Us bhai Us, but do search something called as 'health anxiety' used to happen to me a lot, I used to have this continuous fear that I'm gonna get a heart attack and die

How are you now? 
  
 What did you do to overcome this situation?

Frontend Engineer

Doing better, it's pretty simple I just think about the time when I had that anxiety last time, did anything happen then? No then nothing would happen now and it's all in my head and I try to drink a lot of water it just makes me believe that it'll subside the anxiety and then eventually it does, believe me when the anxiety hits it gets worse. I'll share a related reddit post that helped me a lot. 
  
 https://www.reddit.com/r/HealthAnxiety/comments/bimyyl/for_people_with_heart_health_anxiety/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Software Developer

Content Compliance

Corporate Strategist

Senior Consultant

1. Get your tests done for vitamin and nutrients deficiency and get the deficiencies fixed. 
  
 2. Do some exercise. 
  
 3. Spend some time outdoors. 
  
 (Can combine 2+3 with a simple walk too). 
  
 4. Try to have 3-4 litres of water daily. 
  
 5. Switch to healthier foods. 
  
 6. Try to sleep early (if not everyday then most days; by early I mean by midnight) 
  
 7. Get min 6 hours of sleep 
  
 8. Socialise with your loved ones

Software Test - QA

Finance Consultant

See a psychiatrist. They are experts. Don't ask a random person on the internet.

Software Engineer

Hello viners,  I'm in my mid 20s. Whenever a random small thing happens to me or my body, I start googling it. Then self diagnosing, then always some type of cancer. Overthinking, stress, panic att...

Hello viners,

I'm in my mid 20s. Whenever a random small thing happens to me or my body, I start googling it. Then self diagnosing, then always some type of cancer. Overthinking, stress, panic attacks.

I am not able to focus on my work. Daily life has worsened. Please give tips on how to overcome this.

Overthinking

Overthinking- Grapevine

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
.
Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
.
If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

As the title says. 

I have tried many methods of dealing with procrastination to code, there is always a constant fear of not being consistent, plus programming doesn't come easy to me or rather I don't have the grit to do it. I have seen other college mates grinding their ass off to DSA, how do I go past the stage of fear of feeling dumb and procrastination? Anytime I try to sit to do anything I immediately get this wave of overwhelming anxiety, I then start scrolling on my phone to get rid of the feeling. I can't even sit properly on a chair for long - yeah call me COVID kid or something but this has been the case for years. I only manage to do work/study at the very last moment but programming isn't like that, it takes consistent efforts. Are there any methods to achieve it?

P.S. hard scolding or stern answers are also welcomed, really want to improve myself.

How do you deal with procrastination?

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

Product Manager

I took my day off (Monday) as I was feeling a little tired. But I really did not stop thinking about work, even though I was not supposed to. 

I think I might be attached to my workplace/work/ project, a little too much. Do you viners also face this? If so, how do you tackle this?

Get detached from work

Help! How did you reduce over thinking or rumination?

Investor

Today i have gone to doctor as i have headache and little bit of dizziness. She said i got anxious all the time. It is kind of true. But i dont know how to rectify those anxiousness.

For example, i am going get a project where i dont how to work on backend project wrt testing. I got anxious. I got anxious while driving that i have to drive safely. I dont have to go for over speed limit. Even if i pick up tea cup i got anxious that tea should not be spilled on floor.

I have remote job and work is chill. But anxiousness always finds a way in my routine. Due to that i am getting high blood pressure. I am also walking daily except this week due to sickness. 

Any idea how to be less anxious in every work.

I am anxious all the time

For the last 2 months I have been trying to go to the gym and take care of my health but every week something or the other comes up and I'm working more than 14+ hrs sometimes. 12 hrs is average.


Every time something is going on in my mind around my work or performance or layoffs and a lot of things.  

I'm frustrated. Can somebody tell me what should be the best way to handle this?

Because of this I have high anxiety and also not getting proper time for personal life. 

I also feel a lot demotivated sometimes , thinking that why I'm working till 2am and for what?

Frustrated and Stressed: Mind Fog

Data engineer

I haven't been doing mentally well since I don't know when. I've  been extremely self critical about myself to the extent that it has negatively affected my relationship with loved ones. I think I have ADHD as I strongly feel I have the symptoms that are described in YouTube or in any article online. To make matters worse, I am not doing well in terms of my career, my finances have taken a hit, have gained 12+ kilos since a year, unable to focus on work and upskilling and I have anger issues. 
I am 30 YO and I feel my life is turning into a disaster.
Can someone please recommend therapists in Bangalore to whom I can talk face to face? 
I sometimes feel I'm seeking sympathy but in reality, I just need help.
There is a lot of guilt, regret and self hatred rooted deep inside me which has wrecked my confidence, self love, compassion which has started to affect others.
So if you guys know anyone, please let me know.

Need recommendations for therapists in Bangalore

Product Designer

I have been into programming since I was 15.
I have been working in the IT industry for the past 8 years and have been very successful in my domain because of my will to solve problems at work as interesting puzzles.

But this interest has slowly and gradually formed a huge part of my life to a level that if I am away from it for sometime, it gives me anxiety.

I am afraid this will affect my other parts of life like giving attention to my family, spending ample time with them.

As a process, I started to have no code Saturdays so that I am completely away from my laptop and spend time doing other mundane things. But this has not reduced the anxiety.


Any suggestions for reducing my workaholic nature ?

Turning into a workaholic is ruining my life

I’m a very private person and I was a bit confused whether I should write here or not, but anyway.

So, day before yesterday I was sitting on my chair after dinner and was thinking about my life and what the hell am I doing.

I realised that,
Saala bachpan se aaj tak race me hi bhaag raha hun. Pehle school me 1st, 2nd, 3rd aane ki race me. Then acche college milne ki race me. Then uske baad acchi job milne ki race me. Then uske baad agar ladki chahiye toh uske liye bhi ek race hai (Don’t have a gf, plz don’t take me wrong, it was a realisation)

My current daily routine is like this:
Wakeup everyday, write code, go gym, dinner, and then sleep and repeat this cycle everyday.

School ke dost peeche chhoot gaye, college ke dost apni life me busy ho gaye, colleagues se main zyada baat nhi karta and main akela padh gaya.

Feels like life is not intriguing anymore, it has no spark left. Its so painful to live everyday.

I feel like I don’t want to live any more, I want to die but I can’t cuz of 2 reasons.
1. I’m the only son of my parents.
2. If I die like this, then I won’t be able to come out from the birth cycle.

That’s it
🙏🏼

This week’s introspection

Bhai kaafi same lag raha hai. 
 Idk kaha rehte ho tum, kitna kamate ho, wagerah but ek baat bolunga - start walking. Kabhi main street pe walk lagao, kabhi subah, kabhi kahin. Hum Jo ek jagah baithke sochte hai, vo chalte chalte bhi soch hi sakte lekin kaafi nayi cheezein dekhne milegi. Kuch aisa milega Jo vapas layega interest, I hope aisa ho

General Manager

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

I feel guilty as my fiancé’s pay is 3x mine

When I got married, my partner’s pay was 2X mine. Cut to 8 years later, my pay is now 2.5X more than my partner. I am lucky to have a partner who never questioned me while my pay was lower than hers. So our relationship has been the same then and now.  
 Your pay cannot be the basis on which you decide if you have to be partners or not. If that is causing a rift between the both of you, you should perhaps have a honest conversation with your partner.

Founder’s Office

Analyst

Is it common for someone in mid 20s experience diminishing attention span and mental fatigue? Any advices on how to keep brain active like it was before. (I can literally feel the difference)

Mid 20s Crisis..

You overthink because your mind moves million miles a min.

Being overly aware is a curse.

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

Current state - I work as a PM intern at a startup. We shipped a major release few months back and since then I barely have any work. It's an ops heavy startup, so the work we do is just supplementary and I'm not making a huge impact anymore. I'm one of the select remote workers here and I've been with the org for the last 2 yrs, working parallelly alongside my college. Initially the work was exciting but now it has died down. The org has a okayish culture. There's no downside but limited upside as well. Pay is pretty good for me (considering I work <2hrs/week) but below average for fulltimers.

A little context - I'm pursuing an integrated(5yr) degree from a reputed B-school in Mumbai and I'll be graduating coming July. The placement cycle will start soon but I'm extremely unsure of what I want to go ahead with. I have varied interest. I like to tinker and play around with things. I've built successful social media pages & YT channels in the past. I've freelanced in digital marketing, web development and made decent money out of it. I've built chrome extensions and apps with several thousand users. I feel like I also have interest in web3, strategy, founders office and consulting roles. Few months back, I got an offer from a DeFi company, however they receded it once they realised I still have more than a year left to graduate.  

The confusion - I feel like I should leave my current org as there's no more learning here. However, I don't know in which direction should I proceed after that. The only thing I'm sure of is I'm not built for big corporates. I enjoy working with high ownership and small sized startups seem like the only option. I have 8 months of college left and I'll have to start looking for jobs within next 1-2months. (continued in comments)

TLDR: Feeling extremely lost

Does this happen to you'll also, where you forget name/keyword and then it take allot of mental pushing/effort to get back it to your mind.

And the you think am I having a problem? 
is it something that happens to me only or others also? 
Is it natural?

Mind block and forgetting names/key words

Support Specialist

My brain is an over-reacting type. Since the past 2 years, I have been planning, at this point I don't even know what since it has no outcome, various things, job change, going for higher education, promotions etc. 

Got nothing, and am just done done. My brain just constantly hurts now. Want a detox to clear my brain, to start with all this again 🤕

Travel doesn't seem to be an option right now.

Want to detox my brain. Suggest some ways

Hi all, 
I am a software engineer in a * company. But here the point is about myself, i don't like to code at all, infect i hate it now, but still i am doing it , because i have no choice, i can't leave it nor my family will be  supportive about it. I know its the best work in today's time but not for me. I also got promoted and been on a good pay (acc to exp). But i just don't want to do this job at all. My brain is affecting to a large extent , i have been hiding it from my family. I have a lot of headaches and tension of work like how am i going to do this. Because of having no interest in this, i am not improving my knowledge in this field, which have created fear about switching jobs. I forgets concepts , but i am able to work , don't know how, but i am afraid how long will i survive. My life is ahead me, many responsibilities lying ahead, but also i dont want to do this. What should i do ? Please help me , i can see only one option and that the very last option.

Overthinking

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