Well, It's a movie for a reason.  
 For men , marrying down is the norm, and marrying up is uncommon.  For women, not so much as they generally prefer marrying up / across (lookup hypergamy). There are many girls (even in my own family) who don't prioritize wealth / income alone and consider looks , education , etc.   
 Yet,  a vast disparity in socioeconomic status is very rare and is outliers.

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Why not? As long as they are not financially irresponsible then it should be fine.

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@Mastikhor Typical Bollywoody romance, nothing new
Single father, dying daughter looking for their mother figure

Consultant

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Was watching Hi Nanna (netflix) The girl is crazy rich, like food bill comes at 20k for 3 one time eat out Gets married to this guy who earns 20k a month  Why would you bring it on yourself   Love'...

Was watching Hi Nanna (netflix)
The girl is crazy rich, like food bill comes at 20k for 3 one time eat out
Gets married to this guy who earns 20k a month

Why would you bring it on yourself 

Love's not gonna sustain long

Controversial: Would you marry someone of less economic background?

Controversial: Would you marry someone of less economic background?- Grapevine

Your opinion?

Real relationships aren't real anymore, and it's going to be worse , only money matters?

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I am a 26/M/60+LPA/IITian Software Engineer at a FAANG. I have spent most of my time travelling places with my friends/solo and have dedicated a significant portion of my small life to my career, and I am quite happy with it. I am confused about one thing tho, should I get married? given I am happy living like this, I just want to hear what men have to say on this, I want to know given a chance would you guys get married? If yes how to check if a woman is a fine fit for you? I made a rule to only date a woman who makes at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background AND should be humble. With these set of rules the chances of finding a girl is almost slim to none given ratio at good colleges and at high paying tech jobs are like that 🤧, I am sure people won't find these rules good, but I want to know if I am being stupid pls correct me it will help me reshape my thinking.

Help me guys 🫡.

Are you happy with your marriage?

Software Developer

29 M, IT professional in Bangalore earning around 65k/month. 
My parents are looking for girl(non-working) for my marriage later this year.(already knows girls family).
But I am worried about all the expenses post-marriage as Bangalore is already a costly city and I will only be sole-earner.

Need your honest advices here on how to manage expenses or look for a working partner.

Need advice/suggestion

Data engineer

If you are planning to get married what estimated budget do you have. Are you taking any loans. Give your thoughts

Wedding expenses

Business Development Manager

I know I'm not the only one having to go through this. Let's speak our heart out.

[Rant] Arranged marriage process

Software Engineer

To all those guys who have decided to stay unmarried for their  whole life.... What's the reason ?????

Men only........

demands are getting crazier

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Alright everybody, let's have fun, choose your warrior 🤵🏻

Founder

Can anyone help with Pros and Cons of marrying hyper career focused girl? 
If someone married such a girl - how did it turn out?
Hyper Career focused - Priortizes Job over Family life.

Marriage with Hyper Career focused Girl

The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class
Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class
Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo

[Controversial] Parents' gen arrange marriages - Mom's father had money, our father had degrees

I am a 30 M , got married in 2020 and clearly the marriage was not working out. My wife and her mother was always finding ways to control me from the beginning with all the little things and my wife started this drama like with every fight she used to leave the house and stay at her mother’s and not comeback until all the parents gets involved and me asking sorry, one time she left the house because I cooked the curry and had asked her to do roti this turned into a fight and just for that she left the house. And her mother threatened me that she won’t send her daughter back until I ask sorry. There were LOT of these instances and at one point I really got fed up and started standing up for myself, in the last fight she said she won’t come back again and I said please don’t I am also tired of this. After a month she started reaching out to me asking sorry and apologies and all but I had lost all trust in the relationship and I wanted sometime. Even if I let her in her mother would have ruined the relationship again , so I asked her since I have no trust you have to agree on that in future if we get divorced if we have kids the kids stay with me and I won’t pay any alimony. Following this discussion she lodged a fake domestic violence and dowry case against me and my family. And I filed for divorce after I seeing police station and all. I have all the evidence to prove that I am innocent but the court is taking very very long time and now she is asking for for a huge amount only the she will agree for divorce 😣

Worst times for men! Better to be a monster than a hero

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. 

About me: 
- Female, 28
- mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted
- single and normally attractive
- Jinxed when it comes to relationships
- Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr
- not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations

My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

Convince me to get married

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I am dating this girl for an arranged marriage setup, we have met multiple times(6-7 times) and almost all the time, i paid for it. She did not even attempt to pay or even ask for it. 

In another instance, she took me to a mud doll shop yesterday and I had no idea she was taking me there. She chose some mud doll which cost 2k and asked me to pay for it. 

It's really putting me off, is it normal or should I call it off???

Should I call it off??

They have created the picture of falling in love at workplace . I still doubt on people who met at workplace and got married ....Dude how???

Need to stop watching K-dramas

Analyst

What's the stupidest reason you've heard someone got married for?

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My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

I feel guilty as my fiancé’s pay is 3x mine

The post seems to be from a Doctor and the first half sounds more like you're wasting your life if you're not having sex or kids. Like there's no purpose in life if you aren't getting this.

(And that's how India made 130+ crore earthlings!)

33M here and these points sounded fascinating when I was 25-26, but not anymore. Except for the EMI part everything else looks like a blessing instead of being in a bad marriage. If you're in your late 30s and unmarried, how has it been for you?

What does future and "purpose" mean to you at this point of life?

Any 35+ M here and who is going through this?

Program Manager

How much inhand income for a couple is good enough to lead a decent upper middle class life in Banglore…..
Looking at the overpriced real estate and exorbitant rents and school fees for kids, young people these days are really worried about getting married.

Married people please share some insights…..

My def of Upper middle class life for a new couple…

1. 2bhk in a gated society or decent standalone building.
2. Gym and healthy life style 
3. Movies / concerts / events twice a month 
4. One 2-day and one week long tour in a year 
5. A decent car (something like nexon / breeza) 
6. Able to invest a lil bit for retirement.

How much would be required for leading such a lifestyle ?

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