If you are against Dowry, why aren't you against Alimony ? or are you ?

Saw a couple of posts on X claiming (read boasting) India’s divorce rate as 1%. If we believe this to be true, I think this is majorly because of the show-off nature of the society. Almost every marriage I’ve known about in last 5 years has loads of adjustments on the girl’s end. Things might be looking so good on out (instagram pics of holiday, social validation of money and wealth) but scratching the surface yields another story. There are issues with in-laws, random expectations for girl and her family, dowry (“gifts”) and what not. Even the best folks (guy) I know in corporate give in to this culture silently in the name of not going against their family. Would like to hear thoughts on this. Are there stories of mid-age/new couples worth considering ideal?

I'm currently navigating a divorce case as the petitioner. I'm a 27-year-old woman eager to swiftly resolve this situation and move on. Unfortunately, my husband's harassment and attempts to blackmail me are making it more challenging. What's the most effective way to expedite the process and officially declare separation?

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues. Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families. Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices. Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps. In the US, This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Fuck , what a waste of weekend. story - I am 27 years old and i am not rich enough like grapevine people. I earn 9 LPA and doing remote job. So parents started looking for girl for arrange marriage. So there is program arranged in our caste where boy and girl has to register beforehand. Registration fees is 500 per person and 400 for booklet. So i paid around 1900 and lunch is also included. This program invites all the prospects under one roof and booklet was given. Booklet has all the details of prospects.So registered candidates can have multiple meetings with different people. As you already guessed it this is problem of supply demand. Female candidates are way less and male candidates are way more. We have so many experiences like girl family just outright reject you on the basis where i live. That girl was doing nothing and have done bcom. Also one girl family rejected us soon as we just sit for a meeting. Reason dad of female earns 4X than my father income. We had some meetings around 5-15 but hardly any positive response. Female family is able to do 20-25 meetings at minimum and they can have choice whom to reject just on weight factor too. Shitshow out their for arrange marriage. We had a quarrel at home after coming from program that i wore some multicolour tshirt thats why we dont have further meeting. Also my parents are giving me lecture that i should have wore gold chain and bracelet to impress other people. another thing in booklet , boys has to mention salary. There is no mandatory thing to mention salary of girl in same booklet. Also girls are given return gift for just attending the function.

- Already empowered women who take undue advantage and enjoy benefits of being born as a woman. - Pseudo feminists who claim to champion the so-called issues of women. - Undeserving women who hold high positions in their organizations by virtue of diversity quota surpassing ‘deserving men’. - Married women that gain mileage at work by weaving false narratives of being tortured by their in-laws. - Women that indulge in gossip at work to show a bad light of their male colleagues.

Where do you folks fall in this complicated venn diagram?

The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo

I collected this information based speaking with victims of false 498a on different social media platform. I also researched r/legaladviceindia, quora, etc for this compilation of list. See it as arranged marriage best practices of marrying Indian woman. 1. Avoid single children daughter. An elder brother is good or any brothers. Having brother helps her to understand men's issues and men's temperament. 2. If woman's father is politically connected, lawyer, police, or some high position, they will show who is the boss. Most of 498a are initiated because woman's father asked her to do. 3. if the woman's mother is the head of the family and the mother disrespects her husband, avoid the family. Because the woman is very much influenced by her mother after marriage. The mother is going to teach the same to her daughter. You do not take that risk. 4. She is an attention seeking person. Run. She will do anything for spotlight including filing false 498a and get some limelight from friends and relatives. 5. Don't take dowry. If she asks you money for her mom, dad, or her bro, reject her. 6. Carefully observe, how she treats others. If she does not treat service workers respectfully but treat you well, she is not a good person. 7. If she accidentally discloses that she is struggling with depression and other mental health problem, avoid her. If anything happens to her after marriage due to her mental health condition, you would go to prison. As Robert Greene said, "avoid unlucky and unhappy people. There is no reversal to this law". You cant fix broken people. Don't waste your life trying to do that. 8. A woman who hates her father. This is a big NO NO. 9. Liars and dishonest people. If you find a small lie prior to marriage, I say run. Because what you found is a small lie. What you did not find is more than that. 10. If she says she does not how to cook, get rid of her. Cooking is a necessary skill. Both men and women should know. She did not put any effor

Grapeviners, can you, with all honesty convince a non-believer like me into getting married and having children. If you do, my parents will send a million blessings your way. About me: - Female, 28 - mostly introverted, very selectively extroverted - single and normally attractive - Jinxed when it comes to relationships - Financially independent, Net worth: 1 cr - not bragging, but I'm decently intellectual and I can have smart conversations My reason to resist marriage is: I'm scared it won't work out and will cause bigger problems than being single. Have seen too many unhappy marriages in family and friends. Dating scenes in recent times have only made things even more unimpressive.

This is a rant post. Here is what is expected from a guy in India - Study well, go to a great college. - Get a high paying job. - Marry at the right time or else all your achievements are a waste. - Buy depreciating assets like car, houses etc - Have kids at the right time. - Give your kids the right upbringing. - Take care of your parents. - Be part of the society Whereas, for girls all of the above do apply but are good to have things and not a must have. If anything is missed from the above list, unfortunately society thinks you have not done the bare minimum. Now my question is who has all of this sorted considering at whatever point of life they are in.