You should start sharing your rants on this platform daily. It helps you. Start it. 
  
 Then you can share happiness

Growth Manager

resonating but will not lie nobody can help except you yourself bro , going through same … himmat rkho aur aage bdte rho rukna nahi hain pause le lena beech beech me jab jyada ho jaaye … baaki duniya mje leti hain … they will listen only if it fetches them some form of benefit… mental health wali philosophy hi h bs practically we all failed at it …✊🏻

Consultant

Software Engineer

On the plus side, at least you have started to rant. I am just on my laptop for the last couple of hours doing office work because I grew tired of web series and other stuff lol

Software Developer

In the same boat as you. I guess i am just existing, not living.

Senior Consultant

Software Test - QA

Loneliness..  It kinda kills you from whithin.   Looking at people around you and make you feel more alone .   A vicious loop it seems.   You seek just one person whom you can talk to unhinged. Unf...

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Loneliness.. 
It kinda kills you from whithin. 

Looking at people around you and make you feel more alone . 

A vicious loop it seems. 

You seek just one person whom you can talk to unhinged. Unfiltered. 

But koi aisa exist hi nhi karta . 

Bhagwan to shayad zyada hi non participative , non responsive listener hai. 

Sometimes I wonder what is the amount of sadness that this heart can actually hold ! 

I am too heavy! To wounded to open up.

And ofc, kafi arse se theek hi hu mai !

Need someone to talk to

Need someone to talk to- Grapevine

Don't have any girlfriend but I feel the need to have someone to speak with say about the day but there is fear of heartbreak and risk of loss of interest quickly, but again night comes but again I remember that talking can lead to attachment and attachment is not good what to do guysssssss?



Whom to speak with??

Loneliness or solitude?

Analyst

Yaar baat karne ko koi chahta hai lekin jaise hi koi milta lagta hai hatao yaar kaun time pass/waste kare🤔

Online to waise bhi kuch hona hai nahi 


badhiya shaanti se jio


lekin loneliness jab aati hai to fir lagta hai ki kaash koi hota…….



so much confusion in life yaar

Feel the need to talk, but get bored quickly

Do you feel that evenings and nights are really depressing when you are lonely? 

By lonely, I mean that you don't have a partner or roommate to talk to (you can still have an active social life).

I have an active social life and I talk to people in office, but most of my past friends and roommates got married and moved on. I don't really have any interest in marriage. The mornings and afternoon feel amazing even in weekends. But evenings feel depressing and sad. 

Anyone else feel this way?

A question for people who feel lonely

Do you feel weird when you post something good on 
'Grapevine'

And it does not get much response 

I feel so

Weird

Is it okay to be alone rather than being with guys I don't like. 

College friends are the worst I have ever had.

College life

I saw a friend tweet about how Bangalore is full of connected but lonely people jumping in to join every Meetup/WhatsApp group that becomes available. This is my problem with the meetup / conference culture. Meetup culture is all about optionality. You think you'll meet someone new who's cool. Someone who can help you build your network. 

You would rather join a meetup with 100 other strangers than build stronger connections with your friends. In life there are only a few people who really matter. 

People who you can call at 11 PM to rant about your workday. People who you know will be genuinely happy about your promotion. People you share screenshots from work with. It is not probably the 100 strangers in that Whatsapp group that you think of when you are having a health issue and want to share your fears. It also means lowering your ego, which I'm happy to do with my old friends. I'm always happy to ping them when I get the chance, and I'm the one asking them to call me. 

I'm the one who asks them to hang out with me. I used to think, "Why bother?" but then I realised that it doesn't matter who reaches out first. It is not about keeping a count. 

I realised it's for me! If I have a chat with a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years, my mood improves immediately. Everyone is very busy. Everyone is stressed with their jobs and their personal lives. Some of them are married now. Some have children. But that's where you've got to work to keep connecting with the people who matter to you. Friendship is also about being vulnerable. True friendship is built on vulnerability. 

Being able to share your dreams, your failures and your demons with each other. While the meetup culture is all about bumping into people for 5 minutes to judge their worth and whether they are worth your time, my preference is for long 1-1s. Either on the phone or face to face. I am happy to meet just one person over the weekend and have hours of conversation about work, life or wha

Connected by Lonely in Bangalore (viral online post)

Friends sabke paas nahi hote Lakshman 🥲 
 Translation (in spirit,not literal): Not everyone is lucky to have friends, Lakshman (edited dialogue from Main Hoon Na)

Business Development Manager

Sometimes people use certain people for the transient phase to heal themselves and then move one once they are able to rediscover themselves. 
While this may not be purely intentional at times, this does leave a sense of worthlessness in the other person's soul. And then the person feels "used" and breaks other people's heart and the cycle continues.

It can become a vicious loop if things are not clearly communicated.

How do you figure out if someone is genuinely in or using you for rebound ?

Data engineer

I feel my life is extremely difficult after demise of my beloved father at the age he should have  not left us this early he was 51 and now without him my life is just extremely difficult in all aspects  , people around me , relatives , career aspect marriage aspect future everything just scares me and  i feel i cannot reach out to anyone for my help not even my mother with my problems I feel if i reach out to anyone they just shut it like dont overthink , please stop with your negativity I just dont know how to get on with life He was like shield to us Now i dont know even me , my mom , my sibling has changed like anything Nothing feels good anymore

Loosing a parent

Lately i have been struggling to cope up with my work and family . It’s been very difficult at my work lately. Also my personal life is a roller coaster mentally! I feel difficult to cope up. People at my work are sarcastic about my performance even though i am fulfilling all my basic tasks. I sleep very late thinking about all these things especially my personal struggles! How are you guys coping up?

How you guys are taking care of your Mental Health?

Desires and expectations hata do life se… 
 It takes very less to be happy…. 
 Itna kamao ki apni jaruratein puri ho jaye bas….aur job ko bhi utna hi time do bas 
  
 Rest time should go in pursuing hobbies and friends/family time…. 
  
 Paisa jitna bhi kama lo, hamesha kam hi lagega… 
 Isliye time nikalo apni hobbies/friends and family ke liye

I will keep it short.

So I know this guy who goes to the same gym as me, 

The dude always looked kinda lonely so I would often greet him good morning or howdy,

However, I never got a chance to sit and talk to him as he always seemed in a rush,


Yesterday, I saw him talking to one of those  E-Girls on Instagram in the locker room, you know the ones which offer sexual video calls in exchange of a few thousand rupees,

I unintentionally read the chat while he was reaching out for his sipper,

And I saw "I dont want to have sex, I just want to talk to a real woman about my mental issues" something


While this sounded absurd and funny to me in the first moment of reading it, It left a resounding wave of abyss in me.
On how some people could be extremely lonely , and all they need is a hug !!!!

While his actions may not be the most mature of all, I do recognize this feeling. 


Afterall,
Duniya mein bohot gamm hai,
Apna dukh toh fir bhi kam hai.

Adulting: An Eye-Opening Experience

100% while I am a believer of being mentally strong. A recent incident also surprised me.  
 So this girl I matched on a dating app, was looking for a long term partner and was hoping for love marriage instead of arrange that her parents were doing. 
 We had been casually chatting but never even on a call. One day she asked me what I was doing the next day. I said i could open up my schedule for her. Then she asked let's meet tomorrow.  
 Then I got to know it was her birthday the next day and she had no one else to celebrate with so she was open to being with a random stranger. She used to live away from family all alone.  
 It felt so bad that the girl was feeling so down. So this changed a few thoughts about dating. Some people just want to talk freely and deeply. Wish the world could be a little more comfortable for such folks

Founder

Bangalore you ok?

Copywriter

Here’s what I have been feeling nowadays, 
I suffer alone every night, smile during the day & tell friends only half and parents nothing so they don't worry about them.

I finally end up becoming a big ball of bottled up emotions.

I was trying to talk to my colleagues about this and no one seems to care. All they care about is their own life and that is fair. 

Is life all about suffering and pain?

[Thread] Am I really a failure?

Product Manager

M29 / Never felt love ever in my entire life 

I’m a M/29 good looking , well educated and in a good paying job. All through my life I’ve never felt loved or been in a proper relationship. Ive been respected , valued but never really “loved “. Ive got a really good friends circle and good parents who love me but this is different . I’ve liked a couple of girls in the past , spoke to them for a while but never took off until a relationship level. I’m also not a person who would shoot a shot at every girl just to be in a relationship . 
Currently I feel really desperate to be loved . I love myself but there’s a constant desire to be loved by someone . sometimes even a small act of affection from opposite gender makes me wonder if it’s love . People would know constantly ask me why I’m single even after being a well qualified bachelor which hurts even more. Looking for some genuine advice how to get over this feeling or if this feeling is valid .

Never been in love

Like you genuinely go ahead and love someone seriously and they just leave. How did you come out of it???

Fu** this

Holi hai? Diwali hai? So what, nothing to enjoy. Lets spend the day laying on the bed, watching stuff over phone. Feeling less and less disconnected with friends, to the point where I feel I don't even have friends. College friends are based in another city. Didn't even try to make friends at workplace. Stuck alone in my homecity as past 6 years I was based somewhere else completing my grad and preparing for jee. Prior to that focused a lot on studies. So had little to no interaction with people during academics. And now when I have time and money to spend, there is noone with whom I can have fun with.

The older I get, the lesser my excitement becomes for festivals

Moved to a city from a Village. I felt the same. The reason is that cities are culturally and morally bankrupt.  Except mindless consumerism and inflated egos , cities teach you nothing. 
 The longer one lives in cities, people just become animals in fine clothes.

Am I the only who feels the need to speak with someone on say how the day went and all but start losing interest after 1-2 days only😂🥲

25M Solitariness

I am working hard on my myself
Gym study work sleep
Make sure everything is completed on time
So that the schedule doesn't mess up

But Why?
I get a feeling of someone I need
To tell everything how my day went
Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon
Theek hai
Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k

In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team

Ghar aata hoon to 
Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon
Na h koi call
Message

Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai
PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath
Akele marna likha hai 
Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai
Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem
Mar rahe hai
These thoughts are winning

.....
Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai
Na h Bhai behen
1 dost hai wo busy rehta

Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta
I close my eyes and cry sometimes
Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai
Kya pap kiya hoga maine

It's lonely, Ain't it?

Why cant I find someone who understands me !

In pre final year
Sab kuch bacha hai revise/naya padhne ko
System design
CS fundamentals
DSA brush up
CP level up
Projects revise and machine coding round preperation


Par still I feel need of a girl, a relationship
Someone who I can share everything with
Why I am getting this feeling?
Itna gir gya hun mai
Been  years and haven't talked to a girl
I feel lonely, I feel anxious, I want to shout
I want to cry
Gurudwara jakar jab sab chale gaye the
Babaji k samne bahut roya tha
Idk kis phase c gujar rha hun mai
Ghar par mere baat bahut Kam hoti hai

...
In life till now
Was Never in a relationship 
Approached 2 and got rejected based on religion (I am Sikh)

Mai bus shaanti c padhna chata hoon
I look ugly and I am short(5 11) and brown skinned
Aap log to working hai
Mere dimaag ko pta hai ye sab cheezen bakwas hai , ladki relationship wagera
Par man nhi Manta

Kisko call karun
Kiske sath baaten share karun

Pls jo is same talkeef c gujar rahe hai help Karen
🙏🙏🙏🙏

Meditation
Gym
Sab try kar rha hoon
...
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