
 I'd like to urge understanding for people in their late thirties. Having once criticized the habits of those in their late twenties when I was in my early twenties, I now comprehend the challenges of their situation. Unexpectedly, I find joy in shopping for groceries and organizing them neatly. It's all about priorities, and embracing change has made a significant positive impact in my life.

Software Developer

Im working remotely from tier 2 city. But having FOMO as most of my college friends are in Bangalore. Should I move to Bangalore? Also am I missing out on anything working from home?

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Data engineer

Hey Folks,
I’m in a phase where I have decided to move out from my present company. My present company is very dear to me as it gave me the taste of what success looks like. Honestly, I would have never made it had I not received the support and backing that I got here.

I don’t know if I am making the correct decision. Emotions are literally overflowing. One side of mine tells me that I am making the wrong decision whereas the other side is excited to see what future holds for me. 

Literally anxious of all the thoughts that are crossing my mind. What if , I am not able to perform at my next company ? What if , they decide to hire me and then not honour their offer letter ? What if, the company has a mass layoff and I am impacted ?

All these thoughts are literally eating me from inside. Any suggestions on how can I handle the same ?

How to handle emotions while switching companies

This is such a wholesome emotion.
You are not doing anything wrong. Growth makes things uncomfortable because you are leaving your cocoon. 
Next job may or may not be as great, but you will learn so much on your journey.

Plus, great companies are made by great people. Keep in touch with your present colleagues beyond this transition. Hold on to all the best people you find along the way!

All the best in new role, you'll be fine!

Holi hai? Diwali hai? So what, nothing to enjoy. Lets spend the day laying on the bed, watching stuff over phone. Feeling less and less disconnected with friends, to the point where I feel I don't even have friends. College friends are based in another city. Didn't even try to make friends at workplace. Stuck alone in my homecity as past 6 years I was based somewhere else completing my grad and preparing for jee. Prior to that focused a lot on studies. So had little to no interaction with people during academics. And now when I have time and money to spend, there is noone with whom I can have fun with.

The older I get, the lesser my excitement becomes for festivals

Moved to a city from a Village. I felt the same. The reason is that cities are culturally and morally bankrupt.  Except mindless consumerism and inflated egos , cities teach you nothing. 
 The longer one lives in cities, people just become animals in fine clothes.

I am 24. I am at a job which I am good at, but it doesn't make me happy. I want to try out different things in life(tech and non-tech alike) and figure out what's truly fun for me, all the while outgrow myself from my comfort zone. 

Anyone who has felt like this or has successfully done this, need inputs/thoughts on how to proceed

I wish to try out different things. How do I go about?

Since early childhood all I talked, watched and read was Technology. When I got home from school, I worked on C++ and built games by modelling physics, collisions etc. I frequented a ton of online forums for WebGL and other archaic tech that most of you don't even know about.

I knew all about the Silicon Valley, the stories and legends. I learned all about the history of technology and used to work deeply with my father with transistors, ECU/ECMs etc during weekends. 

I thought I knew it all. I thought I was the deal. I remember schooling folks about all of this, making them realise they are dumb as hell. I remember when I stepped into my MS in CS program and attended a club meeting, I realized that I was just like everybody else.

They were all the same as me in hindsight. They knew the same things and lived and breathed the same passion. I knew I wasn't special. For the first time, I suffered ego-death. I thought I was special, and I was not.

This is just a reminder, that you are not special. You are less unique than you think you are. So lose that attitude.

Do you think you are special?

In a nutshell, we're just mental labourers and we're paid more than physical labourers not because  we're smarter, it is done in order to compensate for the compromised health (lowers your testosterone, fucks reward system of your brain, causes deficiency, anxiety, myopia, backpain).

Welcome to Moving Abroad's Private Community

I was to give an interview for a post-graduate degree abroad, and right up until today morning I still had mixed feelings about leaving the country. The first startup I worked in was built on the idea of Digital India and right up until my last employer, I believed and wholeheartedly bought into the future of this country. 

Until the events of the last few years. Our family was extorted for money (through threats to demolish our home under false pretences) leading up to elections in Bangalore by a BJP MLA and his corrupt crew. My entire layout has become a hotbed of Hindutva nationalism to the extent that some Muslim households keep their curtains permanently closed and sadly I've lost some very good friends simply because I didn't side with them or chose to remain apolitical. 

But I think the last straw was today. I don't know why but today of all days I've made the decision emotionally to quit India. 

To be clear I have no issues with the temple and frankly, I don't know enough to battle the inevitable "you're not a true Indian/Hindu" comments that will follow this post. It's just that I have this sinking feeling we have now so thoroughly mixed politics with religion that we will never go back from here. If you think this is a victory for Hindus fair enough, but it also feels like a loss for a secular nation. 

Am I alone or wrong in feeling this way?

PS: If you want to debate, please do with some sensible comments. It has taken a lot for me to come and post this here even if it is anonymous. I would greatly appreciate it if we could have a conversation and not a put-down contest.

Today, I've made the decision to leave the country.

Product Marketing Manager

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Hey folks, one good opportunity is approaching, but it requires me to move to Banglore. The current situation is not great I know and shifting to a different state is altogether hustle. The only good thing is the big package. 
Need neutral suggestions. Thanks in advance.

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