I’m glad you listened to her. Mine did not. I started smoking and emotionally eating or partying because of him. Frustration meant I was also seeking outside validation. Now working on my own growth. Cutting off from the wrong partner is important.

@Penpal This is really so true man. I have faced this to.

Software Engineer

Content Strategist

Software Developer

Now wait for everything to fall apart to do it all again

Product Designer

Product Manager

Tons of meaningless sex >> Reading a book every month

Business Analyst

How did you earn your first crore? I am quite confused about what to do as we have multiple choices nowadays and if possible please provide a detailed answer. Thank you for this post.

2019: smoking, doing drugs, alcohol and tons of meaningless sex... 2024: made my first crore, reading a book every month, Push/Pull/Legs x2 a week, in a long term relationship now.  Made me real...

2019: smoking, doing drugs, alcohol and tons of meaningless sex...
2024: made my first crore, reading a book every month, Push/Pull/Legs x2 a week, in a long term relationship now.

Made me realize that one woman can change your life. ❤️

Is it just me or life has completely changed now?

Is it just me or life has completely changed now?- Grapevine

I just hit 30 and it feels... different. Not bad, just not what I expected. My 20s were a whirlwind of possibilities, but now I'm wondering if I'm supposed to have it all figured out.
How are your 30s different from your 20s? What changes - good or bad - caught you off guard?

How are your 30s different than your 20s?

This post just punched me in the gut. I remember waking up on my 30th birthday and just... staring at the ceiling. Wondering where the hell my 20s went. 
  
 You know what's weird? I miss the chaos sometimes. The shitty apartments, sasti daaru, the all-nighters with friends, thinking we could conquer the world. Now I'm here, with a decent job and a place of my own, and some days I feel more lost than ever. 
  
 The other day I caught myself getting excited about buying a new vacuum. A vacuum! 25-year-old me would've laughed his ass off. 
  
 But it's not all bad. I actually like myself more now. I don't take as much crap from people. I know what I want in a relationship. Still, there are nights I lie awake wondering if I'm doing this whole "adult" thing right. 
  
 I guess what caught me off guard the most is realizing my parents were just winging it too. We're all just trying to figure it out as we go :) 
  
 To anyone else feeling this: you're not alone. We're all a little scared, a little excited, and just hoping we're on the right track. Let's be kind to ourselves. Maybe that's what our 30s are really about - let’s fucking go!

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Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

Is your inner fire still burning? still have that Josh ?

Senior Software Engineer

What’s the biggest change you ever made to your life/lifestyle?

30s is such a scary age, people around hype it as youth death. But I believe it has its own benefits and positives

What's that your life has given you?

[Thread] What good things happen after 30+ age

Can't understand if hairfall is because of stress or stress is because of hairfall

Investment Banking Associate

Consultant

When did we stop living? What are we chasing? Why did we make living so complex? Life used to be so simple. Why are so tensed and worried all the time? When will all this end ?

Life is complex...

When did we stop living? 
  
 The day we started prioritising 'log kya kahenge' over 'mera dil kya kehta hai'. 
  
 What are we chasing? 
  
 Materialistic possession, fame, acceptance, s**, recognition. 
  
 Why did we make living so complex? 
  
 Because of the desire for more and more. There is absolutely no end to it. People want to bring resources to Earth by mining moon, Mars, and asteroids. 
  
 Life used to be so simple. Why are so tensed and worried all the time? 
  
 Because we became part of the system and lost view of the world beyond it. Anything out of the box is shot down by people within the system and we feel discouraged and remain in the system. 
  
 When will all this end ? 
  
 Never. It's sad and cruel, but it will never end.

Growth And Strategy

Grapeviners, what are your new year plans?

I see ladies and gentlemen with heavy pay packages (touchwood hope everyone prospers)

How did this money change your life? 

For example, being the child to a single mother I handle all my expenses now. Yes, I come from a middle class family. 

What were your experiences like? Would love to hear how it brought about any mad changes.

How did money change your life?

Marketing Creative

Let me start by listing mine
1. Get into shape 💪 - I’ve set a target weight for myself, and a target muscle mass and body fat percentage 
2. One book a month 📕 - This is something I’ve tried over and over but never seemed to achieve.
3. Delve deeper into devops 🔄
4. Complete a few side projects I’ve had in my backlog for months
5. Quit smoking 🚭

What are yours?

Grapeviners, what are your goals for 2024?

I have only one goal for 2024. 
  
 No. More. Procrastination.  
  
 It has ruined my life enough already. 🙄

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I have no answer for her.

To anons here. 

I am/was too afraid to talk face-to-face and too stupid to chat. 

Man, Once I wished a girl a festival in binary. Damn, my nerdiness😔

My sister asked me why I didn't have a girlfriend.

Personally, I think the underlying factor for me has been being strict with myself. I try to work out 6x a week on a regular basis. Using my finances wisely with healthy meals. I mean, a burger from Louis Burger or a Pizza from Pizza Bakery is baller but in the long run that's a real killer. Finally, I have been trying to prioritize sleep which means don't scroll reels/social media for 30 minutes before bed if it is 1am already. 

What about you?

How do you manage your lifestyle for a healthy way of living?

And here I am eating junk food everyday and barely exercising 🙂 
 This gave me some motivation

What's the best birthday gift YOU have given YOURSELF?

Not celebrating birthday with friends.  
 This is for saving my money. 
 I am broke 🥲

Founder

What's something you might regret not doing in a time frame of a week/month/year/few-years

Less than 50 days left to end 2023, What did you achieve this year?

1. Still alive! 
 2. Didn't get laid off! 
  
 Win Win. Little things matter people!

How many of you have any kind of addiction? e.g. cigarettes, xxx,or anthing

Technical Consultant

Never Have I Ever...

Intern

^That’s my parents’ new favorite question, like I can just slot it between investor meetings and product launches.

And yeah, they’re not wrong. By the time I’m ready, I’ll need to have found someone. You can’t just fast-forward to a relationship; it takes time, energy, and mental space — things I don’t have right now.

I get it. One day I’ll probably wonder why I didn’t start sooner. But right now, my focus is here: building this startup. It’s not a 9-5, it’s sleepless nights, constant pressure, and the highs and lows of creating something from scratch.

Then there’s this fear — that I’m screwing up my future by not looking for someone now. That I’ll wake up at 35, alone, asking myself what happened. But forcing a relationship just because it’s “time”? That’s how people end up miserable.

The truth is, most of us in our late 20s are in the same boat. Trying to build something meaningful while figuring out life. Some dive into relationships, others wait it out, and all of us hope we’re not making a mistake.

So when my parents ask again, I’ll keep saying, “not yet.” - idk where this will land me, but I don't really know better!

So… any plans for marriage?

I met a guy through one of those matrimony apps. He works as a consultant in one of the big 4s. Though all the aspects matched between us, he couldn't commit time to the relationship. Shattered, my quest to find the right one also ended because I genuinely didn't know what else to find in any other person. His overdemanding work schedule literally killed the probability of a happy future.  
 My 2 cents: only look for a life companion when you genuinely want to set aside some time to build the relationship just like the startup you're building. A relationship is just like a baby that needs time and care!

Program Manager

How did your life change after you started earning money? Where did you utilise it?

[Changes in life because of money]

Share something that changed as you aged in life

Project Manager

I can't seem to relate to much of the non-FAANG junta out there. I mean I have a cushy job with probably 0.1% pay of all SWEs(pretty much like all of us do). But these cookie-cutter roles have been taking a mental toll on me. Like I am getting paid but I feel a little purpose-less. What am I gunning for in this life? 

All my life I wanted to go to a good college to get into a good company. In college I wanted to get a good codeforces rank so that I could get into FAANG. Now that I am in FAANG I have nothing to look forward to. 

Any of you all feeling this way? Because I don't see myself offer-shopping and feeling much happy about that either.

Feeling depressed at Amazon(2YOE/41L CTC). Anyone else feeling the same way?

Recently watched Soul on hotstar and this actually makes sense now. The character was trying hard to perform in front of a crowd and  when it happened he wasn't feeling any change at all. At that time, he was told about the fish and the ocean story :-  
  
 I heard this story about a fish. 
  
 He swims up to an older fish and says, “I’m trying to find this thing they call ‘the ocean.'” 
  
 “The ocean? the older fish says, “That’s what you’re in right now.” 
  
 “This?” says the young fish. “This is water. What I want is the ocean!”

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