GF Doesn’t Care About Her Looks
The girl I’m dating is a perfect match but she doesn’t care how she looks. She could easily be 8/10. She has poor dressing style and awful eating habits so she started becoming fat. How do I ask her to change without breaking her confidence and heart? I really love her but this could be the deal breaker.
samosa
Stealth
5 months ago
maybe you love her for yourself, not for her
if you have those issues with her, no you don't love her
What a fuqall logic honestly. It's not demeaning to 'prefer' a healthy and good looking partner. The OP should talk to her about his thoughts in a subtle way, giving her a disclaimer that it's a discussion and not a debate.
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Borosil_Carrier
Stealth
5 months ago
And how do you rate yourself on your looks and dressing style ? 🧐
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Ask her to lose weight for her health. F Body positivity when you will die from cholestrol.
Support her and be her gym buddy. Play sports together and deepen that bond.
I agree. This seems really good way and totally engaging and fun
pingu
Stealth
5 months ago
This. Be the supporter without blame. Start with the eating habits, start changing them slowly and then move on to the exercises. Enjoy the process. Fixing the dressing is quite easy just gift her something which you think will look good on her. But buy it in the size a bit smaller. So she wants to wear it and in the process wants to lose weight.
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Donut
Stealth
5 months ago
Looks - fades away after 40’s and you are left only with your personality and mindset
Dressing sense - as long as dressing appropriately, whats the correct style? She’s not trying to impress Tyra Banks
Eating awful - maybe she is going through some issues or problems- alot of people are stress eaters. How have you helped her improve this?
“I really love her” BUT - well there’s a but attached so nope, you don’t love her - you love the physical idea of her. If its a deal breaker then break the deal if thats not what you want - you cannot change others, only yourself. Take care! 🙏🏻
Looks fades away but not the cholesterol related issues. Body positivity is more dangerous than cancer.
Donut
Stealth
5 months ago
Lol your comments are too superficial- something a random guy on podcast would say. Clearly you haven’t understood my comment in the context in which it was said.
What has “looks” i.e. facial features that have been given by birth/god/genetics got to do with cholesterol? In the post OP mentions thinking of leaving his GF cause of looks. If he was worried about her health he would have suggested or helped her get that checked instead of making a vain post here.
Sure whatever your definition of body positivity is? Probably you think thats its just about fat people. It can be about anything- being comfortable in the clothes you wear, your height, your skin colour, maybe you are disabled, etc.. but no - just throw in some fancy statement about cancer. Which im sure you must have never had someone close to you suffer/die from it to be making this statement. Let’s say Im positive about my body skin colour which maybe dark - so that’s worse than cancer? 😂
Having to explain in such layman terms cause clearly you missed the point. Take care and please interact with people whose lives are ruined by cancer before making such tone deaf statement. Take care
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Spartan101
Stealth
5 months ago
What's your number brother? 3/10?
If she is loyal and truly loves you.Don't care about looks and all
My Ex was so beautiful
But 🐍 nikli BKL 🙂
President_Trump
Stealth
5 months ago
🤣
Ponyta
Stealth
5 months ago
The main question is do you have a good dressing style and healthy eating habits?
Well if her poor dressing style is a deal breaker ... Break the deal bro.. She will definitely find someone who will love her for what she is..🌹 and you will find too someone who will dress up👠 and you will be amazed everytime u see her...👌 Don't try to change or get changed. 👑
Leave everything bro, but tell me one thing, how can you rate someone based on looks 🤷🏻♂️
Bittergourd
Stealth
5 months ago
Just talk normally how it gonna be when she do like this or do things together so that she can also find very reason or interest in all above mentioned things..btw love is love you should love her the way she looks money so n so are not constraint for loving someone she is so beautiful in her own ways ...like she finds you handsome in your ways ..
You can also start having poor dressing style and awful eating habits to match with hers.
Some cmts are ☠️. People tend to follow their partners habits. If you will care about your looks overall. She will eventually too. Sign up for fitness activity which you both enjoy.
PocusDweeber
Stealth
5 months ago
bhai tu apna dekh
furious
Stealth
5 months ago
Keeping aside simp behaviour in comments - leave her.
It’s her body, she should care About her physique, not you!
I understand, to get intimate we all have types, few prefer slim, few fit and so on.
It’s not wrong if you want her to look her best. But ask yourself if you started loving her for her looks or the person she is.
BlickCait
Stealth
5 months ago
Just leave her bro. Do her some good. Later if you guys do end up getting married, then pregnant and she puts on weight, you’re going to hate her for not looking like she did a few years ago. Why wait till then
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