Therapy. Psychotherapy with a good therapist

Software Engineer

https://alternativestory.in/ 
 https://www.therapizeindia.com/

Lead Data Scientist

Product Manager

Tech Lead

Declining meetings post 8-30/9PM politely saying it's outside work hours and not thinking that it would piss ppl off. Gives you time to wind down.

Software Developer

Not using social media. 
Taking long walks.
Working out.

What has massively improved your mental health?

What has massively improved your mental health?- Grapevine

Welcome to Product Managers's Private Community

I am working as a senior product manager in a fintech startup. I am under a lot of stress due to work pressure, continuous badgering from business and tech stakeholders and loneliness. I always think of going home but staying in stressful job mainly because I don't want to be jobless. I can only post my views here anonymously because I don't want to be seen as loser. Request members if they can provide their suggestions.

PS : As far as my profile is concerned it's B tech + MBA from tier 1 college and 3 years of tech experience followed by 7 yrs into Product Management and living alone in Bangalore.

Deteriorating mental health

Hey everyone,

I wanted to share a bit about how my life has changed since my commute time reduced to less than 30 minutes. I never realized how much of a toll my daily commute was taking on my mental health until it drastically shortened.

Before the change, I used to spend nearly two hours each day in traffic, feeling frustrated and stressed before even reaching the office. By the time I got home, I was too exhausted to do much of anything. My evenings were just quick dinners and collapsing into bed, dreading the next day's meetings. 

Now that my commute is only 20 minutes, I feel like a different person. I use that time to sleep in a bit longer, which has made a world of difference. 

The biggest change has been in my stress levels. I no longer spend my mornings in a state of anxiety and worried about being late. 

The improvement in my mental health is noticeable. I’m happier, less irritable, and more productive at work. I even find that I’m more engaged and present in my interactions with others. Reducing my commute time has given me back so much more than just hours in my day – it’s given me a better quality of life.

How about you all? Has anyone else experienced a significant mental health boost from a shorter commute? I’d love to hear your stories and tips on how you’ve made the most of the extra time.

How has your mental health improved with a shorter commute?

Just sharing for everybody. I personally meditate every now & then or do NSDR. Since I started this practice, I'm baffled at how anxious/in a rush I used to be about everything.

Examples: 
- Wake up in the morning, be in a rush to take a get ready
- Be in a rush to book Uber, anxiously looking at my phone
- Would get done with lunch/dinner in 5-10 mins, sometimes not even appreciating what had been made

It's gotten much better. But I feel this happens with too many of us. Please, just take a moment of calm. Breathe. The world will move with or without you, you need to find your calm.

Have a good one :)

A friendly reminder for the weekend and beyond: breathe, there's no rush!

Analyst

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Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

The past few years have been a real eye-opener for workplace mental health. The pandemic pushed a lot of companies to take a hard look at how they support their employees' wellbeing. 

Now that we're adapting to a new normal, I've been wondering how things have changed. 
In my own experience, I've noticed more open conversations about mental health at work, but I'm curious about what others are seeing.

How has your company's approach to mental health support evolved in recent years? What resources or programs have employees found most beneficial?

How has your workplace stepped up its mental health game since the pandemic?

Started meditating now and use my Apple Watch for guidance. 

I wonder what other people are doing. Because I’m having some rough nights sleeping in due to anxiety.

Avoiding anxiolytics or beta blockers for now. Also avoiding a mental health therapist for as long as I can.

[Thread] How do you deal with stress?

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

You are being judged and measured every day.
Every quarter your new ratings are being published.
Every here and then your colleuges are getting fired and you dont know when suddenly it would be you.
Such a peer pressure with huge amount of people competing for same shitty life.

How are you guys able to work around this ?

How people in private sector are handling this ?

Have enough savings to sustain yourselves for 1-2 years without a job and be interview ready at all times.

I’m seeking therapy for quite some time now, but it ain’t helping me much (read: at all). I understand that it may sometimes takes many attempts to find the right therapist. Parallels, I want to do everything I could do for my mental health. Any suggestions what could work? Any mental health course recommendations, if that worked out for you?

What worked for you when therapy didn’t seem to?

Data Analyst

I am sorry my first post was supposed to be an achievement or CTC /salary  but  will surely come back one fine day with it too.
Anyways, I'm just trying to ask: what helps you? In your deepest, darkest of times, when nothing is working? Forget antidepressants for a second! Besides those medicines, what are some things that make you less depressed? 

The reason why I'm asking is that I am depressed. I was diagnosed by a professional.  Meds I don't like because they end up making me feel 
a) more depressed 
b) not at all myself; 
c) give me other terrible side effects 
Took therapy, antidepressants and what not for insomnia still don't have the right way to handle.

I just wanted new ideas, nevertheless, in hopes of finding something that may actually do something. If you ever have been in depression and insomniac please comment thereby creating a "safe space" Can't we ? For saving one life.
Apologies for the long post but sometimes I just have to say it

Depressed & insomniac .what helped you other than medicines .If you ever have been in this phase, your one solution might help. Please create a safe space. Can't we ? Thanks wholeheartedly.

Hey folks, just wanted to know how are you all taking care of your mental health on a daily basis and stuff that can be incorporated in your daily routine.

How to take care of mental health?

Co-Founder

I have been recently diagnosed with mixed anxiety and mild depression by a psychiatrist and was prescribed medication. Also asked to exercise everyday and pursue my hobby of reading. Any other tips on how to handle depression better while I am on medication?

How do you deal with depression?

Data engineer

*TW: Mental Health Struggles*

Hi there, folks!

I was contemplating about how my fellow professionals with mental health conditions manage their careers and grow despite the daily struggles.

You see, I deal with Clinical Depression and Anxiety which often hinders how I function day to day and have too manage through rigorous therapy and opting for heavy medication. 

This condition often disables me to concentrate on long-term performance and stability in a ln organisation- I often get burnout within 6-7 months of the job & need to take a sabbatical of the work.

I will love to hear about anecdotes and see if we all can create a space here. Thanks! (:

Mental Health and Your Career

Consultant

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

My fiancé’s pay is 3x mine. And I feel guilty for not being able to scale up to a respectable pay or career advancement. This is my capacity - I am slow paced and a late bloomer in everything in my life. I feel like I don’t deserve a fiancé with 3x pay as mine and could find someone better than me as I was questioned by my fiancé about my career trajectory. I keep wondering in what way I can contribute my share once we settle. How will I do 50/50 because it doesn’t seem possible to do that. I will have to cut back on all my wants before things turn sour between us due to this financial imbalance. I don’t want money to get in the way of our relationship. I don’t know if anyone feels this guilty for not being able to contribute financially towards their married life. Or am I overthinking all this in my mind. It takes a hit at my self esteem when I see my friends/family around being able to achieve this financial equilibrium with their spouses. It makes me feel inadequate and not as empowered.

I feel guilty as my fiancé’s pay is 3x mine

When I got married, my partner’s pay was 2X mine. Cut to 8 years later, my pay is now 2.5X more than my partner. I am lucky to have a partner who never questioned me while my pay was lower than hers. So our relationship has been the same then and now.  
 Your pay cannot be the basis on which you decide if you have to be partners or not. If that is causing a rift between the both of you, you should perhaps have a honest conversation with your partner.

Founder’s Office

What is that one habit that changed your life?

Going to the gym. Very underrated life lack, I’m less depressed that I was a couple of years back, reversed at least 3 years of age and helped me deal with chronic back pain by strengthening the lower back muscle. Only wish I knew this a decade back.

Finance Consultant

I think the current phase in my life is the lowest I am already PIPed by swiggy and I have broken up with my gf.

Feeling like my life has reached the end. Can't sleep at all specially after the break up. Now I regret for blocking her atleast I should have waited until getting into some company. But now I don't want to go to her due to some personal reasons.

It feel sucks. I am not able to focus on interview preparation. I am not in depression but my mental health is shit right now and gets headache daily.
Please help me shall I consult some doctor for this or is this okay. I don't have much friends that's why I am asking here

I genuinely need help

Sorry for posting here. Can anyone help me

Sorry to hear what you're going through. It may sound cringe but praying to god helped me during my tough times. 
 Talk to your parents and siblings if you're on good terms. If nothing helps talk to a psychologist. 
 I may get flack for saying this, but right now you have a much bigger problem to deal with, i.e. PIP. Start preparing for interviews during weekends and try to finish your office work diligently.  
  
 As for your relationship, no one here knows how serious you were about it. If both of you hadn't considered making it long term, I would say it's better to keep things the way they are right now. I had a pretty bad breakup few years back, but now when I look back, all I can do is laugh about the fact that,  I was head over heals for such a shitty person. 
  
 It's my suggestion and I might be completely wrong and being a d*ck here. You have to decide what's utmost important to you write now. 
  
 Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, then your work, and then someone else. Wish you all the best.

What’s something that you do that works to bounce back when hit with setbacks in life?

Boosting mental energy

Program Manager

These past 6 months my performance at work has been dwindling and one primary reason I attribute is memory loss. I find it difficult to recall key points of mails, design reviews, MoMs etc. and often end up missing out things at assigned tasks. What's scarier is that it not only applies to new concepts, I often find myself forgetting even formerly familiar things. During morning updates and discussions I find myself giving uncertain inputs and asking shaky questions because I find it hard to remember key terms, figures etc. I sometimes even forget to pick up some assigned tasks altogether. Random brain freezes have become everyday affair.
.
Sleep-wise it has been little medium-poor but not so bad that could explain such drastic changes. I'm 30 yr old, male, unmarried and don't have any major health issues (except some stress / anxiety and accompanying Irritable Bowel Syndrome condition).
.
If anyone else experienced this, how have you dealt with it?

Anyone else experiencing memory loss?

Yes everyone experiences this 
 I sometimes forget what I was working on 
 I forget things in short term 
 I don’t know if it’s some kind of coping mechanism 
 The only solution is to write stuff or journal not just personal but work stuff too. 
 I used to have Jira but now I have a piece of notebook with me too giving me the top priority tasks.

What has massively improved your mental health?

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