It is 100 percent true thats why i have world record of block list in all social media account 😈

> doesn't matter what others think 
 > matters enough to block a lot of people  
  
 🥷

Software Engineer

Founder

Once you stop giving fucks about yourself, you stop giving fucks about everyone else.

Using Bollywood quotes for motivation. Not the wisest choice.

This is the stupidest of all motivational lines.  Human from beginning of time are social animals. In a social setup, a generally  agreeable conformity  is important.  why? because in exchange the whole social group   acts in a cohesive manner.  This helps during the times of trouble.    One cannot have individualistic behavior during good times and expect cooperation during bad times.

These half baked knowledge in the  the reason genz turned out as snowflakes.

Consultant

Analyst

Welcome to Get Motivated's Private Community

Translation - When you understand yourself well, it doesn't matter what others think

Translation - When you understand yourself well, it doesn't matter what others think- Grapevine

Why cant I find someone who understands me !

Data engineer

I'm not sure why we find it so difficult to understand ourselves. 

What we aspire to be yet are unable to pursue our dream or passion.

My childhood hope was that before the age of 25, I would be able to hold everything, such as a house and a car.

But I have accomplished nothing until now. All of my dreams, which consist of nothing more than seeing myself succeed in the future, demotivate me greatly, causing me to feel miserable. Every day, my failure serves as a reminder that I am useless. 

I work hard every day, yet I sometimes feel like I'm not doing what I should be doing. 

Guys, I need your opinions about that is it phobia or fear of something else.

Why is self-understanding so hard?

Application Engineer

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

I am currently in college. 
I don't know why, but I constantly need to be around people to feel happy, otherwise I feel depressed. I feel I don't have any value and will have any value only if someone else approves me.

I fear going for lunch or dinner alone. I fear people will judge me if they see me alone.

I am scared to be lonely. Why?

Why I need to be around people to feel happy?

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

You meet new people - on some you cringe, some are boring, some intrigue you, some you respect, and some are intimidating

It is the intimidating lot that makes me jhzdgfhfghsjj (how do I explain this)
I feel small infront of them, even though I am not in the same room or face to face
There's an unknown fear, it feels you have to prove yourself to them (for no reason)
Somehow our brains put them on a higher pedestal for various reasons - it is different reasons for different people

Why why do I have to feel like this? 
How do I get rid of it?

Help me make sense of this

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

It's not restricted to over 30 women. Open to all the women here irrespective of their age.

From career to health, marriage , relationship, travel, goals. #Learn from experiences

Women of GV. Hope to learn from you

I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential!

Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document

The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant

Does anyone ever wish they were... Less?

Lawyer

Everyone uses a version of you
That fits their interest
Still acceptable

178 cm Brown skin 
Always left out
Gym Personality development sab try Kia
Khud k career development k liye roj ragda
Khud k health k care Kari
Par breaking aa gya hai

I eat alone in the office
POSH k dar se females se dur rehta hoon

Drawing Flute, in sabhi k clubs join kiye
I was well versed in them when I was a kid
To find someone
Par no girls in sight, even if they were
I was not even an option.

But still
I cannot come close to the ones who were gifted
I am invisible to girls
Kuch khaas jine k tamana nhi hai mere

Par Ek din k liye
Ek Sundar dikhne wala insaan Banna chahta hoon
Jise dosta gender romantically attractive Lage

Kya koi hai idhar jinke halat mere jaise ho

When You look ugly

Seeing colleagues getting promoted while your contribution goes unnoticed. Working on projects that none of your peers care about. Figuring out the balance between work and personal life. Regret of ignoring physical health due to work.

There are endless reasons that can trigger the imposter syndrome. How are you guys coping up with this?

How do you guys cope up with the imposter syndrome

I started a side business. These fuckers can have their promotions. I work for the salary now. I don't contribute beyond the basic limit.  It's liberating. I don't even laugh at the stupid jokes at meeting.

Software Developer

Cannot explain but knowing your limits and thresholds is oh 🤌🏻

Why are self-aware people sexy, it is the most basic thing

“When you’re young, you believe that there will be many people with whom you’ll connect with deeply. Later in life, you come to realize that it only happens a few times. A few moments, frozen in genuine beauty, where you look at someone and you know, from a place deep within yourself, that they are going to mean something to you, that they are rare.

When it comes to this kind of connection, it’s important to understand that energy cannot be created or destroyed — that is a scientific fact. If the depth is there, it cannot be denied, cannot slip through your fingers, cannot be something you successfully run away from due to fear of exposure or battle wounds. You can try to dismiss it, can try to stay protected and hidden from the warmth, but your hiding spot is never watertight — it always catches up to you.

And if it’s not meant to fit within the soul of you, if it’s simply not your love to hold, no amount of bargaining with your heart will anchor it. That is the beauty of discovering the things that stay, the things that fall into place. In a world of billions, in a world where we are all seeking connection but avoiding eye contact, there are remarkable points of impact where you manage to crash yourself into someone who ends up breaking through the exterior. Someone who makes contact with your heart, who grows roots within it. Together, you beat the odds.

If you have found human beings like this, I hope you protect them. I hope you risk your heart for what you feel. I hope you believe that you are worthy of something full, and pointed and real. I hope you never settle for less, because certain people are truly just rare, beautiful drops of borrowed light that find their way to you. You don't feel alien with them. The otherness never arrives. There isn't a version of yourself you have to shed in order to feel connected to them. They see you clearly. You are held there. (Continued...)

Extremely Beautiful quote on finding connection

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

Hi there! This is real.

Can you share how to overcome the thoughts of log kya sochenge? 

I've heard few like they don't pay your bills, but that didn't work for me, I know, but I need help.

Change a thought

Growth Manager

Add yours to the thread! Mine is 

“Everybody is a wh*re, we just sell different parts of ourselves”

Quote that changed your perspective

Hi Grapeviners,

**Question for those at higher level (SM+)**

How do you perceive your job?
Isn't that too demanding, boring and depressing (corporate politics) at the same time considering you're stuck doing it for years/decades on end(that too will intensify more you climb up)?

Essentially, I want to know what motivates you apart from you big checks?
Is it about the power that you enjoy over people? (i mean, does it really make you feel powerful?)
Or is it you can't go reverse because of the status and other factors that are attached with you?

Cuz my underlying assumption is that if you're doing a job and earning quite well then it's unlikely that you would get significant time to enjoy that money with your family/ friends or even alone. (pls correct me if I am wrong)

Like yesterday I was talking to a client AVP  who's been toiling day n night over the weekends from last 2 month just like an unpaid intern.

If that's the path to carrer growth, then man, I am already done!😂

--------
Your answers/ perspective would help me understand the point of chasing carrer growth from your lens and decide for myself!!

Thanks 🙏

Is it even worth climbing up?

Product Owner

Welcome to Confessions's Private Community

Sometimes it feels like what I have learnt is nothing, the person who enjoyed 4 years of college, and me who have learnt and gained enough knowledge, but we are on the same track , same position (unemployed) at this time , then what is the benefit of me being serious at that time...

Confused...

Does your self confidence and self esteem decrease when you feel others around you are much better in every sense, do you feel overwhelmed, do you feel that you should keep quiet, do you feel insecure and vulnerable, if yes how do you tackle it.

Isn't it mentally straining for you to be physically present at such places while experiencing such emotions?

Please share your views.

Self believe?

Sometimes it just feels like being an ass when you prioritize yourself over others and in order to get rid of that guilt you deliberately recall those incidents when you were nice to others and how they shattered your heart and walked over the broken pieces as if it meant nothing.

Why does self-love feel guilty at times?

I am working hard on my myself
Gym study work sleep
Make sure everything is completed on time
So that the schedule doesn't mess up

But Why?
I get a feeling of someone I need
To tell everything how my day went
Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon
Theek hai
Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k

In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team

Ghar aata hoon to 
Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon
Na h koi call
Message

Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai
PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath
Akele marna likha hai 
Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai
Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem
Mar rahe hai
These thoughts are winning

.....
Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai
Na h Bhai behen
1 dost hai wo busy rehta

Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta
I close my eyes and cry sometimes
Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai
Kya pap kiya hoga maine

It's lonely, Ain't it?

Which is the most appropriate platform for serious relationship advice?

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