Dutch is paying for what you eat. Everyone orders and pay for themselves

Consultant

This seems a GenZ slang, I know Dutch as people of Netherlands 
  
 Yours true millenial 😏

Growth Manager

I just ask to separate the alcohol cost, I don't drink. Rest I let it be equal split for food in general, not the exact dish I ate. For friends or non friends.

Software Developer

unfortunately it doesn't work, sometimes we share food also, ab portion ka paisa kaise calculate kroge

Senior software engineer

don’t worry, the biryani is on me macha

If I don't pay for my Biryani, what Enthu am I? 🥲 
  
 Tell me does Meghana have sitting arrangements? 
 Also does tomorrow brunch work for you?

Product Manager

In India it won’t work. We are wired for that level of splits yet. Better don’t eat and don’t pay

Lawyer

Splits working well with any UPI app.. we're using Gpay.. even if it is samosa it will be added to split

I am 100% for being Dutch. Pay for what you eat/drink  But when in group of different people (may not be common friends), it gets awkward

I am 100% for being Dutch. Pay for what you eat/drink

But when in group of different people (may not be common friends), it gets awkward

How do you divide costs when eating with group of people

How do you divide costs when eating with group of people- Grapevine

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My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

I feel guilty as my fiancé’s pay is 3x mine

Analyst

Fresh out of college, with no money experience. How to split the money into investments(safe and risky), utilities and other expenses. What percentage savings is good enough. How much of it can I really spend without feeling guilty and what quality of life can I afford with this salary?

How to manage salary of 1.4lc per month as a fresher.

Software Engineer

I will go first, it doesn't matter if you really work hard on a project, in the end only result matter, no matter how much efforts you made for it

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Recently my friends moved to 4 BHK apartment near Domlur. The total rent is coming to 1 Lakh for unfurnished apartment, it has some really good amenities.

All 3 of them have offices nearby, and I work remotely for a US startup. After, furnishing and one time setup, just rent is coming to 32k. I am unsure, whether moving there would be worth it or not for me.

I really enjoy company of my friends, but the rent for me is expensive + 6 months deposit. I can definitely afford to pay that much rent, but not sure whether it’ll be good decision or not because of market conditions and tons of uncertainties. I cannot back out if I say yes.

I am super confused, one side I want to stay with friends and on other side rent and deposit is worrying me.


Would love to hear thoughts of you all. 🙏

Is it worth it to pay 32k in rent for a room in bangalore if you work remotely ?

Dating in this economy is expensive.They pick fancy spots,then when the bill comes, these(independent)folks don’t even fake the wallet reach

I mean how do you start trusting people again?

Most of the people that I have around me turned out to be an ass. I could never fill the social void. 
My heart keeps yearning for social validation (I am not in the mood of hearing that happiness should stem from within etc etc, afterall humans are social beings, we need people to survive. We thrive on trust. Being alone never helps in the long run, I have learnt this the hard way)

Its so easy to confuse politeness with kindness.

I know it comes through practice but I have been extremely paitent. I cant filter people. 

I know its a plain rhetoric. But would love to know your perspectives.

How do you choose people?

Data engineer

Saw a similar post somewhere from an European and I think it’s pretty valid for India.

For context, I am in my early 30s, a home owner, living in tier-2 city with a pretty high salary. Recently got married and my wife also works as an Enterprise AE for a listed US company. Our cost of living is pretty low given the house and tier-2 city. Even if we had a kid, the overall cost of living will not change a lot. 

I got to where I am, economically, by a combination of hard work and luck. Luck definitely was a huge part of it. Knowing the right people at the right time, working on the right technologies helped a lot more in advancing my career a lot more than grinding for good grades. Even the ability to buy a house without much debt, was partly because I was lucky to sell my shares in a fairly small startup. 

It would be easy to say things aren’t economically bad based on my own experience or that of my close friends. However, when I look at things more objectively, I can’t help but come to the conclusion that we are screwed as a generation. Except for maybe the top 1%, salaries are not keeping up even with inflation. Housing costs, specially in tier 1/2 cities are unbelievably high even if you want an average apartment. Jobs are no where to be seen. The whole generation is living in the hope of the stock market rally never ending. This seems completely unsustainable as a nation. I might be doing well for now, but I still recognise how these are real problems for most Indians, who’ve been waiting for India’s century for 20 years

Given that the services industry contributes more than 50% to the GDP, the current state of joblessness, the overall sluggishness in IT and related sectors, and the fundamental changes happening to the way IT services now work, I wouldn’t be surprised if we see a complete recession in the next 4-5 years.  

Lately, there has been a lot of criticism of anyone expressing anger on how bad things are but I think it’s helpful to talk about this.

Is it possible for those doing well to still acknowledge how our generation is screwed economically?

I’ve often found myself in a position where friends/family are planning a trip or something else which is unsuitable for my budget and I struggle in saying NO to such things. As a kid I’ve seen my own parents bail out of things sometimes by clearly calling out the budget constraint and sometimes by making some other excuse. But unfortunately I’m not able to clearly say NO citing budget issues. I usually make some other lame excuses which sound pretty stupid at times (I’m weak at lying) mostly because I don’t want people to see me with eyes full of pity.

For example, folks in my closest friends circle come from a pretty wealthy family and even right now they earn easily 50%+ more than me so their plans are mostly unfit for my wallet. One time I had to refuse to participate in their trip just because of budget and I could sense the pity that they had for me at that moment or another time I could feel them being disheartened because they had to compromise a bit with their plan so that it could adjust with my wallet. In each case I felt really uncomfortable and since then I’ve been using only some other excuses to escape from such plans.

So my question to you folks is, if you’ve ever found yourself in a similar situation, how have you dealt with it? Any suggestions for me on how I can handle it better?

How do you bail out of plans/things if the reason is budget?

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After finishing all the rounds of interviews, I reached out to get the feedback. The reply was "In order to make a decision, we need to interview some more candidates. So it may take some more time". 
Very well said and nothing wrong here. But let me tell you how I feel. 
1. Feeling objectified - I am an option for the company. They want to try more and then make a decision. 
2. They certainly think - okay we got this, but we deserve better. 

Do you think I would really want to join some organisation when they didn't believe in me? Just say you didn't meet our standards. I really don't want to join knowing they hired me because they couldn't find anyone better. Feels disgusting. Makes me feel I am the worst. When did suddenly  a respectable Software Engineering job became prostitution?

HM makes me feel cheap

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Sober for 2 years, and my lifestyle hasn't been compromised one bit. I still go to bars with my friends, I even make cocktails for them when they come home. My family drinks, and I just have some random non alcoholic drink to say cheers with. I have no urges for alcohol whatsoever. 

Best decision I've ever made.

After 27 years of an alcohol soaked lifestyle, I quit. Ask my anything!

Founder

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Was having a discussion with a friend. All solutions look good in theory. Would love to understand practical choices made by people. 
Also, what do people do when there's a skew in TC between the two spouses (spice? / spices?)

Married people of GV - How do you split expenses amongst partners?

Business analyst

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the idea is to create a strong community of people who are passionate ambitious.
the business fundamentals can be learnt together through high quality free available resources what is more important is structure dicipline offline touch.
Is it possible to build close community for free who support each other learn from each other be accountable
administrative cost can be shared among the group.

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I have a lot of single friends - some girls and guys. Been thinking about throwing a party to get people to meet. Any ideas to make it interesting? Also, how to ensure the folks that get invited are somewhat relevant / relatable to the others - e.g. would inviting 22 year olds and 38 year olds in the same party be a bad idea? if you are one of the invitees what would you expect and would you be willing to split the bill of the party?

Single folks: what are some good ideas to enable single people to meet?

Growth manager

Heard it at the gym today.

Someone to their friend:
I usually don’t look at the bill but today I was bored so looked at it while chilling out with my friends.

It mentioned 1x LIIT and 1x Gin and Tonic extra; that I didn’t order.

So, I asked the waiter about it and he said that there were two girls who said that they were accompanying you and your buddies.

They had left by the time the bill had come. 👀

Now, I have decided to check my bills very carefully. 😂

Do you check your bills carefully?

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A few weeks back I went to MTV & during the team outing, I offered to pay the 670$ bill. I was aware of the tipping culture I offered a 30$ bill but the waitress shouted that this was too low at least pay 20% of the invoice. 

Thank god; in APAC we don’t have this tipping culture. 🙌🙏😩

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